I lost my 2 closest friends recently because I've been busy with work and I've been trying to have a personal life on the side.
I'm 27 years old, working full-time. My job is physically demanding and leaves me exhausted after work. So after work I don't hangout with people.
I've been seeing this guy and we hangout on the only day that we can which are Sundays or Saturday if we can. We value out time together very much because it is so limited. Well for awhile I was working 2 jobs and couldn't meet up. At the time I was also seeing someone and that time I had canceled plans with friends because he made me feel bad that I wanted to go with my friends. (Which I have explained) yet was always remembered of oh you keep canceling on us.
Now I am told I spend a lot of time with my boyfriend (which I dont due to him working 6 days a week, living out of the city and working over 10 hours shift each days) at this point in my life this felt like a low blow coming from them. Considering they both have partners but it made me feel like I can't have a relationship. I'm a very introverted person.
Especially this year I've been putting focus on myself. They have been used to me being around all the time and maybe that's what makes them feel this way. I have pets at home to take care of as well, and house chores. I don't go out unless someone asks me to hangout and that's only if I'm not busy. We had plans to hangout and when I asked what time we are meeting I was met with we don't want to be your friend anymore.
To me it sounds like it was planned way before that day, and honestly I don't even know anymore how to feel. I feel so betrayed. I didn't mean to be so busy with life. Has anyone else experienced something like this? How did you handle it? Am I in the wrong ( I know to a certain extent I am and ill admit to it) I just need some opinion. I'm not sure how to move forward.
