My mum is saying if I marry out of my ethnicity with my boyfriend she will disown me and never be my mum again but if I marry within my ethnicity she will support me? It’s just weird because my mum and dad will both stop talking to me. I just don’t know what to do
Woooow. That's beyond "rude." That's just horribly racist. Just straight-up, unabashed, out-in-the-open racism.
Usually when someone's parents are that racist, they sorta already know their parents are that way. It's crazy that it came as a surprise! (although I talked to one other guy last week who had a similar experience.)So, yea. Way beyond rude. Just straight-ugly-racism. In a very pure, old-school form.
Sorry you're mom feel that way. I hope she comes around to seeing things differently (but I wouldn't count on it). 🙂
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Expressing her beliefs, even if you find this objectionable, is not rude. She has the right to make those decisions for herself. She is not required to change her beliefs to make you happy.
You have the right to reject that type of ultimatum and tell her that you will disown her unless she withdraws her ultimatum.
Or you could approach her and ask to discuss this like adults.
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That sucks that she making you choose between her and your future husband. She is very set in her ways. Hopefully someday she will see that she is wrong.
That is very rude. You should marry whoever you want.
That's unfortunate that she's like that, but go with your gut. At the end of the day it's your life.
Marry who you want not who they want you to marry.
Yes, they are trying to control you.
That's just shitty
It’s not weird.
Who are you trying to marry? And what are you
Not fair of her
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