When I'm planning a vacation for my boyfriend and me, do I need to extend an invitation to everyone?

[Anonymous]

I planned a small out of town trip for my boyfriend, me and our two children for their spring break; it's already planned and booked. My boyfriends tells his mom and his niece overhears and starts begging to come. I tell him that I don't think it's fair whenever I want to do anything with my own children and my partner, that I am made to feel I'm not being family oriented because I don't include everyone including his mom and sister, who don't have a companion. I've dealt with his sister for years inviting herself on what were to be actual dates between her brother and me being we rarely get to spend time due to work schedules, him not saying anything, imposing on already planned vacation ideas as if I'm not to experience anything with my own children for my own sentimental value and him taking the stance that I'm just selfish. It's to the point I basically can't do anything unless everyone else is included, but my nephew, who is also an only child as his niece is, isn't included. The conversation ended with him telling me that he's gonna plan a vacation for everyone to go, pay for it himself, and if I don't like it, I don't have to come.

[SueShe]

No, you don't send any invitations to anyone. What you can do is to let those that need to know that you will be away, just in case something happens.

If your boyfriend cannot understand that a family holiday does not include all the neighbors, acquaintances, extended family and the priest of your congregation as well as the street cleaners and hospital staff, then he is not the right person for you.

You are entitled to have quality time for yourself without the rest of your families.

If he wants to organize and pay something for all those mentioned above, then let him do it and make sure that you don't attend because that would be a recipe for disaster.

[Anonymous]

YOU planned a trip for your boyfriend, you, and your 2 kids. that's all i see mentioned when you planned it and it's already all booked. i don't see anything saying you wanted to invite anyone else. so they can fuck off :) do not let other people push their way in, please.

the other issue is your boyfriend not saying anything to his family to back off. that's concerning. he doesn't defend you or your relationship... very bad. his response to that about planning his own vacation and inviting everyone is quite immature...

[Guy13]

No as long as they pay their own way they are welcome to make reservation at the same hotel and during the same time period as you. Immediate Family and the others can figure it out on their own. They know where you are going to be…

[ChillaxingLove]

You don’t owe anybody anything. Spend time with your man. Tell them respectfully it’s only for your family. Don’t be a people pleaser love yourself

[Fireguy17]

Just let them know politely that not this trip, that you just cannot afford it.
Maybe sometime in the future.

[Iron_Man]

Call them

[In_Trance]

No you don't