I think friendship is a waste of time and overrated. Should I feel bad for thinking like this?

[sundance]

I think im an introvert and dont like social settings. I always prefer being alone and dont like people. Do you think it is wrong?

[misogynistic_pig]

There is nothing wrong with having that opinion about friendship, since each person has their own experiences and perceptions about interpersonal relationships.

However, it's important to remember that friendship can have many positive benefits, including providing emotional support, increasing happiness and self-esteem, and improving mental and physical health.

If you feel dissatisfied with your interpersonal relationships and feel that friendship is not valuable to you, you might explore other ways to connect with people, such as through common interests, group activities, or social events.

You may also consider talking with a therapist or other mental health professional to explore your feelings and find ways to improve your interpersonal relationships.

In short, you shouldn't feel bad about having a different opinion about friendship, but it's important to consider the potential benefits of having meaningful interpersonal relationships.

[Effably]

I do think you're wrong.

The reason is that friendship can take any way, shape or form you both agree to. It can be a simple understanding that you will help each other if doing so is not a significant burden. You can rewrite the rules so that it is only beneficial to you.

There will of course also be a few people, who I hope you find at some point, who rather than consume your energy help recharge it.

In essence though, friendship is good. It does not need to follow any norms and as such the core question really is just if there exists positive social interaction. And well, it does.

[CrimsonAngel09]

For me, I definitely don't think it is. I've known my best friends since 2004 and 2007, and still strong as ever; even through our worst. I'm even a Godmother to one of my best friend's son.

If that's your opinion, I respect it. Some people like me like a small group of two people, some like being Lone Wolves.

[midnightmoon05]

You do you. There is no right or wrong.
I like to reach out to people from time to time because I care about a few of my friends. To understand them and to listen to them. Sometimes it’s good to let them know…there are people out there who do care for them.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I don't care about friends either, but I still like people.

To me, you just sound bitter and turned off by people because of bad experiences. That's totally fine, but don't try to act like you're just an introvert who prefers solitude. I don't believe that

[TheBootyChest]

I will say I don't feel the same way you do about friendships. But it's not wrong if that is what you believe.

Do you ever enjoy talking to people in one on one situations with no outside interference? That way you aren't in public or group settings but still get to talk to other people or would you rather hide in your room and never be bothered?

[Justneedtokno]

It is a waste of time if it’s the wrong people.

If they don’t vibe with you, or have the same matching energy. Then you have a choice not to be around them.
Having people to talk to outside of yourself, and your inner thoughts is a good thing

[AdithyaR]

As an introvert and a psychology student. I don't truly believe introversion means a complete disinterest from friendships.
There might be an underlying issue cause that is a sign of a personality disorder. You should probably get the opinion of a proper psychologist.

[NYCQuestions1976]

I'm an introvert with extrovert tendencies. Or "people on MY terms". So I'm not quite in the "ew people" camp. I can't lie though. I was fortunate enough to be working throughout the pandemic shutdown because I was on an essential job, and my daily commute was majestic.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you're wrong. It's your prerogative to not want to have friends. Not everyone needs friends to be happy. Though I will say in certain circumstances, it's great to have someone you can turn to like when you're going through a breakup, having a friend to lean on really helps. Or when someone close to you dies, having a friend to go to does help.

[OddBeMe]

No, I think we all watch American Psycho and see how it relates. But “seeing how it relates” means you’re not a psycho. So keep your friends. Don’t feel that bad of you don’t respond to them. They all do it too. Friendship is like hotel renting, we all mean together until there’s something that works.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Seems like you'd be the first to die in a disaster unless that's your goal. I mostly think of introversion as a luxury for faggoty types of people. I might be wrong (not about the part though that they'd die first).

[Sasha0426]

Did you just use the derogatory term for gay? Was that necessary?

[OlderAndWiser]

"I think friendship is a waste of time and overrated." That may be how you feel and it may be true for you, but other people will have different experiences and different feelings about friends. You don' ned them to agree with you.

[Boomchakalaca]

Im an introvert and social setting nerve me but i always want to have lots of friends but its hard to make the first move. I think friendships are important but to each their own

[DancingQueen16]

Friendship is not a waste of time a friend is someone who can be there for you when you need a shoulder to cry on, when you need a good laugh or just someone to talk to if you have no one else to talk to

[Astarlessnightsky]

Friends and People are different.

As a fellow introvert, i am also drained super fast by gatherings of random people, however i do enjoy company of close friends.

[Genie23]

It's a waste of time only if you are friends with the wrong kind of people.

[tesniolite]

i don't think its wrong
feel however
just don't feel like you need to be somebody you're not

[AsaKyo]

No, because making friends in this day and age is extremely difficult unless you get really lucky

[brooke233]

It's not wrong. But if it lasts for long then it can give you anger issues and can lead to mental health problems. It's better to be around people once in a while in a week

[Friendlybro79]

Who cares want anyone things as long as you are happy? I'd say it's only bad if you're putting a manifesto together lol

[LiamJHayden]

You can only answer that for yourself. My friends are very important in my life, but you and I are different people.

[ColHathi]

Wrong or bad? No, but I'm surprised you think that way.

[Sasha0426]

Nope. Just don’t lead on people and make them think you’re friends.