s I have seen many questions asking about what you bring to the table in a romantic relationship, or what you look for in a significant other. But what do you have to "bring to the table" as a friend, and what characteristics do you look for in a good friend?
I'm that friend you can call up at 3 in the morning and not care if I was awaken. I let my friends vent to me, and assure them that they can tell me anything, and I will never judge them. I make sure to repeat what they tell me so they know for sure that I'm listening.
One problem though, a lot of people say they're the kind of friend like this, but unlike them, I actually am! Most people will say they let their friends come to them with any problem, they listen, and they don't criticize their decision making, but when the time comes, they do the opposite. I have seen more people lie about this than tell the truth, I live by "Actions speak louder".
I had a friend one night that called me up at midnight who didn't want to live anymore. She was going to overdose. She was a friend I had from foster care. Instead of telling her that suicide is selfish and that she was just trying to get attention, which a person should never say, I told her to tell me everything that was bothering her, and I ended up going to her house, and staying with her that night.
I gave her a reason to live by telling her when we were in foster care together, she was the only person I trusted, and after what we both been through together, I could not survive alone without her because she was the only person that understood me.
And that's what I'm saying. People will say they would drive to their friend's house after midnight if their friend had a crises, but in all reality, there are very very very few people that would ever do something like that. Actions speak for themselves. To be honest, I think the only reason I'm a decent friend is because I worry about other people's safety and well being before my own. I care nothing about myself, but at least it helps someone else.
Someone whom I can trust with the keys to my house and the location of my emergency money.
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I am a GEN-X guy... so I was raised in time and era before internet and defiantly long before social media.
So my best freind in high school was the best freind I ever had. But I joined the military and I left for 20 years, and we lost contact. Like in 20 years we, may have talked like maybe a dozen times at most.
I retired from the military, and returned to my home state and took a job. I walked in the office for the first and there he was... my best friend from highschool. I had no idea he worked there. We picked our friendship immediately, like we never missed a day. He is my very best freind, and he always has been.
I am Strick heterosexual... was just born that way. So, this a pure friendship.
We don't judge or criticize each other in a malious way EVER. We are always honest even when it something you don't want to hear but need to hear. And even when those things may hurt to hear, you know without a doubt it is coming from a place of love and respect.
So I know this is what I would like to find with a woman. but I do not expect to be the type of freind my best freind is, but she does not have to be... in order to have stronger emotional bond beyond what my best friends provides.
A true friend is somebody that has unconditional love you not only see it but you feel it there's no problem that can be unsolved without communication and when you look into each other's eyes and you can communicate without saying one word that is a deep connection in any type of friendship or romantic relationship there has to be a connection there is a trust there is a bond there is only working together as one and when you can smile and do that and there is no wrong or right there's nobody bigger than anybody else there's just working together and acknowledging each other
It's kind of like knowing somebody so well that when somebody asks a question you can answer for them and you would have the same answer it's the same thing with everything else you know their next move before they're going to make it and if you can help them with a helping hand with the helping word you're just there for them there's something very beautiful about that if there's a problem you fix it before it becomes a bigger problem and there's an understanding of it there's a loyalty about it the respect about it
That special friend would be your go to person if anything happened to, and would know just what to do. That person is so trustworthy with you, that you could give her or him the set of keys to your house and car and mailbox and take care of important things for you. This is like if you're in the hospital not dead🙂.
They would always have your back. It's great that a bestie is someone you don't fight with, but you can tell them it's ok if they get up in your business and want to listen to what's been going on with you lately.
There's more but my arm hurts.💚
My best friend since 2nd grade moved 800 miles away a couple of years ago. We really did not see each other as much as I wish we did while he was living near here (Well actually he lived about 60 miles from me). We always looked a out for each other. I had a really tough time for a few years trying to get through college had he really tried to include me is activities so I would not spend my whole life in the library. He got married way before I did and I helped him move. I drove the truck and he drove his old car while his wife drove to their new house in their new car. He was having a tough time with all this and as we went through the toll booth his old car stalled and he was about to lose it. I had to grab him and tell him it was all gonna work out ( I lied) but I was able to get him back in the car and helped him get it started and we made the trip. He moved during Covid and we did not even get to say goodbye.
When I and the other person can talk about EVEYTHING on earth and that means EVERYTHING. Able to talk about EVERYONE too. Without shame or restraint.
Able to talk on conspiracy theories without shame.
Able to question the world together.
Both of us having a good moral compass. Having values and morals. Not being easily offended like most Americans.
That makes a great friend
respect each other boundaries. No matter how close we are, everyone have their own boundaries. Know each other , friendship style will match and can vibes with each other. And most importantly, no backbiting or two faces, be truthful to each other.
Stability, no backbiting, having the understanding when to give someone space, having matching interests and respect for one another.
u I can listen without interrupting, and then respond without judgment.
Time, loyalty and a sense of okayness with each other.
doesn't talk behind my back , makes u feel safe and doesn't judge you for who are
Loyalty, good times and I am a good listener.
We can joke about anything and it won't get judged. Talk for hours about virtually any and everything. Be super quirky and weird together.
Being weird together, loving each other, going on misadventures, communication etc
Their ones by you when in trouble they ones beside you.
Someone who is honest that won’t switch up on you that says they want to be friends but ends up being completely opposite of a friend little bit later
Doing everything together 😊
People who inspire and motivate me.
Laugh... laugh... laugh... laugh... laugh
loyalty trust
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