This may be a little long and I’ll try to add a TLDR.
I’ve known this man for 7 years now. We used to talk EVERY day, a good amount of the day, until a little over a year ago. Not much changed, but then 9 months ago, he left a job and didn’t talk to me for 4 months, even though the reason he left wasn’t good, I helped him with his resume (that landed his new job) and genuinely wanted to check in on him. But, nothing.
After he started his new job, he became understandably busy. Like, I get it. I’m not as busy, but I also don’t ignore people I care about for days on end and then not explain or apologize depending on the situation.
A month ago, I pointed out how I was upset that he wouldn’t keep his word. How he would cancel plans on me last minute but not apologize until I pointed out what he was doing. He said he would improve. He said he would pick a day during the week to talk like we used to, but he’s not done any of that.
I have repeatedly told him that he doesn’t have time for me and he fights with me that he does and that he doesn’t want me to be out of his life. I’m not into fair weather friends. I haven’t been unpredictable, in fact, I have been very straight forward and brought ideas on how to make this work for both parties. He agrees and then, drops off the face of the earth.
I know what his home life is like and not much has changed besides his job. I just don’t understand why he won’t admit there’s no time and just cut ties. I have friends I talk to every once in awhile but he isn’t one of them. If he just said, “this isn’t working, I can’t talk to you at all, but I’ll reach out when I can,” but he won’t. Or if he would actually answer his phone but he absolutely never calls me back.
Why keep a friend around that you don’t want to make time for at all when they reach out?
Tldr: close friend of 7 years is too busy for our friendship and won’t try to make things better, and won’t keep his word.
I’ve known this man for 7 years now. We used to talk EVERY day, a good amount of the day, until a little over a year ago. Not much changed, but then 9 months ago, he left a job and didn’t talk to me for 4 months, even though the reason he left wasn’t good, I helped him with his resume (that landed his new job) and genuinely wanted to check in on him. But, nothing.
After he started his new job, he became understandably busy. Like, I get it. I’m not as busy, but I also don’t ignore people I care about for days on end and then not explain or apologize depending on the situation.
A month ago, I pointed out how I was upset that he wouldn’t keep his word. How he would cancel plans on me last minute but not apologize until I pointed out what he was doing. He said he would improve. He said he would pick a day during the week to talk like we used to, but he’s not done any of that.
I have repeatedly told him that he doesn’t have time for me and he fights with me that he does and that he doesn’t want me to be out of his life. I’m not into fair weather friends. I haven’t been unpredictable, in fact, I have been very straight forward and brought ideas on how to make this work for both parties. He agrees and then, drops off the face of the earth.
I know what his home life is like and not much has changed besides his job. I just don’t understand why he won’t admit there’s no time and just cut ties. I have friends I talk to every once in awhile but he isn’t one of them. If he just said, “this isn’t working, I can’t talk to you at all, but I’ll reach out when I can,” but he won’t. Or if he would actually answer his phone but he absolutely never calls me back.
Why keep a friend around that you don’t want to make time for at all when they reach out?
Tldr: close friend of 7 years is too busy for our friendship and won’t try to make things better, and won’t keep his word.
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Well he won't end it cause he wants both but can't
Most guys are like that and most ldr turn into no time for you but I want you!
Be strong girl power cut your toes with him and you will be so much happier!
I swear, every time I try to cut ties on my own, he always, always come back begging (not so much as begging) me not to walk away. He had no time to have lunch for weeks and when I was ready to walk away, he all of the sudden was able to make it work and have lunch. I’m tired of this wishy washy stuff.
Well then slowly ghost him or don't have time!
So sick of it when they play games with our hearts!
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