Next week im attending a high school reunion and knowing that most of my former classmates are now professionals with husband and families and with steady jobs I know and part of those reuniones are to catch up with each other and know what the other one is doing now or if you are married or have kids and what do you do for a living. In my case I dont know what to say in order not to sound im a failure. I know is noone business but after so many years of not seeing each other it is obvious the classmates would like to know what are you doing now, if u are married, single kids or not kids, etc it be the common questions to be asked.
In my case let say I was fired from my last job on Nov 2019 (but of course these classmates do not know that, I could even tell a little fiblet and say i was fired just 1 year ago) so thenit became the pandemic and to find a job was very difficult for about 2 years for everyone. Last year things were alreayd back to normal in many places but still I have no job so im staying at home taking care of my elder mom (she is 85 but my mom still is independent, she takes elderly courses outside home, and she thank God is still a bit sane) but as older as she becoems the more cautious for me as a child to watch over her, health wise too so the more im at home lets say the better. I of course can look for a job sure, but at my age jobs are more difficult to find as where I live, many companies just like to hire now young people. Also Imnot married and I dont have kids but that is my decision, I dont like to be tight down as I have more liberty for my own time, for instance I jsut took 3 weeks trip Europe trip with soem cousins a month ago.
Back to the issue what to answer if i beign asked by classmates I had not seen in years beause I know I be asked "What are you doing now for a living, are u married, kids? SO i need to have a good answer or at least a convincing one.
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Your married with kids classmates will probably secretly be jealous of you being able to go off on vacations whenever you want. They will also assume that you have an idealized relationship with your mom. They will assume that she loves you and lets you live a carefree life for free while living with her. Just provide the fewest details possible, and allow your classmates to fill in the blanks in a way that makes them feel insecure. It's funny how people idealize other people's lives when they have very little information about them. Just focus on showing an interest in them, and validating their own situation in life, and then they'll be fascinated by whatever lifestyle you're living.
But I have to say something I won't tell them "No i dont discuss my life " that be rude from my part
So talk to them mainly about your travels
Just be you. Don’t lie to people to impress them. Lying never ends well and it makes it worse when you get found out.
You don’t have to share more with people then you feel comfortable with sharing. Just talk. Be yourself.
But I have to say something I won't tell them "No i dont discuss my life " that be rude from my part
You don’t have to say it like that. You can change the subject or not answer.
You are in the situation you are in because you have a loser mentality. You make excuses for not having a job for years and you care what people from your high school think.
You are mean i just want to know becauase Im 100% i be asked those questions and if i tell them I dotn discuss my life it it be impolite and rude and Im not a impolite person