I lost my job late last year and it was SO fucking embarrassing as is because I attached so much identity to my work. I was unemployed and it was so stressful. My family and acquaintances kept asking me about the search and told like everyone I was out of work for a while, which isn’t even that long. Anyway I started a business and I’m doing better and want to leave this stuff in the past.
My sister especially criticized things I do and keeps telling me to move back to my hometown where they’re at but I really would never want to. And whenever I want to push myself to achieve so much more she asks me what I’m even trying to do and how I won’t get those things. PS I did achieve everything I set my mind to.
I don’t look forward to the holidays around them and dread it. Their energy is so draining and I’m always put on the spot.
How do I handle people in my life who put me on the spot and put a microscope over my failures and setbacks and talk about me with others?
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Don't care. Honestly. They're always going to do it. Whether it affects you or not is on you.
if you can help it, stop telling people about your personal life. they have no business knowing and no business going around telling others what happened.
please do yourself a favor and cut these people out of your life. keep communication at the bare minimum if it is impossible to kick them out of your life. do NOT talk about anything personal. surface level only. you have to protect yourself.
around the holidays, try to direct the conversation elsewhere as soon as they start getting too personal. do not be afraid to walk away.
You do the same thing to them.