What is going on? Why is he treating me this way?

[Anonymous]

My boss at work treats me much differently than the other people who work for him. He snaps at me and makes ill-mannered comments especially when he's tired or stressed. He never apologizes when he snaps at me or is weeks late getting back to me about something really important. He also frequently vents AT me. I'm used to people venting TO me when they're worried or stressed about something, and I know he has frequently seen coworkers and others vent to me or discuss with me problems/difficulties in their lives. He puts on fake airs and jokes around with others, so they think he is carefree and feeling good... but with me he doesn't try to hide how he is feeling about things. I am so confused and don't know why he is treating me this way. I am also so worried because he basically controls the rest of my career. I don't know what to do. I came to trust him, and the fact that he is doing all these things is near impossible for me to handle anymore, but I have to continue working there at least for now. He is much older than me... I used to look up to me and have much respect for him before all this started. What can I do? Please help.

[Anonymous]

I know that feeling, however in my case has been with a co-worker instead of a boss.

Nevertheless, both have the same solution: take courage and tell him how you feel.

Things change, he might have been a cool guy in the past, buy now he is a total idiot in the present, and he seems only cool with the others except you.

Don't be afraid of him, tell him what you feel and think in a polite way, and if he doesn't take it well, then that will prove your point.

If he wants to make you more miserable or fires you, then you can see his supervisor and explain the situation.

If he is the maximum supervisor, then you don't have to continue putting in his terrible behavior . I know you need the job, but you as a person are more important. If you cannot fix the issue with him, then prepare discretly a CV and once you get a job offer and a new job you can leave, it is better to leave the job before something worse happens.

The most important thing is don't let him control or walk over you.

[TheSheldor96]

he might find that your work is inadequete? Or he dislike you or some element o you?

Orhe might be christian grey in disguise and thereforre is so angry (although christian grey isn't really angry)? I kid, I kid :p

maybe you should talk to him. Tell him how you feel and yea.