Sister and mom never want to give me my money on time what do I do?

[Anonymous]

my sister is cheap as hell. this month i decided to make things easier for them and i paid all the bills by myself they were saying how they don’t agree so we decided they were going to give me 80 each. mind you i paid 2k in house bills. now its the second of the month and they still haven’t gave me the money back and it’s always like this. i’ll have to ask them every single day my sister will pretend to forget to send me while spending money openly in front of me and my mom who’s super messy with money starts giving me a lecture about how she is going to give me the money and tomorrow for me to wait she’s gone to get me the money. i decided to pay the bills upfront bc they are always late with it and dragging and trying to pay little by little instead of the actual entire bill which annoys me. so what do i do this month?

[DoggyDude]

Let them pay. Unless you feel very well disposed toward them all such that your happy to carry them, just pay your personal bills and let them deal with theirs.

If you are all communally sharing the place, hence your all equally responsible, pay exactly your share only and no more. Preferably if you can direct to the person who will take it off the overall bill.

It's important not to let people get away with such things.

That said, sometimes when we try to help disorganised people we aren't really helping them and infact making it worse for them; So don't expect to be aprechiated either way, because your favour might be their annoyance.

Good luck.

[Asker]

thank you so much for that. reading your words really was the boost i needed. thank you

[DoggyDude]

:) your most welcome, hope they come to understand properly your past sacrifices for them and not just get caught up in their current personal woes (and start treating you properly as an equal).

[Anonymous]

Move out
Leave them to the bills
If they end up homeless, hey they fucked around and derserve to findnout

[AngelLily]

They need to learn that they can’t Leach off of you. Pay whatever bills that only helps you live comfortably. Anything else they have to pay for themselves.

[laly520]

u gotta move out