I minimize rejection by being extremely selective in approaching, and taking months to discover who the person is. It's a slow method, but I would rather have quality, than quantity of, women in my life.
Honestly I’ve been rejected by more guys than number of guys I’ve rejected. And this coming form a beautiful virgin girl. I just get over it and if there’s something I leaned is never to chase a man but men love the chase. As soon as you show them you feel the same way they run...
And it says a lot about her attitude or just current bad mood. That can also be the case. Still she should be nice to you, like one did. She told me she need a break from her last relationship, whatever that means.
So what about if I do t get any indications from women to approach or I’m oblivious at picking up the signs. Ok so I’ll admit I’m not the most confident person and the only time I have known some girls were interested in me was two years ago when I was at a mall and my friend was going dude all these girls are checking you out. When I’m out by myself I don’t pick anything up
Then you still have to be the one to make the move and don't sweat it if they say no. As one of his other points says, it's a numbers game. You play often, you will win eventually.
Like the main reason I don’t approach is I don’t want to play the humiliation game if you can’t read flirting then you have to try to decipher if they were just being nice or not I have had it so much easier say dismissing everything women do as just being nice or friendly because that’s all it is and if you take it any further then what it truly is your seen as creepy
Then stop limiting yourself to only asking out women who you think are giving signs. You literally know you can't do that.
Instead, ask the girls YOU LIKE out. And don't give a shit if they were signalling or not. If they were signalling and you didn't see it, they will still say yes. And if they weren't and aren't interested they will say no.
It's not a big deal. We all have to do it. You're only seen as creepy if you are actually a creep.
@Belgie It feels tricky like talking to women in public where you're not at a bar. If you don't go out as much as you used to, it feels hard to meet women. I see talk to women or play the numbers game. Well how do you do that without possibly seen as a creep? I'm not and women don't see me that way, but I feel it's a mixed bag with how women feeling with a dude just walking up to them if they are sitting at a table at the mall. I'm pretty good at reading signs, but women can be pretty discrete. And I don't think women expect to be approached in public like mall, park, whatever, compared to a bar or such places where people go out to socialize and meet. For example, women don't like guy's approaching them at the gym. I think a guy can do it in a way where he simply asks a question about something or her opinion so it's a casual conversation like she's just anybody and not a come on. A girl wasn't interested but was nice and talked to me a bit at a barnes and noble store before. If a man is going to play the numbers game though it seems like approaching women out at a store, park, whatever has to be part of the way because there's only so many women a guy can meet in learning classes, volunteering, sports leagues etc.
Rejection ah I've known it most of my life, I must as well dump acid on my face or just become a druggie cause either I'm ugly or stale as fuck with conversations, dating in society today is what I call hot garbage.
Don't wait for anybody and continue the "hunt" for a girlfriend. Or simply join MGTOW and enjoy being single, "the beautiful one" and making more money than you want to expend. Victory will be yours!
@Unit1 I was not able to date a #local (any race) woman here in #Germany. The only one that I was able to date was a single-mom being used for her #sex (#African lady). I could not continue with her because she is a strong believer in some Christian-like religion and I must be converted then. That was my go to leave her, in a healthy (read: diplomatic) way. Not that she had been unkind or so (she was always kind to me) or being curvy (to some extend I don't mind). No, simply because I didn't want to be converted. That is breaking my boundaries which is legit to ask for.
I’m pretty sure I had this one I worked with a girl that’s the only reason I started talking to her and we got close anyways she ended up rejecting me even going so far as to tell me that I look better then the guy she really had a crush on. I held on too long cause it really started to get humuliating cause she would tell me her sexual fantasies for him.
I saw a girl who I stopped talking to that I used to work with. When we worked together I developed a crush on her and always found reasons to be near her practically everyone in the store knew I liked her. So one day I put my nerves aside and told her how I felt which she replied she didn’t have feelings like that for me that I reminded her too much of her best friend cause he was also biracial. So I just hung my head and tried to avoid her well she ended up going to everyone in the store asking why I was avoiding her and what she did wrong. Eventually we started talking again and she ended up coming over to my house she told me twice that she felt it was meant for her to be in my life. In that moment my heart felt love I kinda wish that she wouldn’t have said that cause that allowed me to let my love for her completely out. But days later she gave me a ride home and told me she wouldn’t date me if I was the last guy on earth. She actually wanted me to give her contact information to another guy we work with and she told me all the things sexually she wanted to do with him. I was extremely hurt and honestly I still haven’t let it go because it’s one of those traumatic events each time I tried to escape she would reel me back in. After she rejected me for the second time I started avoiding her and not talking to her and she goes I’m not gonna leave you alone until you talk to me. So I talked to her and she told all the managers I was harassing her then she proceeded to turn everyone at work against me.
@warrior0345 Well, the only thing to do is to NOT talk to her anymore. Do your work and ignore this girl. Smart people will either see her for what she is or you'll get another job and live a better life.
" She actually wanted me to give her contact information to another guy we work with and she told me all the things sexually she wanted to do with him. "
That was a rude and inconsiderate thing to do, but you don't have trauma from this. lol. It's just a girl being an ass, like most of them.
I don't deal with this bullshit. If women refuse to approach me (or pay for their own food), then I refuse to approach them. I only deal with adults who are willing to invest as much as I do.
I'm getting a kick out of the women downvoting these comments. Such entitled and hypocritical babies. They bitch about old social constructs such as slut shaming and the traditional stay-at-home housewife, but have no qualms whatsoever about constructs that are unfair to men. Progressivism for me and not for thee. When it comes to women, it is ALWAYS about them and never about actual fairness.
@frostwalrus We don't have to be interested in someone just because they're interested in us. Is that not acting "entitled"? You might want to rephrase that!
@Crimson811 You're entitled if you expect men to approach to you. If men all the sudden collectively decided they're gonna approach as little as women do, women would get pissed.
@frostwalrus Exactly. I have nothing against women and they are free to do what they want, but I'm going to call out a bullshit double standard whenever I see it.
I want a woman that give as much as she takes, and thinks the ideal date should cost nothing but time.
The gold diggers are free to downvote me as much as they want. My words are measured and I stand by them 100%.
That is because of social connections, she is maybe known to the local and is shy to speak up and say: "Screw you all, I'm dating who I love to date! So kiss my ass!".
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I minimize rejection by being extremely selective in approaching, and taking months to discover who the person is. It's a slow method, but I would rather have quality, than quantity of, women in my life.
Bro, this is exactly how I do it myself. I really take my time to see who I'm working with.
Honestly I’ve been rejected by more guys than number of guys I’ve rejected. And this coming form a beautiful virgin girl. I just get over it and if there’s something I leaned is never to chase a man but men love the chase. As soon as you show them you feel the same way they run...
I won't chase any woman. Why that? It makes me look dump, like she is the only girl I can date.
something doesn't add up here... lol
You've obviously met the worst of the gender.
Not all men "Love the chase".
It's the worst when you get rejected rudely, it makes you feel like you're worthless.
And it says a lot about her attitude or just current bad mood. That can also be the case. Still she should be nice to you, like one did. She told me she need a break from her last relationship, whatever that means.
So what about if I do t get any indications from women to approach or I’m oblivious at picking up the signs. Ok so I’ll admit I’m not the most confident person and the only time I have known some girls were interested in me was two years ago when I was at a mall and my friend was going dude all these girls are checking you out. When I’m out by myself I don’t pick anything up
Then you still have to be the one to make the move and don't sweat it if they say no. As one of his other points says, it's a numbers game. You play often, you will win eventually.
I literally can’t pick up flirting signs
Like the main reason I don’t approach is I don’t want to play the humiliation game if you can’t read flirting then you have to try to decipher if they were just being nice or not I have had it so much easier say dismissing everything women do as just being nice or friendly because that’s all it is and if you take it any further then what it truly is your seen as creepy
Then stop limiting yourself to only asking out women who you think are giving signs. You literally know you can't do that.
Instead, ask the girls YOU LIKE out. And don't give a shit if they were signalling or not. If they were signalling and you didn't see it, they will still say yes. And if they weren't and aren't interested they will say no.
It's not a big deal. We all have to do it. You're only seen as creepy if you are actually a creep.
@Belgie It feels tricky like talking to women in public where you're not at a bar. If you don't go out as much as you used to, it feels hard to meet women. I see talk to women or play the numbers game. Well how do you do that without possibly seen as a creep? I'm not and women don't see me that way, but I feel it's a mixed bag with how women feeling with a dude just walking up to them if they are sitting at a table at the mall. I'm pretty good at reading signs, but women can be pretty discrete. And I don't think women expect to be approached in public like mall, park, whatever, compared to a bar or such places where people go out to socialize and meet. For example, women don't like guy's approaching them at the gym. I think a guy can do it in a way where he simply asks a question about something or her opinion so it's a casual conversation like she's just anybody and not a come on. A girl wasn't interested but was nice and talked to me a bit at a barnes and noble store before. If a man is going to play the numbers game though it seems like approaching women out at a store, park, whatever has to be part of the way because there's only so many women a guy can meet in learning classes, volunteering, sports leagues etc.
Great take! I agree with these points, but putting it into practice is extremely difficult. Especially when faced with a trashy past...
I've found that girls that are interested will let it be obvious. If she isn't obvious, she doesn't like you.
Rejection ah I've known it most of my life, I must as well dump acid on my face or just become a druggie cause either I'm ugly or stale as fuck with conversations, dating in society today is what I call hot garbage.
Never happens.
Pretty solid stuff right here.
Don't wait for anybody and continue the "hunt" for a girlfriend. Or simply join MGTOW and enjoy being single, "the beautiful one" and making more money than you want to expend.
Victory will be yours!
Why would I want to be single?
@AJC997 it's your call, really. But when there are no relationship materials to be found, then you have little choice anyway.
@Unit1 I was not able to date a #local (any race) woman here in #Germany. The only one that I was able to date was a single-mom being used for her #sex (#African lady). I could not continue with her because she is a strong believer in some Christian-like religion and I must be converted then. That was my go to leave her, in a healthy (read: diplomatic) way. Not that she had been unkind or so (she was always kind to me) or being curvy (to some extend I don't mind). No, simply because I didn't want to be converted. That is breaking my boundaries which is legit to ask for.
So now I'm with an other African lady.
@roland77 Good luck with her now. I know dating is too difficult but it is what it is.
@Unit1 Thank you. :-)
Number 3 is dangerous.
Sometimes, it's NOTHING a person did wrong. The other person is JUST. NOT. INTERESTED.
All other stuff is good.
I’m pretty sure I had this one I worked with a girl that’s the only reason I started talking to her and we got close anyways she ended up rejecting me even going so far as to tell me that I look better then the guy she really had a crush on. I held on too long cause it really started to get humuliating cause she would tell me her sexual fantasies for him.
@warrior0345 I feel you there. Best thing to do is cut that off. Either let her know or cut leave her alone.
If you don’t mind can I get your opinion on the entire story cause she did a lot more?
@warrior0345 Go ahead.
I saw a girl who I stopped talking to that I used to work with. When we worked together I developed a crush on her and always found reasons to be near her practically everyone in the store knew I liked her. So one day I put my nerves aside and told her how I felt which she replied she didn’t have feelings like that for me that I reminded her too much of her best friend cause he was also biracial. So I just hung my head and tried to avoid her well she ended up going to everyone in the store asking why I was avoiding her and what she did wrong. Eventually we started talking again and she ended up coming over to my house she told me twice that she felt it was meant for her to be in my life. In that moment my heart felt love I kinda wish that she wouldn’t have said that cause that allowed me to let my love for her completely out. But days later she gave me a ride home and told me she wouldn’t date me if I was the last guy on earth. She actually wanted me to give her contact information to another guy we work with and she told me all the things sexually she wanted to do with him. I was extremely hurt and honestly I still haven’t let it go because it’s one of those traumatic events each time I tried to escape she would reel me back in. After she rejected me for the second time I started avoiding her and not talking to her and she goes I’m not gonna leave you alone until you talk to me. So I talked to her and she told all the managers I was harassing her then she proceeded to turn everyone at work against me.
@warrior0345 Well, the only thing to do is to NOT talk to her anymore. Do your work and ignore this girl.
Smart people will either see her for what she is or you'll get another job and live a better life.
" She actually wanted me to give her contact information to another guy we work with and she told me all the things sexually she wanted to do with him. "
That was a rude and inconsiderate thing to do, but you don't have trauma from this. lol. It's just a girl being an ass, like most of them.
She even made it a point to tell me how much better looking I was then him which was confusing the hell out of me
Like I said, forget her and move on. There are other girls who aren't acting like assholes
I don't deal with this bullshit. If women refuse to approach me (or pay for their own food), then I refuse to approach them. I only deal with adults who are willing to invest as much as I do.
I'm getting a kick out of the women downvoting these comments. Such entitled and hypocritical babies. They bitch about old social constructs such as slut shaming and the traditional stay-at-home housewife, but have no qualms whatsoever about constructs that are unfair to men. Progressivism for me and not for thee. When it comes to women, it is ALWAYS about them and never about actual fairness.
@frostwalrus We don't have to be interested in someone just because they're interested in us. Is that not acting "entitled"? You might want to rephrase that!
@Crimson811 You're entitled if you expect men to approach to you. If men all the sudden collectively decided they're gonna approach as little as women do, women would get pissed.
@frostwalrus Exactly. I have nothing against women and they are free to do what they want, but I'm going to call out a bullshit double standard whenever I see it.
I want a woman that give as much as she takes, and thinks the ideal date should cost nothing but time.
The gold diggers are free to downvote me as much as they want. My words are measured and I stand by them 100%.
Some women get nervous when you ask them out with other people around her.
That is because of social connections, she is maybe known to the local and is shy to speak up and say: "Screw you all, I'm dating who I love to date! So kiss my ass!".
@roland77
Apparently.
Rejection stings. But its like most things in life - you have to ask for what you want.
Wow am i reading a gag take with common sense and logic from a man on this app? The simulation is glitching 😮 im scared. whats going on?
You don't dream. Men are not all cowards or jerks.
I don't worry about minimizing rejection. I just cast a wide net and see what I catch. Most get missed, some I throw back, but a few are mighty tasty.
I just move on. I don't attached someone before relationship. There are a lot of hot girls out there. If one rejects i move on to the next one.
be good about it and find someone else just because one rejects you doesn't mean everyone will
Good mytake. Always something to be learned from rejection.
Or sometimes a woman is not attracted to you, So you just have to move on!
Sure, chemistry is important for me and if it's not present, can't work.