Prolonged Eye Contact... Is it always a sign of interest?

[Wolfie2014]

I saw this girl today who dumped me and put me in friendzone. I walked away from her, after expressing that i had no interest in just friendship with her, but left the door for her to contact me if she ever changed her mind. It's been 3 weeks since then without contact, and today, when i saw her at work, she kept eye contact with me when she said good bye and walked past me. She didn't break it until it was physically impossible to keep it. It was blatant, and prolonged. Now i'm still learning the art of attraction and seduction, but from what i read and learned so far, is that prolonged eye contact is usually a sign of attraction/interest. And this was done so blatantly that it was almost like she was trying to catch my attention. And i swear i saw her smile too, though that part i'm not sure of.

Of course, I played it cool and acted like it meant nothing. After all, SHE dumped ME. If she wanted me back, she has to work for it.

But i'm still curious about all of this. It's a learning curve that will help me out in future encounters with the women I meet and end up dating.

So my question is this... Is prolonged eye contact with the opposite sex ALWAYS a sign of interest? Especially when it is as blatant and purposeful as what I experienced today?

[Anonymous]

In general, I don't believe that's always true. Sometimes I space out on people that doesn't mean I like them.
In this situation, in sounds like it. And you're right if she wants you back she should work for it. So play it cool.

[Wolfie2014]

I space out on people too, but the eyes are drawn to what they're attracted to... even subconsciously. When i space out, i usually catch myself "looking" at someone, or something, i find attractive haha, so i speak from experience there. Though i believ there have been some studies into this...

But as i said, today was blatant. She wasn't "staring into space". This was direct, and purposeful.

[Opinion Owner]

True, I still find myself spacing out on people I don't find remotely attractive. I try not to though it's pretty rude.
As for this girl, it seems like she's trying to reel you back in.

[Yeatts]

Yeah pretty much. It's a way to get your attention. Or she could have been looking to see if you were looking.

[Wolfie2014]

At the range we walked past each other, i doubt it was because she wanted to see if i was looking... We past by each other REALLY closely. She is also MUCH shorter than me, so she actually has to lift her head to look into my eyes, which she did, and held until she past.

[Yeatts]

Then she is trying to reel you back in.

[Wolfie2014]

Hah! I guess only time will tell... But i won't be letting her have me so easy this time. I'll just sit quietly, watch and wait until she reaches out to me.

[DocT1977]

Keep short, but direct eye contact. Do it for too long, It will creep the girl out.

[Wolfie2014]

I never look away first... I will make it a staring contest if i have to, but i won't look away until she does. No matter how long it takes.

[DocT1977]

That's a pretty decent rule of thumb. Short, but direct eye contact will add mystery. It says to them, Interested? Or not? It's kind of a game some like to play.

[Wolfie2014]

it does, but looking away first usually shows submissiveness, which for men, is also a form of weakness or lack of confidence. Real men don't submit, full stop. Ever talked to a confident man? Notice how he keeps eye contact when he talks to you, and thought "wow"? Ever talked to a not-so-confident dude? Notice how he breaks eye contact before you do? The latter is more submissive and the former, is more intimidating and you're left wandering "who the fuck was that guy?"

[DocT1977]

Could be. I would say confidence is more in how you carry yourself. Confidence is in giving direct answers and direct eye contact is a must when carrying on a conversation. That way it doesn't seem like you are putting any effort into it as it is your personality that carries you. But for passing glances, Keep those short. But during conversations, Keep direct eye contact. It shows that you don't shy away and that you are not intimidated by them in any way.

[Wolfie2014]

Oh yea, if someone glances at you and breaks it right away, then ye, short and direct is fine... But i always remember a moment i had in spain... this chick and i walked past each other. We made eye contact and kept it until we past that physical limit to keep it. It was the most amazing thing i'd experienced, and not a word was exchanged between us. Of course, i won't continue if a person breaks eye contact and looks away, but as long as they are keeping it, i will too UNTIL they do.

[DocT1977]

Yeah, I did love the thrill of the chase. One step forward, Two steps back. lol Women love a mystery. lol

[Wolfie2014]

I'd like to rephrase that... two steps forward, one step back... haha You wanna always keep moving forwards, not backwards :P

[boatfullofpeace]

Not always.