For me, it was because of the time, effort, energy and emotions I've invested, and she throws them away like it meant nothing. It also depends on the way we were rejected. If she was mature enough to actually talk it out and explain things properly that it is her who doesn't want it and not some fault of mine, or maybe that a few qualities in us aren't compatible, it may be okay, but in a case like mine, where for a small fight she breaks up via text and blocks you everywhere, then it's hard not to feel wronged.
1) Pain often translates into anger, and everyone feels hurt when they're rejected by someone that they like.
2) To compound the matter, men think that things are going well and are encouraged when we don't outright reject them at the same time that we're trying to politely dissuade them by not responding to their overtures, so our rejection seemingly comes out of nowhere.
Also, women aren't rejected as often as men are, so our response is different from theirs. First we're shocked and wonder what's wrong with them or us, then we're hurt, and finally we're angry. They're hurt, then frustrated (because every time they like a woman, she doesn't return the sentiment... and they're going to be alone forever because nobody wants them) and angry (because, man, screw all of them and all of that noise).
Well, I'm not mean to any girl if they reject me bluntly.
Now I do have a problem with girls that act as if they aren't rejecting us but they really are. For example, there was this girl that I gave my number to a month ago, haven't received a text message since. Now, it's not that she hasn't texted me that is the problem. The problem is that her reaction seemed positive and bubbly to that. This is what I call a passive aggressive rejection. If you do this (reject a dude and beat around the bush because you just can't tell him straight up no,) then I will act bitter and will be very angry.
It's not really a boy or girl question. It's just that men get rejected more because we are the ones who are brave enough to ask girls out. Many girls are kinda lacking in the courage department. Girls probably are not as good in handling rejection, because they rarely get rejected cos they rarely ask guys out.
I don't condone violent behaviour from people who get rejected. The best thing to do is to cut all connections from the person that rejected you and just move on. No need to be rude or mean to the person.
In my opinion it's because when you reject am man he feels bad about himself it hurts his feelings like he wasn't good enough for you so then he tried to make you feel bad as well so you can feel what he felt when you rejected him. It doesn't make it OK, but It's just human nature a lot of people react this way. It often stems from low self-esteem. The be thing to do is just ignore it and he will move on. Sometimes it may help to just try to talk to them. maybe say something like "I understand I may have made you feel bad by turning you down/rejecting you, and I didn't mean to hurt you, you are a great person you just aren't my type in that way; but I would like to be friends if that is possible." sometimes people just want someone to understand. :)
I would say to decrease the rate of problems the way to tell us man (and girls aswell) compliments while turning us down, since this maybe help to compense the pain (maybe the brain thinks then well she dosnt want me but at least she knows that I am not a total failure...)
From the way you ask the question it seems like you get an ego boost by all of the compliments and attention those guys have been giving you. No one is going to lose their dignity if a girl rejects them; therefore, all of the attention they used to give you is now gone and they are moving on you just translate it as if they are hating on you.
One thing to consider too, a lot of times girls and even guys send mixed signals to hook up people or to have options and when they make a choice those people who were given attention and lose it they start being confused and then if they confess to the other sides (after those sides get a date) the answer will be like "oh you just confused between me being nice and interested"
Some guys actually do end up hating the girl because I've seen it happen. However, he only said he hated her because she leads many people on and lives to surround herself with many guys by flirting. Then when he told her, he got put down, nicely but he still got put down and that's when he started hating her. He out and out said he hated her to and stopped hanging around with her unless he ultimately had to because she was sitting with his friends.
@Tay_tay101 I don't think the word choice he is using is correct! It takes so many stabs to make one's heart full of hate especially if it's someone that you have cared of before. I guess it's more of anger than it is hate but the way he expressed is coming out of immaturity and lack of social skills because you don't usually confess negative feelings to others. It is a reaction of him being as you said put down. He will get over it and man the fuck up and realize that sometimes someone may or may not like you back.
A mix of self reflection, ego, and sexual frustration. Men have been conditioned in society to equate self worth with a few key things; having a woman, having a career, and growing into the normal (since the beginning of time) role of leader/ hunter. So when a guy gets rejected, the instantaneous thought is "am i not good enough to have a girlfriend or a sexual partner... am i not a man... am i not worth it?" , you mix that with sexual frustration which the majority of men have, and you have someone whose feeling desperate to get laid as well as moody from lack of sex and less confidant so then they get rejected and that turns into a personal blow in their mind like a big "youre not good enough".
I would imagine if they like you a lot, are complimenting you and spending a lot of time together. the impression that the feeling is mutual is kind of being put across. for them to then be rejected it would feel like wasted time, that youve been leading them on. feelings may have developed more due to all things i stated above, so it would have hurt more
Because they're hurt and can't handle rejection, so instead of handling it like a mature person, they take it out on whoever rejected them. A mature person would just say ok, that's fine, and move on. Maybe feel down for a while, but not blame those feelings on anyone. Someone with a fragile ego would not want to process those feelings, so they try to numb themselves by putting the blame on the person who rejected them (even though there's no blame to put on anyone) and try to hide their sadness with anger and bitterness.
This isn't unique to men AT ALL. Rejection hurts, it sux. Guys put themselves out there way more and often if in the same friend group they can't escape you so they just want to make clear, message received.
Reason varies from butt hurt to he was simply chasing tail and now that you're a no go he can't have you hanging around. Onto the next mission.
The question was s why do you care? Work on being a kind considerate person when saying no thanks and then totally expect full departure of coldness so as not to confuse things. They may warm up in time if you were true friends before.
Yes, it is unique to men. Every time a girl rejects a guy, she gets a boost to her ego. Every time a guy is rejected by a girl, he takes a blow to his ego. Girls very rarely get rejected, because the society expects them to pick and choose. You can literally just wait and have guys offer themselves to you. Countless girls on this site ask about guys they like but are not interested in them, and what to do about it. It shows how out of place they feel when they don't automatically get attention from men.
@krtek What I was saying is whe a guy rejects a girl sometimes she does a 180 and goes into bitch mode if hiding from him isn't an option. Icy bitch like ignoring him usually. Or flirting in front of him or covert sabatoge.
Women can be so diabolical. I was raised to be competitive against myself and do my personal best. Probably why I wasn't the best at soccer but I excel in things like endurance running and yoga. It takes practice and discipline but you aren't there to put do an enemy. I did debate and kicked ass but it wasn't about winning.
People who ar driven by winning (not all) tend to be troublesome to date. Women like this only get satisfaction out of rejecting someone a friend liked. They don't flat out reject other men around them because they need the attention.
Hot women may not get rejected but they almost always have been messed around. Women fret over how to turn down a guy if they no them from anywhere other than a bar.
I can only think of maybe 2 times in my life I felt vindicated turning down a guy when I was very young and still just a brush off not a fuck off. Popular kid I liked in middle school who then like me in high school once I had boobs. Popular guy in high school who refused to take me home and a friend home from a party after driving us way out there because I wouldn't put out. When I was in university he came to crash with my friends older brother who tried to set us up and I completely ignored his presence during the meet cute they arranged and left within 5 minutes.
As far as bars go... in my early 20's yeah I was a bit of a bitch if I had to enter a nightclub with a friend and anyone I didn't know tried to talk to me. Bad on me but I'd be the sober one waiting on pinpoint on next meet up of of crew and I'd be happy to have someone to talk to while she grinds for 15 minutes until we had our spot but things get nasty fast or they just stand to close.
So yes I would eventually just say No when they approached me but it didn't give me any enjoyment. It's actually why I refused to accompany my BFF to those horrible discotheques on the bar strip.
Then we became best friends with a couple of guys I'd known for a longtime and trusted. Magic if we had to go downtown. We were chick bait and they were dick repellent seeing as one was tall and protective if we gave him the look that we were uncomfortable. Most guys wouldn't approach us even though it was clear we weren't couples. The guys that did approach were solid. They understood the system.
They realized they had to get accepted by the group meaning treating me respectfully and immediately making cool with my guy friends.
I'm a business professional now and still sometimes if I go to the hotel bar to get a martini waiting for my takeout I'll get a drink sent to me. In a restaurant that's classy in a hotel it makes my skin crawl. I'm not a hooker.
I've noticed that when gets are rude/mad it's usually because they think a girl "lead them on" But in reality the women in question would probably be perplexed as to how she lead him on when she's nice in the same way to everyone. And the truth in guys have a hard time differentiating between friendly/nice and flirting. Mostly because the norm is for women not to say how they really feel and thus leave guys with having to figure out if we like them or not. It's a crap shoot, girls can't be nice without guys thinking they like them And girls don't tell guys what they feel so the guys don't know. ... but then again girls out and out tell guys they only see them as friends and guys bitch about being friend zoned and ask questions about how to get out of it then get pissed when she shoots you down...
Two things, pain and testosterone. It hurts being rejected. And we got lots of testosterone to help us fight of other guys (duels for your hand/war) and to protect you and us against dangers (bears/lions/raiders). And you know how wounded animals are more dangerous then animals that's not hurt? Well, how does mixing all of those sound? Basically it's a either you're with us or against us kind of thing and it's surprisingly hard to resist hormones like that as I'm sure you girls can attest to during your period. Don't get me wrong, it *can* be done and people get different doses of hormones (with some men and women getting little and some a lot) Well, that's my guess anyway.
I resisted the urge to be an asshole and mean to my ex when she broke up. But it sure as heck wasn't easy.
Well first this isn't just a guy thing, people in general do this. I've had some amazing relationships one in particular where for some reason she acted like she hated me. My guess is that it is part insecurity and a defense mechanism. No one wants to be hurt so if they treat the person or relationship as being bad or negative they can more easily deal with the loss.
Rejection is very serious with men because Men seek women (Which is very common) and it hurts when we cannot have the woman that we want especially on the positive side like when things are going good, she's single or the woman have nothing to lose but have no explanation on why of giving that man a chance (Which makes men mad and mean to women). My advice to women is when talking to a guy (the same for men towards women) using different types of words or sentences (like speaking in parables) is a big help.
I don't know. I never acted butt hurt over it. It registered (the rejection) but you move to the next chick. It's a simple question of numbers: there are more girls than guys. Eventually you land one. My problem is when you get rejected and move on without issues..., the girl gets pissed that you "so easily" showed interest in another lady! What the hell difference does it make? You weren't interested, right? Women act like you committed a crime if you find another chick in proximity attractive after you thought she was.
many women have a certain conplex where they feel empowered if they reject others. not just men sexually but even women hence the stereotypical shit talking when their "friend " leaves the room for a second. being picky about who they allow into their life allows them to create this facade of self importance.
Not that I'm agreeing with them and excusing their behavior, but why do you expect them to keep treating you the same when you find out that they want more than just friendship? They were doing all those things for you because they wanted more, so the best thing for both of you is if they move on and you let them go.
I did not have a problem with rejection per se. I did not like it, of course, but I smiled and moved on. What pissed me off was when a girl would give me the 'not ready for a relationship' speech (although there had not been mention of a relationship, just a date), or some other BS scripted response; then a few days later I would see her fawning over a knuckle dragger, or some form of the bad boy. It was not until I was about 30 that I came to realise that those girls did me a favour when they said no. As for males who become nasty, or aggressive, that response is usually a sign of low IQ, combined with a toxic culture and a sense of narscisstic entitlement. Then there was the likes of Elliot Roger, who was a sad case of mental illness.
Most of these men also being socially incompetent, so the resulting low self-confidence makes them turn to the primary coping mechanism of insulting the perpetrator (ie. all women).
Also, many cultures raise their men to believe that they are entitled to win the 'affection' of any woman he wants so.. when he moves to a westernized society and realizes that this is not how things work in reality.. it's like a rude awakening. Again, the default coping mechanism of complaining and laying all of the blame on the perpetrator is employed.
So many hurt people in the comment section. It is call nothing but insecurities and being butt hurt. Guys like this think they are entitled to have the girl he wishes, when he don't he becomes childish. The same does girls. What I have learnt (from being on both side as a women) is to leave a guy if he rejects you. No need to become rude or upset. He said no, just leave it at that.. you don't have to become his friend nor his enemy. Just take time for yourself. If you reject a guy, don't expect him to be your friend at all, and if he is rude and disrespectful call him out and tell him to butt out your life. This shouldn't be hard for decent adult beings.
Rejection = Impossible to obtain. Once you say no, and we aren't the psycho type, we understand we'll never be able to achieve whatever we wanted. Our brain fixes the problem by thinking we never wanted it in the first place. We hate every aspect of it. It's with matured people that they can realize this fault and look past it to really fix the problem, of possible.
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For me, it was because of the time, effort, energy and emotions I've invested, and she throws them away like it meant nothing. It also depends on the way we were rejected. If she was mature enough to actually talk it out and explain things properly that it is her who doesn't want it and not some fault of mine, or maybe that a few qualities in us aren't compatible, it may be okay, but in a case like mine, where for a small fight she breaks up via text and blocks you everywhere, then it's hard not to feel wronged.
Damn that's the problem with bitches these days
I think it's caused by a couple different things.
1) Pain often translates into anger, and everyone feels hurt when they're rejected by someone that they like.
2) To compound the matter, men think that things are going well and are encouraged when we don't outright reject them at the same time that we're trying to politely dissuade them by not responding to their overtures, so our rejection seemingly comes out of nowhere.
Also, women aren't rejected as often as men are, so our response is different from theirs. First we're shocked and wonder what's wrong with them or us, then we're hurt, and finally we're angry. They're hurt, then frustrated (because every time they like a woman, she doesn't return the sentiment... and they're going to be alone forever because nobody wants them) and angry (because, man, screw all of them and all of that noise).
Well, I'm not mean to any girl if they reject me bluntly.
Now I do have a problem with girls that act as if they aren't rejecting us but they really are. For example, there was this girl that I gave my number to a month ago, haven't received a text message since. Now, it's not that she hasn't texted me that is the problem. The problem is that her reaction seemed positive and bubbly to that. This is what I call a passive aggressive rejection. If you do this (reject a dude and beat around the bush because you just can't tell him straight up no,) then I will act bitter and will be very angry.
It's not really a boy or girl question. It's just that men get rejected more because we are the ones who are brave enough to ask girls out. Many girls are kinda lacking in the courage department. Girls probably are not as good in handling rejection, because they rarely get rejected cos they rarely ask guys out.
I don't condone violent behaviour from people who get rejected. The best thing to do is to cut all connections from the person that rejected you and just move on. No need to be rude or mean to the person.
In my opinion it's because when you reject am man he feels bad about himself it hurts his feelings like he wasn't good enough for you so then he tried to make you feel bad as well so you can feel what he felt when you rejected him. It doesn't make it OK, but It's just human nature a lot of people react this way. It often stems from low self-esteem. The be thing to do is just ignore it and he will move on. Sometimes it may help to just try to talk to them. maybe say something like "I understand I may have made you feel bad by turning you down/rejecting you, and I didn't mean to hurt you, you are a great person you just aren't my type in that way; but I would like to be friends if that is possible." sometimes people just want someone to understand. :)
I disagree with you
nice I agree. that can definitely be the cause
I would say to decrease the rate of problems the way to tell us man (and girls aswell) compliments while turning us down, since this maybe help to compense the pain (maybe the brain thinks then well she dosnt want me but at least she knows that I am not a total failure...)
From the way you ask the question it seems like you get an ego boost by all of the compliments and attention those guys have been giving you. No one is going to lose their dignity if a girl rejects them; therefore, all of the attention they used to give you is now gone and they are moving on you just translate it as if they are hating on you.
One thing to consider too, a lot of times girls and even guys send mixed signals to hook up people or to have options and when they make a choice those people who were given attention and lose it they start being confused and then if they confess to the other sides (after those sides get a date) the answer will be like "oh you just confused between me being nice and interested"
Some guys actually do end up hating the girl because I've seen it happen. However, he only said he hated her because she leads many people on and lives to surround herself with many guys by flirting. Then when he told her, he got put down, nicely but he still got put down and that's when he started hating her. He out and out said he hated her to and stopped hanging around with her unless he ultimately had to because she was sitting with his friends.
@Tay_tay101 I don't think the word choice he is using is correct! It takes so many stabs to make one's heart full of hate especially if it's someone that you have cared of before. I guess it's more of anger than it is hate but the way he expressed is coming out of immaturity and lack of social skills because you don't usually confess negative feelings to others. It is a reaction of him being as you said put down. He will get over it and man the fuck up and realize that sometimes someone may or may not like you back.
A mix of self reflection, ego, and sexual frustration. Men have been conditioned in society to equate self worth with a few key things; having a woman, having a career, and growing into the normal (since the beginning of time) role of leader/ hunter. So when a guy gets rejected, the instantaneous thought is "am i not good enough to have a girlfriend or a sexual partner... am i not a man... am i not worth it?" , you mix that with sexual frustration which the majority of men have, and you have someone whose feeling desperate to get laid as well as moody from lack of sex and less confidant so then they get rejected and that turns into a personal blow in their mind like a big "youre not good enough".
I would imagine if they like you a lot, are complimenting you and spending a lot of time together. the impression that the feeling is mutual is kind of being put across.
for them to then be rejected it would feel like wasted time, that youve been leading them on.
feelings may have developed more due to all things i stated above, so it would have hurt more
Because they're hurt and can't handle rejection, so instead of handling it like a mature person, they take it out on whoever rejected them. A mature person would just say ok, that's fine, and move on. Maybe feel down for a while, but not blame those feelings on anyone. Someone with a fragile ego would not want to process those feelings, so they try to numb themselves by putting the blame on the person who rejected them (even though there's no blame to put on anyone) and try to hide their sadness with anger and bitterness.
This isn't unique to men AT ALL. Rejection hurts, it sux. Guys put themselves out there way more and often if in the same friend group they can't escape you so they just want to make clear, message received.
Reason varies from butt hurt to he was simply chasing tail and now that you're a no go he can't have you hanging around. Onto the next mission.
The question was s why do you care? Work on being a kind considerate person when saying no thanks and then totally expect full departure of coldness so as not to confuse things. They may warm up in time if you were true friends before.
Yes, it is unique to men. Every time a girl rejects a guy, she gets a boost to her ego. Every time a guy is rejected by a girl, he takes a blow to his ego. Girls very rarely get rejected, because the society expects them to pick and choose. You can literally just wait and have guys offer themselves to you. Countless girls on this site ask about guys they like but are not interested in them, and what to do about it. It shows how out of place they feel when they don't automatically get attention from men.
girls get rejected all the time krtek by guys who expect the "perfect" it's just as common as makes getting rejected
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@krtek What I was saying is whe a guy rejects a girl sometimes she does a 180 and goes into bitch mode if hiding from him isn't an option. Icy bitch like ignoring him usually. Or flirting in front of him or covert sabatoge.
Women can be so diabolical. I was raised to be competitive against myself and do my personal best. Probably why I wasn't the best at soccer but I excel in things like endurance running and yoga. It takes practice and discipline but you aren't there to put do an enemy. I did debate and kicked ass but it wasn't about winning.
People who ar driven by winning (not all) tend to be troublesome to date. Women like this only get satisfaction out of rejecting someone a friend liked. They don't flat out reject other men around them because they need the attention.
Hot women may not get rejected but they almost always have been messed around. Women fret over how to turn down a guy if they no them from anywhere other than a bar.
I can only think of maybe 2 times in my life I felt vindicated turning down a guy when I was very young and still just a brush off not a fuck off. Popular kid I liked in middle school who then like me in high school once I had boobs. Popular guy in high school who refused to take me home and a friend home from a party after driving us way out there because I wouldn't put out. When I was in university he came to crash with my friends older brother who tried to set us up and I completely ignored his presence during the meet cute they arranged and left within 5 minutes.
As far as bars go... in my early 20's yeah I was a bit of a bitch if I had to enter a nightclub with a friend and anyone I didn't know tried to talk to me. Bad on me but I'd be the sober one waiting on pinpoint on next meet up of of crew and I'd be happy to have someone to talk to while she grinds for 15 minutes until we had our spot but things get nasty fast or they just stand to close.
So yes I would eventually just say No when they approached me but it didn't give me any enjoyment. It's actually why I refused to accompany my BFF to those horrible discotheques on the bar strip.
Then we became best friends with a couple of guys I'd known for a longtime and trusted. Magic if we had to go downtown. We were chick bait and they were dick repellent seeing as one was tall and protective if we gave him the look that we were uncomfortable. Most guys wouldn't approach us even though it was clear we weren't couples. The guys that did approach were solid. They understood the system.
They realized they had to get accepted by the group meaning treating me respectfully and immediately making cool with my guy friends.
I'm a business professional now and still sometimes if I go to the hotel bar to get a martini waiting for my takeout I'll get a drink sent to me. In a restaurant that's classy in a hotel it makes my skin crawl. I'm not a hooker.
I've noticed that when gets are rude/mad it's usually because they think a girl "lead them on"
But in reality the women in question would probably be perplexed as to how she lead him on when she's nice in the same way to everyone. And the truth in guys have a hard time differentiating between friendly/nice and flirting. Mostly because the norm is for women not to say how they really feel and thus leave guys with having to figure out if we like them or not.
It's a crap shoot, girls can't be nice without guys thinking they like them
And girls don't tell guys what they feel so the guys don't know.
... but then again girls out and out tell guys they only see them as friends and guys bitch about being friend zoned and ask questions about how to get out of it then get pissed when she shoots you down...
Sounds like girls have a communication problem.
@krtek I think most people do!!!
Two things, pain and testosterone.
It hurts being rejected.
And we got lots of testosterone to help us fight of other guys (duels for your hand/war) and to protect you and us against dangers (bears/lions/raiders).
And you know how wounded animals are more dangerous then animals that's not hurt?
Well, how does mixing all of those sound?
Basically it's a either you're with us or against us kind of thing and it's surprisingly hard to resist hormones like that as I'm sure you girls can attest to during your period.
Don't get me wrong, it *can* be done and people get different doses of hormones (with some men and women getting little and some a lot)
Well, that's my guess anyway.
I resisted the urge to be an asshole and mean to my ex when she broke up.
But it sure as heck wasn't easy.
Well first this isn't just a guy thing, people in general do this. I've had some amazing relationships one in particular where for some reason she acted like she hated me. My guess is that it is part insecurity and a defense mechanism. No one wants to be hurt so if they treat the person or relationship as being bad or negative they can more easily deal with the loss.
Rejection is very serious with men because Men seek women (Which is very common) and it hurts when we cannot have the woman that we want especially on the positive side like when things are going good, she's single or the woman have nothing to lose but have no explanation on why of giving that man a chance (Which makes men mad and mean to women). My advice to women is when talking to a guy (the same for men towards women) using different types of words or sentences (like speaking in parables) is a big help.
I don't know. I never acted butt hurt over it. It registered (the rejection) but you move to the next chick. It's a simple question of numbers: there are more girls than guys. Eventually you land one.
My problem is when you get rejected and move on without issues..., the girl gets pissed that you "so easily" showed interest in another lady! What the hell difference does it make? You weren't interested, right? Women act like you committed a crime if you find another chick in proximity attractive after you thought she was.
this x1000000, guys just move on and girls take it as an insult, cuz we. ain't interested after a rejection
many women have a certain conplex where they feel empowered if they reject others. not just men sexually but even women hence the stereotypical shit talking when their "friend " leaves the room for a second. being picky about who they allow into their life allows them to create this facade of self importance.
Not that I'm agreeing with them and excusing their behavior, but why do you expect them to keep treating you the same when you find out that they want more than just friendship? They were doing all those things for you because they wanted more, so the best thing for both of you is if they move on and you let them go.
I did not have a problem with rejection per se. I did not like it, of course, but I smiled and moved on.
What pissed me off was when a girl would give me the 'not ready for a relationship' speech (although there had not been mention of a relationship, just a date), or some other BS scripted response; then a few days later I would see her fawning over a knuckle dragger, or some form of the bad boy.
It was not until I was about 30 that I came to realise that those girls did me a favour when they said no.
As for males who become nasty, or aggressive, that response is usually a sign of low IQ, combined with a toxic culture and a sense of narscisstic entitlement.
Then there was the likes of Elliot Roger, who was a sad case of mental illness.
Most of these men also being socially incompetent, so the resulting low self-confidence makes them turn to the primary coping mechanism of insulting the perpetrator (ie. all women).
Also, many cultures raise their men to believe that they are entitled to win the 'affection' of any woman he wants so.. when he moves to a westernized society and realizes that this is not how things work in reality.. it's like a rude awakening. Again, the default coping mechanism of complaining and laying all of the blame on the perpetrator is employed.
So many hurt people in the comment section. It is call nothing but insecurities and being butt hurt. Guys like this think they are entitled to have the girl he wishes, when he don't he becomes childish. The same does girls. What I have learnt (from being on both side as a women) is to leave a guy if he rejects you. No need to become rude or upset. He said no, just leave it at that.. you don't have to become his friend nor his enemy. Just take time for yourself. If you reject a guy, don't expect him to be your friend at all, and if he is rude and disrespectful call him out and tell him to butt out your life. This shouldn't be hard for decent adult beings.
No is no.
Rejection = Impossible to obtain. Once you say no, and we aren't the psycho type, we understand we'll never be able to achieve whatever we wanted. Our brain fixes the problem by thinking we never wanted it in the first place. We hate every aspect of it. It's with matured people that they can realize this fault and look past it to really fix the problem, of possible.
*if possible