I think there could be a couple things going on, one is, how are you flirting it may not be as obvious as you think. Second, it is possible they "get" it but are not interested so they pretend not to get it. I am not saying that based on anything just that it is something that happens, I have been told that by guys about other girls when I asked them (trying to help the other girl).
Either that or they have been trained to ignore them because of the social norms. Sometimes woman are not good communicators too. Just saying off of experience as a raft guide. It’s a job where you have to communicate what you want clearly and without chance for misinterpretation when it’s crunch time. Some women, like men, are not good communicators.
In the age of #metoo guys have to be extra careful. No means no, so guys ain't approaching anymore. It's not that we are clueless, the risk ain't worth the reward a lot of the time. You have to make it clear to a guy that you like him nowadays, and if you don't then it means you kinda like him but not enough. And he may know that you kinda do, but needs the reassurance.
I don't know about other guys, but I'm very oblivious when it comes to girls, a lot of times this has happened where I realize weeks/months later that a girl liked me and was flirting with me. I think it's also because girls are way too subtle, and I think that she was just joking or being nice, and I don't want to get the wrong idea and end up making things awkward. However, there has been a time when a girl was not very subtle and I knew she was interested but unfortunately the feeling wasn't mutual so I didn't do anything about it.
Then be direct. We aren’t mind readers. Especially if it’s subtle. What might be flirting for one woman isn’t for another. There is also the chance a guy just isn’t into you.
Be direct. There is times where I know a woman is flirting but ain’t into her….. Just point blank.
Another thing is. We aren’t mind readers. Especially if you’re being subtle. I would rather someone be more direct with me. Then you won’t have to play games
Confusion as to what actually the girl might be hinting to. [Example]Being flirtatious and being friendly are two confusing things for us. Hence, better to just not acknowledge the hint.
Sometimes, guys do the task of predicting the pros and cons of responding to your emotions, and then take decisions about whether to acknowledge them or not.
Like I always say, when you're really good at flirting, the other person is going to know beyond the shadow of a doubt that they're being flirted with. So when I hear women talking about how clueless they think guys are when they're being flirted with, it will usually seem to me that they're actually not as good at flirting as they think they are.
For the same reason you refuse to use your grown folks’ words, i suppose. Quit being coy and tell men how you feel. Guys are literally going to prison for acting on assumptions based on “subtlety”, ultimately passivity really. Those that don’t end up on the registry are still ruined on social media. Quit playing with men’s lives and livelihoods and just say what you’re feeling.
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Because tons girls that are not you, have given men a very bad vibe. They have trained men to distrust women craziness. I've personally had countless girls all over me giving signals, over time, when I pursue innocently back, they reject like did something wrong. Even get angryly creeped out. "Most" women who flirt are playing evil games!! you all suck, rude evil worthles game playing bitches! Last thing I want is to do go after anther rude bitch that flirts... 😡 end up on the metoo movement! Or on Facebook with a photo as a creep!! 🤬 "After you flirted"
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Attention whores, all dressed up flirting, when they are away from there man, are everywhere. women are trash.. its not. the guys fault you are a attention slut!!
There's two reasons. 1. He's genuinely not able to pick up the cues. Not a problem cause not everyone is good at that. 2. He's probably noticed it but isn't sure and doesn't wanna come off as presumptuous or creepy.
Either ways, it'd be simpler for you to simply ask him out. Make the first move yourself.
We get the hints we just don't want to act on them because we are afraid of being labeled a creep or having you think we are weird for it if we are wrong about the hint.
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Most aren't aware. I know I am in the minority because I pick up on the smallest hints, body language, and micro expressions. In women some of them last a fraction of a second. But since I prefer to be single, I do not take action when I notice them and occasionally I've seen the woman in question look frustrated... but most guys wouldn't have noticed that micro expression of interest anyway!
Depends on your hints to a guy if there like smoldering eyes he might think the worst an if you touch his arm he might think your clingy an as for the stroking your hair he thinks you have o c d an as for conversation if he doesn't think your on the same page he will just finish conversation an move on so just really comes down to personality an a lot in common
You should be able to understand that guys are walking a thin line when they approach a woman, especially at work. I remember one place I worked where a kind of goofy guy (no, not me) asked a girl out and she told half the girls in the place about it in a "OMG! As if!" kind of junior high manner that was pretty insulting to him.
Guys aren't mind readers why don't women understand that? Guys know you can't always believe a "hint" is truly a hint because sometimes when you approach a female who you think was sending signals or hints turns out she wasn't and now you gotta deal with her attitude. Hints are no longer good enough.
Yes sadly us guys are pretty clueless at times when it comes to girls. Us guys think mostly logical why women are think emotional and feelings which makes them smarter. Also us guys are sometimes afraid to say the wrong thing and idea or be cocky and makes be stupid and makes us think we have no chance hooking up with you.
Experience plays a lot in dealing with the opposite genders emotions. Not everyone cares to see the hints some people would rather just straight up tell you or have you tell them. could be how your doing it. Some are truly unaware of you flirting though
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I think there could be a couple things going on, one is, how are you flirting it may not be as obvious as you think. Second, it is possible they "get" it but are not interested so they pretend not to get it. I am not saying that based on anything just that it is something that happens, I have been told that by guys about other girls when I asked them (trying to help the other girl).
Either that or they have been trained to ignore them because of the social norms. Sometimes woman are not good communicators too. Just saying off of experience as a raft guide. It’s a job where you have to communicate what you want clearly and without chance for misinterpretation when it’s crunch time. Some women, like men, are not good communicators.
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I said it once already on here I guess I will be saying it a lot.
I had women throwing themselves at me for YEARS. I even had beautiful women asking me for my number.
It took years of that for me to realize that I was not repulsive to women. That in fact, I was very attractive to women.
I don't know. It sucks. I should have been neck deep in pussy since I was 13. But I never got there till halfway through 30.
In the age of #metoo guys have to be extra careful. No means no, so guys ain't approaching anymore. It's not that we are clueless, the risk ain't worth the reward a lot of the time. You have to make it clear to a guy that you like him nowadays, and if you don't then it means you kinda like him but not enough. And he may know that you kinda do, but needs the reassurance.
I don't know about other guys, but I'm very oblivious when it comes to girls, a lot of times this has happened where I realize weeks/months later that a girl liked me and was flirting with me. I think it's also because girls are way too subtle, and I think that she was just joking or being nice, and I don't want to get the wrong idea and end up making things awkward. However, there has been a time when a girl was not very subtle and I knew she was interested but unfortunately the feeling wasn't mutual so I didn't do anything about it.
Then be direct. We aren’t mind readers. Especially if it’s subtle. What might be flirting for one woman isn’t for another. There is also the chance a guy just isn’t into you.
Be direct. There is times where I know a woman is flirting but ain’t into her….. Just point blank.
Another thing is. We aren’t mind readers. Especially if you’re being subtle. I would rather someone be more direct with me. Then you won’t have to play games
Too focused on technicality while speaking.
Confusion as to what actually the girl might be hinting to. [Example]Being flirtatious and being friendly are two confusing things for us. Hence, better to just not acknowledge the hint.
Sometimes, guys do the task of predicting the pros and cons of responding to your emotions, and then take decisions about whether to acknowledge them or not.
Sorry, I can only think of these many.
Like I always say, when you're really good at flirting, the other person is going to know beyond the shadow of a doubt that they're being flirted with. So when I hear women talking about how clueless they think guys are when they're being flirted with, it will usually seem to me that they're actually not as good at flirting as they think they are.
For the same reason you refuse to use your grown folks’ words, i suppose. Quit being coy and tell men how you feel. Guys are literally going to prison for acting on assumptions based on “subtlety”, ultimately passivity really. Those that don’t end up on the registry are still ruined on social media. Quit playing with men’s lives and livelihoods and just say what you’re feeling.
Because tons girls that are not you, have given men a very bad vibe. They have trained men to distrust women craziness. I've personally had countless girls all over me giving signals, over time, when I pursue innocently back, they reject like did something wrong. Even get angryly creeped out. "Most" women who flirt are playing evil games!! you all suck, rude evil worthles game playing bitches! Last thing I want is to do go after anther rude bitch that flirts... 😡 end up on the metoo movement! Or on Facebook with a photo as a creep!! 🤬 "After you flirted"
Attention whores, all dressed up flirting, when they are away from there man, are everywhere. women are trash.. its not. the guys fault you are a attention slut!!
Men are not woman. If you want them to know something you need to tell them.
Finally the truth.
Thank you. Please do. We are not mind readers
Don't hint, men don't get hints
Men understand direct, clear and right to the point.
Men don't see hinting and leaving clues. You want to flirt, do it like a guy would flirt with you.
Guys are touchy feelly and know what you mean when you grab his inner thigh or butt.
There's two reasons.
1. He's genuinely not able to pick up the cues. Not a problem cause not everyone is good at that.
2. He's probably noticed it but isn't sure and doesn't wanna come off as presumptuous or creepy.
Either ways, it'd be simpler for you to simply ask him out. Make the first move yourself.
We get the hints we just don't want to act on them because we are afraid of being labeled a creep or having you think we are weird for it if we are wrong about the hint.
Most aren't aware. I know I am in the minority because I pick up on the smallest hints, body language, and micro expressions. In women some of them last a fraction of a second. But since I prefer to be single, I do not take action when I notice them and occasionally I've seen the woman in question look frustrated... but most guys wouldn't have noticed that micro expression of interest anyway!
Depends on your hints to a guy if there like smoldering eyes he might think the worst an if you touch his arm he might think your clingy an as for the stroking your hair he thinks you have o c d an as for conversation if he doesn't think your on the same page he will just finish conversation an move on so just really comes down to personality an a lot in common
So ask him out.
You should be able to understand that guys are walking a thin line when they approach a woman, especially at work. I remember one place I worked where a kind of goofy guy (no, not me) asked a girl out and she told half the girls in the place about it in a "OMG! As if!" kind of junior high manner that was pretty insulting to him.
Guys aren't mind readers why don't women understand that? Guys know you can't always believe a "hint" is truly a hint because sometimes when you approach a female who you think was sending signals or hints turns out she wasn't and now you gotta deal with her attitude. Hints are no longer good enough.
Yes sadly us guys are pretty clueless at times when it comes to girls. Us guys think mostly logical why women are think emotional and feelings which makes them smarter. Also us guys are sometimes afraid to say the wrong thing and idea or be cocky and makes be stupid and makes us think we have no chance hooking up with you.
Experience plays a lot in dealing with the opposite genders emotions. Not everyone cares to see the hints some people would rather just straight up tell you or have you tell them. could be how your doing it. Some are truly unaware of you flirting though