I had an experience like this, and long story short, I came to the conclusion that if he REALLY was into me, he would have tried and see what could happen, rather than shut it down from the start because he thinks he is too 'busy.' So, no matter how many times he said he liked me and that wasn't a factor, on some level he didn't like me enough to want to try.
I've found that, even though it's hard -- because in my case, I am still extremely attracted to him and feel that spark -- it's a waste of time if he already is putting restrictions. So, why do they still pursue you, even when they aren't going to make a move? Because it's an ego boost, because they genuinely like your company, because they don't want to hurt your feelings, they are too weak to tell the truth... there are many selfish reasons.
I'm sure many guys lie and say they're busy, when they're not. It's an easy out, and doesn't hurt the other persons feelings.
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It could be one of these two reasons:
1) He made up an excuse to not hang out with you. He was just flirting and nothing more. When it comes to dating you, forget about it
2) He likes you a lot but has fear of rejection issues or he had bad experiences where he got hurt in the end. So, he wants to go out with you but he's pretty nervous about it. The first thing that pps up in mind is to say "I'm busy". It's a technique to push you away. It happens.
Personally, I think it's no#2, but YOU can only feel which one it is.
I know this guy from school and we talk sometimes. Today I went to his workplace and tried to ask him to go out for coffee and he said that he has to attend a Christmas party that day. I though to myself, Christmas party in November? I feel so embarrassed.
i have learned if you say you're busy it makes the girl want you more but if you say you're free then she wants you less in the long run.
every time I try to be straight forward and honest I get burned but if I treat her poorly to a point she will keep coming back.
it makes me sick cause I want to treat women awesome all the time and pamper them but if you do they seem to penalize you for it,
its just my observations and probably most won't agree with it,
i also think women act busy when theyre not interested but most men will just tell you if theyre not interested.
id be calm and not clingy. I think you need to get him to want to hang out with you without you doing the asking. if a girl asks for most men its a turnoff as they like the chase the gal or be the agressor.
hope this helps. id have an open mind and date someone else to keep your mind off this guy or find a good hobby.
If he's made it a point to make it another time he was busy. If he didn't, I'm not going to sugar coat it like others seem to do. He's not interested.
If you really liked a guy & he asked you out. What would YOU say? Think about it.
I know for a fact I would make it a point that I wanted to see her at another time. (if I liked her) Maybe I'm a weird one but I would want to go out with someone I really liked.
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If he says he is busy, and ends it there he is not interested.
But if he says he is busy, but free on a certain day then he likes you...Maybe he really was busy. Why is that so hard to believe?
It never even occurred to you, or your Best Answer, that he meant what he said, and he was just too busy?
You people are brilliant.
Keep digging for those reasons which aren't there... oh yes, and tell us again how guys are difficult to understand. That's hilarious.You have to feel out the situation. Also if often getting the "im busy" line and see if there's correlation. Find out his schedule ask, if he won't say then use your best judgement.
the same thing women mean when they tell a guy their busy
He just wasn't that into you maybe
thats my excuse when I just want to flirt and sh*t but don't want a relationship
I think he's probably busy.
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