(Just to start I am married but things are complicated and although we have tried to cut ties a few times we have kids and keep trying to make it work) Any way I met a man through work just over 2 years ago and we became friends quite easily and have always got on. We often talk on the phone and have been for a couple of drinks here and there together and with other work people. We will often talk on the phone for 20-40 mins here and there and really get on and he has also supported me through some work issues and the odd moan about home life. Last year I had a full melt down and told him I had feelings for him. He sort of brushed it off said we were friends and I thought he might back off but he still called and always makes time to speak to me 2 -3 times a week. However the more I spoke to him the more I liked him and I really struggled to deal with my feelings. If he would ignore my texts it hurt my feelings. He often ignores my texts and leaves me unread, however will always return my calls. He very rarely rang first and I think only once or twice in 2 years text first! However there have been the odd occasions. Anyway I’ve recently tried to take a step back as I just can’t work out what he wants from me. We have the best conversations and so much in common but then he can just ignore my messages for days! So I backed off! But since I started backing off he’s started liking posts on Facebook (never did this before) and calling me 1-2 a week “just thought I would check in, we haven’t spoke in a while” We hadn’t spoken for a week and he called to “check in” then an hour or so later I’ve sent him a message about something to make conversation and he hasn’t even opened the message! (WhatsApp) Yet he’s been online on and off loads since! I’m just confused. What is this game?
Complicated feelings? How does he really feel?
