Well generally yes this has been proven to be true, however not it the very general 80/20 sense, but close, sometimes closer to 90/10 if one went by pure analytical algorithms alone, from Tinder, HotorNot, etc its easier then ever to calculate this. I never thought about this but all the "hot" guys, or guys I have been involved with over the years all had similar qualities, physical builds, personalities and the like yet it was personality that would seal the deal with me. Turns out the few of the guys I dated, or had sex with whom I all thought were hot too this point were either players, very open and naturally comfortable with girls in their attitudes and went on dates/ had relationships often, of course not all worked out well. Not to mention their own flaws, insecurities and honesty immaturity of some of these guys will scare respectable girls off at some point. Every guy who is true to himself has a chance and puts himself out there and people shoudn't be obsessed with algorithms
I have no idea. I just like what I like. They can be hot to some people or " what do you see in him? " type, if I like him then i like him. If I think he's too hot though, I don't even try lol but I think I have low self esteem because this super hot guy (he is now a model) I see him in magazines now lol Well he wanted to dance with me and called me hot but I found his so attractive that I left lol I couldn't dance with him. This was in highschool though. another guy who was super hot, said I was the hottest girl in town lol Okay, I don't believe that bs. Maybe he wasn't lying though because he had a talk with a guy in class in front of everyone! ( super awkward) when he found out the guy liked me, apparently he was trying to ask me out. He's now an engineer and still looking good. But who knows, I didn't feel hot enough for him lol It felt wrong to kiss him lol
Yes it is true because men stroke women’s egos and tell them they’re all 10s and that they’re beautiful even when they’re average or even under average (Just check out the How Do I Look? section for proof of this). This makes women overestimate their market value and think they’re deserving of the best and most attractive men, so they ignore average men. And then average men become desperate and thus praise and overvalidate all women hoping to get their attention, fueling the cycle.
Yes but it’s not what you think it is. I only like guys that are 7-9s to me but they’re not universally considered 7-9s if that makes sense. if you asked my friend or a guy to rate someone I found to be say a 9 they might consider them a 5 or 6. I think it’s similar for a lot of women, they want someone really hot, but their definition of hot is really unique and specific.
I don't know because I was born very lucky in the attributes department. So I get hit on by women and some hot, but for some unknown reason I break that rule and I always go for the average, plain, basic woman. Right now I have this borderline ugly-cute skinny girl hitting on me and I think what attracts me is her boldness and she has that uninhibited wet sex maniac look in her eye. The other thing is, it drives the hot ones nuts that tend to be cold dead fish in bed. I can't tell you how many times I am with a borderline ugly-cute girlfriend and the hot ones start giving me shit. It is hilarious.
I think it's true but primarily for casual sex.
Girls are generally only open to casual sex if the guy is significantly more attractive than she is. Meanwhile, guys seem to be fine with hooking up with girls who are equally as attractive or even less attractive.
I don't know if 80/20 is the right ratio, but I 100% believe the number of guys who are considered desirable enough by women to consistently get hookups is A LOT smaller than the number of girls who are considered desirable enough by men to consistently get hookups.
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Well, biologically speaking, it is mostly true, yes. Though I don't get why is it that the hottest women aren't doing it, in this picture?
100% true. I was (am) one of those top 20% of men. I never went without a date. I dated women I was interested in. Yes, most of them would have rated a 6 or above but I didn't limit myself to the top 20%. I got married, had a son and then a divorce.
Now I'm in my fifties and don't want ANYTHING to do with any woman. I've recently had multiple women my age ask me out while I'm at the grocery but I want nothing to do with them. I don't find them attractive and I don't want to put up with their crap. I am deliriously happy on my own.
I can assure that I do not really like a guy who'd considered hot. Before I started liking my boyfriend he was average in my eyes. And after falling for him I started seeing him in a new light. And I didn't fall for either his looks or his personality. It was just him in general. I don't really know what made me like him, but it happened and I'm glad it did. We've dated for 2 years and I still love him.
You simply fall for whoever you fall for. And tbh, I don't think anyone sees all hot guys as hot. It's all about preference, and what you are attracted to
Define top 20%. The shy guy in class who is nice to me would be my top 20% as much as the Chad who gyms every day. In terms of sex yes, I prefer physical appearance. In terms of dating, however, it is more complicated.
Is this not the same for men? Would you not try to sleep with the top 20% hottest girls in your class before you go for the remaining 80%. That is considering that you don't actually have an interest in seriously dating either by the way.
Men are generally the pursuers and women are the opportunists. If a woman has 5 guys asking her out, she will generally go with the more attractive guy. A man will generally ask out someone with equal or slightly more attractiveness as himself. Not saying it's a good thing, but it can be how it is.
isn't the opposite true for guys? 80% of guys go for the 20% of hot and/or bitchy women... .
It's probably not 80% there maybe girls that settle for what they can get. Most girl who might go for the top of the class but find they can't keep them honest, many rich people are actually stupid and so shallow. Relationships are based on what is practical.
Definitely true.
I have 1,000+ Tinder matches. Most guys I know can barely scrounge 2-3. I know another guy who has like 1,500+ Tinder matches.
And it's strange because I don't consider myself to be any more attractive than those guys with 2-3 matches... as a matter of fact my personality is probably 10 times less attractive than their personalities...
Definitely true.
I have 1,0000+ Tinder matches. Most guys I know can barely scrounge 20-30. I know another guy who has like 1,5000+ Tinder matches.
And it's strange because I don't consider myself to be any more attractive than those guys with 20-30 matches... as a matter of fact my personality is probably 100 times less attractive than their personalities...
It should be 80% of women only find 20% of men attractive. I rarely hear men say their girl is anything but gorgeous, like at least 7. Even on this page you see women saying their boy is only a 5, but I love him. As a straight man I agree, I don't find most men attractive either.
I think everyone wants to be with someone attractive, good, and hard working. I do think people want to be with partners who may have more to offer than they do... but I don't think that means those people exclude partners with more similar abilities and appearance.
Ehh, these days, probably... Not me though, but maybe its because of what I believe in which I'm not going to get into but I prefer to be married to someone. But some people don't like being patient. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to someone at first but we have to look at certain people like hot food: it might look good, and it probably tastes good too but if you put it in your mouth you will end up burning your tongue!!! lol
Well most people tend to have similar features they find attractive or desirable. That part is fairly true. Like most things in life, I believe people like to oversimplify things so their reason is easier to apply when making logic conclusions about other parts of the world.
This probably relates to sex I believe. 20% of men get regular sex or hook up with women and the majority of women. Whereas the rest of men, it's harder and get sex here and there or some long dry spells. True women like lesser looking men and may like regular jobs, but the top charming guy with looks and $ and game could be the 20% getting the top women, whereas not so much for the rest of men
- Both genders *desire* the top 20%, there's something wrong with you if you don't.
- Most of the time both genders end up settling for less because the top 20% date the other top 20%.
So there is truth with this, but i find it ridiculous guys always try and swing this as if it only goes one way lol...
s I think women tend to be attracted to the same types and traits in general, men seem more versatile with there tastes.
Nah... I like my men that In serious with to be a 5-7... A little fling or friends with benefits or something is more of a 8-10...
There is a book called Dataclysm written by owner of Ok Cupid. He realized that the site collects info about dating and preference of millions of people and some of it is rather interesting. And yes, men say yes to a lot of women, women are much more picky
Attractive guys are naturally more confident because they know they look good, often times guys that look that good have really good personalities, are outgoing, and maintain their physical and mental health well. That stuff is desirable to women. I think in my experience it's closer to 70/30 but not much of a difference and there are always anomalies. Overall I think it is true and unless itself to "survival of the fittest "
I mean what's wrong with wanting the best? Men do it too. Plus id say no because there are many interpretations of what the qualities that make up an ideal man
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