Is a woman leading a guy on when she always tells him things like that she's excited for him, proud of him, etc?

[chico800]

I was exchanging messages with a lady for a little while. She would lay some sweet talk on me like what I wrote above. When I asked her out, she turned me down. Also, I had asked her out a few months previously, and she just ignored that message. Doesn't it seem like a woman is leading a guy on a bit when she tells him things like that, especially when she knows that the guy is interested in her?

[btbc92]

No. It has nothing to do about what is said per say. It has to do with the intent. I always say something like that because I really mean it and I am genuine about it. But I am not interested in trying to get involved with a man is especially if somebody I don't personally know. A woman does not all men a date the same way if a woman done the same thing a man or a woman a date. A lot of people just need to stop, take a step back and ask you so why do you do the way you do things. Why you chasing after people you don't even know? And most importantly what is your intention? When you are so desperate for somebody to want you, especially sexually if not romantically, this is exactly what happens. You misinterpret a person based on your own desires. And don't seem designs Cloud your better judgment, and when you overstepped and take things too far, you blame somebody else for something you choose to do. If you never told that person what you wanted, they probably wouldn't have done what they did in the first place. That's why you need to be up front. If you're not being upfront, or you're using this as a way to get something out of an individual, then you're something out of an individual, then you're the one that has a problem. I had plenty of men, that includes on here that knows what I'm about to a degree, and they are the ones that continue to push forward as if they can persuade me to date the one I make it very clear that that is not what I'm about. I have every right to voice my opinion especially what my standards are. Just because I voiced them, that doesn't mean I am interested in relationship. Why any of you people do not pay attention, to what somebody is saying to you it's really beyond me. The reality is Oscar, you're not looking for friendship, you looking for a sexual relationship. You are asking something that is way too far for a woman to want, we're not may not be who she is. Let alone if she's not looking that from you. You don't want a friendship, but you're asking for something way more than what you could just get. Not only is that selfish, it's another reason why it leaves you rejected. It is common sense. But a lot of you people do not have any kind of self respect. He can just kind of amount of attention says that you don't love yourself as a person, and it is better to seek professional help. Not a relationship.

[Alpha09]

Lord jesus. Going off of what you're describing she's not leading you on at all. Unless she has explicitly flirted/sexted and is clearly interested your out of line.
You just can't take no for an answer and can't differentiate between simple encouragement and kindness from another person, and flirting. You are continuing to stick around and trying to blame it on her. She's not keeping you there so why are you still staying in touch if it bothers you? Why is it as a grown man someone has to tell you how to act? Unless there's more information you haven't shared that supports your frustration, you are trippin.

[The_Maphio]

She's just being supportive. Even if that means that she has some kind of fondness of you, I can't tell from the words she typed that she also wants to go full "spread eagle" for you.
Quite the opposite, actually. Supportive, helpful, but not a hint of horniness.

[Ousaf1]

You got your answer right there if she doesn't wanna have a date then it's already finished

[btbc92]

Uh no. It's just that guy like him a desperate as hell for any woman to pay attention to him. She is not doing anything wrong it's up just being kind, polite, and being friendly. The guy is that desperate to the point he misinterpreted what is being said to him. When he can't get her for a sexual relationship because that's exactly what he's pretty much asking, he's upset. It's clear he cannot accept a woman's choices. She is not obligated to date him. He's the one with intent. It's not her.

[Ousaf1]

@btbc92 could be but what I'm saying is, is that a women isn't interested in you if she cancels a date (with no suggestions) or just doesn't wanna go on a date with you. How can you say no 😂

[Ousaf1]

woman*

[btbc92]

All you men and women care about is yourself and thay is why many of you arr miserble. Your self centered.

[Zeppelinrocks]

I think this is the biggest divide between the ways men and women interpret and give affection. When women tell someone they’re proud of them, that’s it- it doesn’t mean “I’m proud and also wanna bang”. We say these things to provide emotional support and encouragement. We say these things to our friends, to our parents, to our dogs, and yes, to our significant others sometimes. Men however can interpret this kind of encouragement as a sign that she’s romantically interested. It’s not their fault- maybe they were raised with not much encouragement in this way from the men in their lives, and maybe they aren’t comfortable with giving it to their male friends. But you should understand that she’s not doing it to lead you on- it’s simply how she communicates. She’s just trying to be friendly and supportive. If it makes you uncomfortable though, you should say so.

[Ousaf1]

You hit the nail with that one, that's also one of the reasons why so many guys get frienzoned. Guys and girls don't see friendship the same way.

[HitTheQuanYin]

Being proud of someone or wanting to see someone does not mean there is romantic intention behind it. Maybe she likes you as a good friend but does not see a future together with you.

[Ashleystanza]

No this isn’t flirting at all, really it’s just being nice & being a supportive friend. Just because a gal is nice doesn’t mean she is leading you on. Friends should be nice and supportive anyways. Flirting goes beyond these types of phrases.