Why does my wife sleep all day?

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I work 5 days a week and she works 3 days a week. On our days off I want to enjoy time together but she always spends the whole day sleeping. Even after 8-9 hours of night sleep, she falls asleep during the day. Could she be sick or something? Why does she always want to sleep?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It could be something called sleep apnea. Both my parents had it when they were older.

I have depression. When it's gotten really bad (and it has), I'd try to stay in bed a long time, if I didn't have to work. Sometimes it was difficult to get myself up for the day. It wasn't always sleep, but sometimes it was - depression can sometimes affect people in that way; and all that mental energy can sap someone's strength to get up. Generally I am better, but it still rears up bad, and be draining.

My personal situation at the moment: I live by several sets of train tracks. I also live near an industrial area. Some of my family (who I'm living with) gets up for early shift at a nearby factory. This means I get about an hour of sleep between 1 and 7am, and then I zonk out until late morning. In the last half hour, I have heard about 5 different trains blasting their horns as they go through my area.

I also recently had a bad accident, with a closed head injury (some other things, too). I am in pain (besides headaches and getting dizzy (and queasy)). I am laid up quite often during the day, trying to hold on while the room feels like it spins. Trying to drown out loud noise and bright light. Covers over my head because the light seems to hurt my head. This is temporary (I hope), though it could be between six months and a year to get fully healed.

In her case, it could simply be hormonal - some women get BAD periods, for example. It could be ten or twenty other things. Hell, even just a weird long term bug or something. If it's a big enough problem, and no one seems to be able to explain it ("Oh, I've always gotten bad migraines") then you might suggest she go to the doctor. If not, just keep watching, and assume maybe she will get better and it will be temporary, and let her rest. Best advice I can give for now.

Hope it's not a big thing, and hopefully she'll be feeling more rested soon.

Fireguy17 · Accepted Answer

possibly se has sleep apnea.
Then no matter how much you sleep because you are not getting a good quality of sleep, she will always be tired.
Or you might be the reason she isn't sleeping well, are you tossing and turning all night, up 6 times, snoring?
My wife and I for years have slept in separate bedrooms.
She has horrible sleep apnea, would stop breathing, snored worse than a lumberjack, her SPO2 level was in the mid 80s, she was a heart attack/stroke just waiting to happen.
My pager goes off quite often at night for yet another call, I would get up get dressed and off I went, so that would wake her up. Go figure.
This way now that she has and uses her CPAP she sleeps fine, and I no longer wake her up when I go on a call.

tesniolite · Accepted Answer

Your wife could be sleeping a lot on days off due to a medical condition like sleep apnea, poor lifestyle habits, or a bad work schedule. Maybe encourage her to see a doctor for a check-up to check for any underlying issues and try to engage in more stimulating activities together like exercise. Prioritizing good sleep hygiene habits, such as avoiding caffeine and electronic devices before bed, can also help.

williael · Accepted Answer

I have idiopathic hypersomnia and I would do the same thing your wife is doing, if it weren't for medication. Hypersomnia is the opposite of insomnia. I highly suggest that she get a sleep study from either a neurologist or a sleep specialist. They can rule out other possible reasons for excessive daytime sleepiness.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

She may have anxiety/depression. Quite often a person with anxiety has to rest long hours because their mind doesn't shut off like ours and is constantly on overload. Once they come off work, which can cause a lot of anxiety, the depression kicks-in and they need to recoup.

TenderFantasy · Answer

Yeah she might be depressed... or PREGNANT lol... I hear that pregnant people often get tired more than usual. I'd advice you to tell her to see a doctor about it. No way us here can give her an accurate diagnosis really.

virtue2332 · Answer

Their could be a number of things wrong but it's going to be important to get a second opinion and weigh the risk vs reward on treatment options. Sometimes all the side effects of medications can make it worse. As long as it's not something dangerous or life threatening you should just do your homework. I know from experience.

lightbulb27 · Answer

how long that been going on? What's she like when she's awake or working? is it 3 long days inn nursing?

It is possible to have medical issues that turn up in early 30's. If she has a hole in her heart, difficulty breathing, that could be an issue.

Cancer, long covid... sure.

diet ok?

worldscolide · Answer

My wife had that issue. I cannot speak for your wife. One night i chose to stay up and listen to her sleep. There were several times where she would go as much as a minute without breathing. Like she would literally stop for a minute and then gasp for air. We found out she had sleep apnea. When we got her on a CPAP machine at night, she stopped napping during the day. Again i am not saying this is the issue with your wife, but its something to consider.

TrueConfection · Answer

There is definitely something wrong if sheis that fatigued. It could be as simple as low iron, but it could also be her gut health. Her body is working and she should get it checked out by a physician. by the way, pregnancy is also exhausting.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

That's almost certainly depression. If she isn't complaining about feeling sick, but just wants to sleep way too much, that is a very very common sign of depression. That would definitely be my guess.

tiajoka · Answer

Probably has chronic pain or fatigue from some sort of autoimmune disease. Narcolepsy or mental illness is also possible. Just encourage her to go to the doctor and also to eat healthier and try and be active. What’s best would be a strict sleeping schedule as well where she gets 8-10 hours of sleep (adult women need more)

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Excessive sleepng can be a sign of depression, but it can also be a symptom of other medical problems. Does she ever fall asleep very suddenly and in inappropriate places?

SeriouslyFunny00 · Answer

Could be iron deficiency? There could be an underlying health problem. Talk to her about it first and let her describe how she feels, then go for a doctor.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Is any substance use involved? I've seen this before and it can get annoying. There is probably some issue behind it all.

Minahh · Answer

Bruh I take naps during the day too. Especially if my period is close or I'm on my period. Men get the testosterone boost every morning which gives them plenty of energy, we only have testosterone boost during the ovulation.

fantasticass · Answer

Her hormones are out of sync. I suggest she goes for a full panel blood test. Usually the answer is in a blood test. Good luck

sheenagwapa · Answer

most likely sick... i am like that i am sick too but it's understandable because i'm so poor i can only even but 30 tablets of Vit C,

exitseven · Answer

She might have some auto immune disease or something else. She should get checked out by the doc

Pegases · Answer

I would say its either depression, or medication.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Anemia? Depression? There are quite a few medical conditions with fatigue.

AsaKyo · Answer

She's probably depressed because that's what I do when I feel that way

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Upset, bored, malnourished, parasites, overworked, or maybe just a very comfy bed. Could be a lot of reasons, ask her.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I would recommend getting her in to see a General Practice.

Blackcupcake · Answer

there could be a few different reasons for that, have you tried talking to her about it?

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TooHot2Care · Answer

So you might wanna take her to a sleep center. Do not fuck with your health.

annabananna · Answer

It could be. A lot of things. It could be anemia or depression…. It could also be her diet

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Have you had her visit her doctor? That doesn't seem healthy.

OddBeMe · Answer

I sometimes have that isssue when my psych meds disorient me. Then I get stsbby.

Justcurioustoday · Answer

Maybe she needs you to step it up a notch and engage her more? (Kinda) joking! :)

Anonymous · Answer

Could be deficient in something like iron or vitamin D. Also sounds like depression..

Anonymous · Answer

She may be lacking ironor other essential vitamins and minerals

FifiJones · Answer

Why would she do anything else?

itsalyssaagain · Answer

That sounds like me loool

Nikki1989 · Answer

Is she depressed?

MustangSue · Answer

take her to the doctor.

Anonymous · Answer

She wants to enjoy her off days

serious_miss419 · Answer

She’s been eating the edibles

Agape93 · Answer

Depression

msc545 · Answer

Is she depressed or ill?

Angieg03 · Answer

Could be depression...

Malwi93 · Answer

Depressed

riverrat3 · Answer

Depressed

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