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A woman said she doesn't want to do anything for her husband's birthday because she's pregnant. Is she in the right?
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(25-29) 
- 371 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
idkk bc I've never been preggo before but if she don't wanna go out then you gotta celebrate it with someone else or maybe do something together like inside
BUT if she didn't do anything for you then fuck that hoe. she can amazon ship you a gift lmfao
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what kind of excuse is that? she's being very unreasonable. is she legitimately sick? or just using pregnancy as an excuse? seems like she thinks everything is only about her, even on the day of her husbands birthday. ridiculously high maintenance woman
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Oh come on... you can still do something if you are prego.
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Would it kill her to make a wall poster for him? Just input a theme in your prompt, use Wonder, set the filter to "Watercolor," select the best option, export in HD to your phone, upload to DeviantArt's Sta. sh, download to a PC, load up Photoshop, set the dimensions to 16"x20", make the image make sense, do some nice edits, slap a logo on it in title safe margins, upload to DeviantArt with disclaimers, etc., download back to your phone in finished format, then go to Wal-Mart. The kiosk will do most of the rest.
In an hour, poof! You've got a poster he'll love. Initially AI-generated, and then edited with love. Then, just purchase the poster, purchase a 16x20 black poster frame (they're usually in the home decor section, not those larger frames with the actual movie posters), take home assemble, gift-wrap, and voila!
He gets to unwrap the wall poster of whatever you made that you know he'll like.
And here's the best part: the only thing that involves actual physical labor, is walking around the store. But if she's so pregnant that it hurts? Then just use an Amigo cart! That's why they have them. (That, and for all the super-obese diabetics and anyone with a sprained ankle, but I digress.)
Costs:
- $60 for a lifetime subscription to Wonder (if you haven't already done so. But it stays with you forever, even if you have to get a new phone.)
- Whatever Adobe charges a month for Photoshop (or, you could get Photoshop Elements, for a $100 one-time purchase. Or get a one-time $60 purchase of Affinity Photo instead. Or if you're really broke, download Krita for free.)
- About $16 for Wal-Mart to process your finished product.
- About $10 for the frame.
Worst-case scenario, costs are $186. But more realistically, especially if she gets Krita or Gimp, and sits through the ads on Wonder, it'll cost her $26-$30 or so.
Or, if she's especially lazy, just get a preexisting movie poster for something both of you already enjoy. Or, skip the posters, and get him camping gear. Hard to go wrong with camping gear.
No big parties, no major affair, no contacts, no drama. Just a simple multi-tool will usually do the trick. She sounds very un-creative though.
760 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic. I don't make a big deal about my birthday anyway. Having said that, I think we need more context. If she's JUST pregnant, meaning, yes, she's pregnant but she's not in pain or having a rough pregnancy, then this is a pretty weak excuse. If she IS having a rough pregnancy, or she's in her 8th or 9th month and having trouble moving around or being on her feet for very long, then she may have a legitimate reason. I would also say that WHAT he's hoping to DO makes a difference. There's a difference between a party with 100 guests with food and entertainment vs. having 3 or 4 friends over and blowing out some candles.
I'm pretty easy-going about these things, and my expectations and demands are pretty low. For example, I'd happily delay my birthday celebration a few months if that would make things easier for her.
Having said that, I *would* be upset if SHE had very high demands and very low flexibility about her own birthday. I don't generally date those kinds of women, but still, if she expects me to be flexible and understanding, then she had better be the same when it's HER celebration.
- Anonymous(45 Plus)
Doing something for a loved one doesn’t have to involve large amounts of people with tons of spending and decorating.. it can be a simple breakfast made with love and a little extra flower or a small gift that holds a thoughtful meaning, a note, a small candle dinner, a song, a poem. If someone doesn’t care even to do a small effort, saying you’re pregnant is just an excuse for your lack of care for that person. Maybe you don’t want to do a big party that’s understandable but doing nothing at all? The simplest little things are even more meaningful that giant parties where a bunch of people trash your house and get drunk, why are people so ignorant who knows.
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I wouldn't use terms like "right" or "wrong" to label the situation, but I think it's reasonable that the woman doesn't want to do anything for her husband's birthday
She's been carrying a baby, and will be carrying the baby for 9-10 months. I think it's reasonable that she needs a break for herself. -
Men are so damn clueless.. has nothing to do with "laziness" every woman has a different pregnancy some are so damn hard, this little person growing in our bellies make us sick, gives us pain in our ribs, back and stomach, gives us like little to no energy. I'm pregnant and can hardly move some days! I'm so uncomfortable! Doesn't mean she doesn't appreciate or love her partner. But pregnancy is so hard.
I think this needs more context to judge fairly. If she's a high-risk pregnancy, super pregnant and very tired and her husband wants a part or something, or she feels really sick, I think it's fair.
It depends on what he considers 'anything' and the background of her pregnancy.
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That depends. Is her pregnancy considered high risk? Is she dealing with sever sickness, or having some other pregnancy related issues?
Hell, maybe she’s close to the end and just simply exhausted.
He does plan on having other birthdays, yes? Maybe she won’t be growing a new human in her body when his birthday comes around next year, and she can give him 100% of her attention then.
I’d say yeah, she’s in the right if she doesn’t feel up to it. How far along is she? Is it a high risk pregnancy? Has the pregnancy been difficult for her? There are so many factors we do not know to truly be able to say whether she is in the wrong or the right. However, she could still do something small like get you a gift or do something special at home if she is unable to go out.
Yea, if she's tired and doesn't want to do anything, then she doesn't have to do anything. The woman's husband (I'm guessing the OP?) can find something to do that day that doesn't bug the sh*t out of his wife. Like dude, life happens. You can always try to celebrate your bday another day.
- Anonymous(36-45)
There really isn't a right and wrong to it. If she's having a difficult pregnancy, which can happen even in the first few months, "doing something" for her husband like planning a whole thing, may be too much. There are soo many symptoms and things that happen during pregnancy that make everything difficult. If anything, if this is the reason talking to her husband about it and just explaining why, is probably enough to help him understand her position if he doesn't already.
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Neither right or wrong. The husband might as well just try to be understanding that she's carrying his child and they can still do something low energy together, like a romantic walk. Celebrating things like birthdays are something I don't understand or like. It's just a day, and every day should be treated like a gift. Time with your beloved is precious. Just do something together.
1.4K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic. he's a grown man and shouldn't care that much about celebrating his birthday especially since his wife is pregnant. It's very difficult to be pregnant and he should be more understanding of that.
What does being pregnant have to do with being good to her husband?
No one would expect her to run a marathon. But, she can buy a cake and order gifts on Amazon. They would take almost no exertion and would celebrate the occasion.
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Um, lol. Being pregnant is not an excuse to not do anything, especially for a person you love and care about's special day.
Heck, I've seen pregnant women work up until their ninth month so how is that an excuse? Lol.
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It does not matter if she’s pregnant or not, if it’s a guy or girl, if one side does not feel like it, then it’s fine. No one should be that childish to expect to do something for their birthday, that shit stops when you are 12.
She's cooking the best present he'll ever get. His child.
Insufficient Data.
I mean nothing in a relationship should be an enforced obligation unless it was agreed in advance. We don't know if it was agreed in advance... ergo any answer would be uninformed.A goddamned adult male who is going to be a father shouldn't even want one.
no like being pregnant doesn't prevent you from at least going out and buying a cake and a couple presents
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