Why do so many women complain that men don’t ask them on proper dates or treat them respectfully in dating?

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I guess I don’t see this as much because I never have a hard time getting guys to take me to dinner or court me. I don’t do much to really get it. I’m a sweet girl. I just keep hearing some women complain that men won’t even pay for their coffee

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Mainly because most of those girls are selfish people , that only really care about themselves , they were raised to believe that they need to be pampered and taking care of at all times and wined and dined like the stupid love / romantic movies and shows that she watches making her believe that she deserves to be treated that way , that she was put on a earth to be catered to. and pampered that way , not realizing all that shit she is filling her head up with , is scripted bullshit , scripted to draw in her attention , Most females are glued to their phones and social media as well , constantly comparing her life to others , thinking she needs to be pampered that way for her to spread her legs or give her heart to someone, she constantly compares her life to others , mainly her friends , or people she knows , making her think grass is greener on the other side. Don’t get me wrong , most people in general like to be pampered at times , but if someone thinks they should be pampered at all times? , they are sadly in for a rude awakening , when they actually experience real life shit. As for most men we don’t waste our time on shit like that , we have more important things to worry about in life , like working and making money , keeping a roof over our head , food on our mouths , clothes on our backs etc. most men are in survival mode. If this earth blew up and some how some way some of us men and women were still alive , us men would automatically go into survival mode and do what we had to do to survive , Most selfish females wouldn’t have a clue what to do , because she is afraid of breaking a finger nail , or getting her hands dirty , Etc. Bitching and complaining she isn’t getting her way. , Men don’t focus on stupid shit like that and we don’t really give 2 shits about romantic movies and shows , we focus on reality. Where most females focus on useless shit that doesn’t really matter , like expensive clothes and perfumes , jewelry , eating at expensive restaurants driving expensive cars and living in luxurious homes , thinking her shit doesn’t stink , thinking she is better than everyone , look at me, look at me type of shit , Most guys’ might think she looks beautiful and gorgeous but if she has a snobby attitude , he might fuck her , but he more
Than likely won’t commit to her unless he is snooty as well and worries about what others think about him. I’m sorry to say , people that base their lives on what they think they should have , are people that are insecure about themselves , that think their shit don’t stink , they were raised with a silver spoon in their hand having everything given to them. Making themselves feel like they are better than everyone. Most guys’ don’t need that shit to be happy and content with life , they just want a girl that stands by him and stays loyal and faithful to him , that loves him from the heart , not what’s inside his wallet. I use to chase after gold digger girls’ until I realized I was just wasting my time , they don’t love from the heart , they love what’s inside your wallet , I only date girls ‘ that want to be my partner , that want to work together as a team , that has my back no matter what obstacles we face together , that to me is true love , being with someone that only needs you is true love. I am a very content guy and a hard worker , I am happy with the things I worked for and purchased on my own , I don’t need real
Expensive things to keep me happy , the only thing that keeps me happy is having a beautiful girl love me the way I love her , I don’t care if I end up living in a tent , as long as she is by my side is all that matters , she will be my gift from above , fuck everything else. I will not stay with a girl that doesn’t want to be my partner , I can easily take care of myself , , a girl that just wants money and to be pampered at all times , is a girl I will gladly give to someone else , they can have her , she brings no value into a relationship just misery Basoclaly thanks for a good time but not a long time

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Yo for real, I hear chicks complain bout that stuff all the time too. Honestly I think a lot of it is cuz dudes nowadays are just lazy af or scared to put in real effort.

Like it ain't that hard to take a girl on a proper date - a little romance never hurt nobody, ya feel? Pick her up, buy her dinner, maybe flowers or something. Show you actually care bout her and not just tryna smash.

But guys would rather just hit up girls on Instagram or Tinder tryna hook up instead of actually getting to know them. And then they wonder why the girl ain't impressed or wants something real with em!

I'm glad you ain't got those problems sis. You do seem like a real sweetheart so it makes sense dudes would step up their game for you. Maybe other girls just need to play harder to get like you do - get the guys chasing you instead of being too available, know what I mean?

Anyway keep doin you boo, you're obviously doin somethin right! Don't even trip about what other chicks say - you stay fly with ya man and let them figure it out, aight?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't complain, I just state the facts. And the fact is that unfortunatelly there are a lot of lazy manchildren with low EQ nowadays, especially in my age group. That's because we come from generation of emotionally unavailable fathers. Women, on the other hand are more emotionally available, but hella emotionally immature (same shit with fathers). So we now have a problem of communication. Like it or not women need to learn to get their emotions under control, so they could properly lead men in that department, because men alone can't. Many are left alone with their own devices, completely lost in this modern world. But most are willing to learn, and those that are not (those beyond saving) well they are easy to spot on early on. We all need therapy, to be honest, times are aweful. There is this cursed circle of emotionally unavailable people attracting each other and producing more emotionally unavailable humans, it really fucking has to stop.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's probably got to do with the men they are associated with.
Their standards are lower than they deserve, hence they always end up with children who don't know how to even take care of themselves.
I don't think a man should put in all the effort, it should be equal. I do believe that many women (and men also) settle for less just so they don't have to be alone.
They're looking for validation rather than a partner to spend their life with.

Summeroflove · Answer

Because they have a entitlement problem and they also refuse to communicate. If they would stop bitching behind their partners back and communicate directly to them. It would solve a lot of problems. As well as not just arguing over everything or waiting until they explode.

If they want something they need to ask and if they’re just not happy with the guy. Maybe they need to find someone else

Many times these women demand a lot and really don’t offer a lot in return. So the kind of men they want have options. It’s like incels hating all women. When all they do is bitch about women. What decent woman wants a sexist pig? What decent man wants a sexist pig.

If I do something nice for a woman I’m dating. I’m doing it to be nice, because I don’t have to. I don’t want a woman whose ungrestful and entitled, demands stuff and doenst offer anyrhing in return.

Don’t worry about those women. You do you you say you’re a sweet girl. Maybe that’s why men want you. As well as you aren’t entitled, appreciate what they do without being entitled, as well as offer something in return

MrOracle · Answer

You probably don't come across like you feel ENTITLED to such dates, and you probably even show that you appreciate them. If I could turn you into a man for a month and you had to interact with women you wanted to date, you would likely be shocked by women's behavior - not all of them, but a lot of them. So many women are SO entitled and so disrespectful that lots of men simply refuse to deal with them at all.

While some men have abandoned dating entirely, others are just more picky, only approaching women who are pleasant and grounded and don't obviously have completely unreasonable expectations. That means they take more time to observe how women interact with others and choose the ones with good morals and values and attitudes - as much as they can determine by simple observation anyway.

Note that this is separate from the men just looking for casual sex. Guys just looking to bang don't care how awful a girl's attitude might be - they won't keep her around long enough for that to matter.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

You talking about all those rabid women on TikTok posting their retardation for the world to see like it's some kind of personal diary?

I don't take most the bullshit that comes out of their mouths seriously. They exaggerate, contradict themselves, and if you listen hard enough they're usually just telling on themselves... meaning you can figure out why it's her fault. I believe it's where the meme "women can't take accountability" comes from.

Real life isn't like that at all. I say "real life" because a lot of these people perpetually think being online is real life. Carrying on LDR's or something like that with people they're not even seeing in physical form and can touch.

I'm just saying I've never had any issues when it's just face-to-face interaction, but I can put my phone down and interact without my phone sucking me back into that world every 5 minutes. Not sure if that's the cause of the women you hear complain, but that's what I'd be looking at first as a probability.

Anonymous · Answer

Women have backed themselves into a corner these days. They have fought hard for equality, and they have achieved it to that extent it is possible. Traditional female gender roles really only exist anymore when women want them to, and some women still choose to put themselves in those roles, which is fine because it's their choice. But most women still expect men to adhere to traditional male gender roles, such as being the one to pursue them, ask them out and pay for it. As a result, they limit their options to the men who are attracted to them and willing to take the risk of rejection. Women who are only approached by low quality men assume all men are low quality, which of course is false.

Many women don't experience the issue you're referring to here because they give the image of a quality woman. But women who consitently end up with low quality men have to ask themselves why. The answer is either that, as they are, they are not capable of attracting good men, or they have poor taste in men and are accepting dates from the wrong types.

The only solutins are: 1) become better women so they can attract better men, 2) reevaluate their tastes in men, or 3) stop being passive and start approaching the men they want instead of hoping those men will approach them.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I don't understand it, either. I am a very traditional male. I am engaged now and living with my fiancée so my dating days are in the past. When I was dating, I used online sites, conducted myself as a gentleman should, asked women to meet me for a dinner date on a Friday or Saturday night, walked them to their car at the end of the first date, and usually got a goodnight kiss and a second date.

Many - certainly not all - young guys have a hostile attitude towards women and they wonder why girls don't want to be with them! DUH!

RavVid · Answer

It is probably because of the women's attitudes and lack of respect from them that a guy writes her off during the date.

I have had dud dates of course but never one that bad not to pay for her. I would expect a good faith date that we might be attracted to each other. Maybe that works or it doesn't. If her attitude was inappropriate like some you see on youtube or tiktok then I might consider it inappropriate to pay. Hasn't happened yet.

As you are a sweet girl I'm not surprised you are in demand.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

To those complaining, three things to do.
1 - Be attractive to the opposite sex (And I'm not talking looks.)
2 - Be good to man you're after. Be good to him and he'll be good to you.
3 - Go after a good man. Sure other man can treat you on dates too, but the dating or relationship won't last so there is no point.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Girls that tend to do this are one of the following.

Entitled.

Or

Unattractive.

That second one being a little harsh I know, but consider how hard it must be for guys that most girls aren’t attracted too…. Imagine taking the time and effort to put yourself out there to approach multiple women and get turned down.

Yeah, there are some dudes that go through this.

At the end of the day, life isn’t picture perfect

Lionman95 · Answer

Because they meet guys that haven´t been taught how to date. A guy doesn´t understand why courting is important if nobody shows him what that does with a woman. Instead he just sees the cost and tries to go the easiest way.

Sure he can figure that out at some point but that takes more time. So it depends on what kind of guys you meet and where.

Anonymous · Answer

I gave up trying to be a gentleman because girls nowadays don’t appreciate it. Then they black ball you and label you as a creep or fake nice guy to make him feel like utter shit because she can’t show affection back because of her distorted past of her bad decisions dealing with douche bag guys. That’s the cold hard truth. Yeah, I admit, as a guy, some guys out there are sexual deviants, some guys are psycho, some guys will harass. But there are whack girls out there who will say FUCK YOU over a misunderstanding…that’s shows her stupid immaturity. Guys and men are not perfect but I will assertively/confidently state girls and women are not perfect, far far far from it. If women only want 6’4 guys who look like Travis Kelci then ladies get off your ass and go travel the world to meet that type of dude and reject every other dude because playing and toying with a guys feelings because you’re bored is childish, immature and karma comes around.

DARKCLOUD1945X · Answer

I was very lucky girlfriend / wife was a lot like me casual. We would go to very nice places that did not require fancy dress, We both liked the casual life but when life demanded fancy dress we could dress up. To us a proper date was for us to enjoy our time together and not worry about our dress and proper decorum and a large bill for a small amount of food and wine.. A great date could be Franks and French fries at Nathans Famous LOL

LiamJHayden · Answer

Probably because enough women are willing to give guys what they want with little effort. It is just part of the, "If a guy gets all of the benefits of marriage without the commitment, he probably will not commit." If a guy can get the sex he craves without even taking a girl on "proper dates" then why bother planning "proper dates" in the first place?

SolitarySolace · Answer

Probably because the majority of women these days don't deserve respect. 🤷🏻‍♂️ And men are probably sick and tired of dating. They'd rather stay home and play video games. I don't blame them. Women are fucking terrible these days

Anonymous · Answer

Because it's the internet. And to quote Banky "that's what the internet is for, slandering others anonymously".😆

Most of these women just want to complain. If guys were to ask them, she'd likely just reject him anyhow. And if by some miracle she didn't she'd find 30 others faults with him.

So don't worry about it. It's been my experience that REAL women do not behave this way.

Dishwasherowner · Answer

A lot of non traditional women want traditional men. A lot of them have male tendencies like going out drinking clubbing shaking ass being a city girl but want a provider, a guy to treat them like a queen dates flowers the whole nine yards but also wants to be able to do whatever the want and not be told what to do and use hot phrases like insecure or controlling to gaslight you most of them aren’t submissive and are more man than woman

JacobJordan · Answer

The women complaining are the same women that make false accusations against men, have unrealistic expectations, disrespect men, insult guys who look at them, and many other things. Then they get butthurt that no one wants to deal with them.

asaduddin_owaisi · Answer

A lot of women only want the best. They think they're doing us average-looking men a favour by even talking to us. If a good-looking guy treats her terribly, she will still lust after him and stick around hoping he'll change. Women pretty much have all the leverage in dating and relationships before the age of 30.

Unit1 · Answer

That's what happens when women are passive, lazy (in dating), waiting for things to happen and allow life to take it's course rather than being proactive and going after men, who do treat them good.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

All the girls I know are more than happy with the dates they go on, I hear very few horror stories, maybe they are better at filtering the bad dates.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

A great many women don't bring enough to the table to warrant heavy courtship. You apparently do, so congrats, and keep doing the right thing.

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