How do you tell a guy he's clingy, annoying, and needy without being a total bitch? I really need to know...

[Anonymous]

I thought this guy was pretty great at first until he started getting really pouty and whiney when ever I didn't/couldn't talk to him whenever he wanted me to. Everyday he asks when he's gonna see me, tell me he misses me, and then gets mad if I can't hang out. We've only been talking for less than a month and he is trying to get really serious really fast. I'm moving in five months and I don't want attachments and he won't take that as an answer. He's trying to say we could do a long distance thing. I need to get rid of him without being really mean about it because we have a lot of mutual friends and I don't want the group splitting and taking sides.

[coolbeans01]

Don't be a bitch about it and don't sugar coat it.

If its not going to work then tell him that. Just tell him straight up, "listen I'm moving in a few months and and its going to be a new start for me so I don't know what's going to be happening, all I know is that I'm not looking for a relationship right now, especially a long distance one, if you want to be friends then that's fine if not then I don't know what to tell you"

Other then that if he is going to constantly be clingy then that's his problem, he'll realize eventually and he'll stop. If he gets really annoying then just ignore his texts and phone calls, there really isn't much more you can do.

[beastman88]

there really is no way to sugar coat it or try and not to sound like a bitch. I've thought about it, and really how ru going to sugar coat saying you don't want to be with that person? plain and simple you cant, so just be straight up and be you, and thisll be a learning experience for him and hell grow from it. hope this helped

[CDenatale]

Be matter-of-fact and polite about what you need and want. He needs to respect your space. Moreover, care about yourself foremost. Don't worry so much about his feelings. He is responsible for that. Odds are that he'll think of you as "bitch" regardless of how you say it, but you'll always know the truth.

[martyfellow]

I'd just stop answering his messages and when he does get in touch, tell hi you're moving and really busy getting ready for that. Be matter of fact about it, no need to get nasty.

I think he'll get the hints prettyquickly and leave you alone.