I know I shouldn’t but I’ll start talking about the clingy/weird/overly interested guys I’ve had to deal with and usually they’ll listen as if they’re taking mental notes but they almost always seem annoyed and confused that I would even bring it up. It’s like I can’t help myself then most of the time that particular guy I told becomes a story to tell the next guy, however I realised because I complained about the clingy guys, the chasing types, wanting to hold my hand early on etc being a bit all over me. they tend to not show much interest in me
Reverse the roles. How would you feel if a guy talked nonstop about other girls he dated? A date is time for you to get to know each other. If he doesn’t ask about your dating history, don’t offer it. If he does, make your response concise and bring it right back to him. Also, don’t complain at all, ever. That leaves a terrible impression. Learn to flip the script. If you found a guy too clingy, then YOU appreciate your own independence. If a guy chased to hard, then YOU prefer a subtler approach. You can learn from your past dates, but what you take with you shouldn’t be about them. It should be about you. And the next guy wants to know about you, not them.
That revelation also works in other aspects of life, by the way. It’s pure gold in job interviews.
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That’s something you do not want to mention on a date with a new guy. You focus should be on him rather than making it look like it may be elsewhere and when you’re on a date with a new person, that person doesn’t want to hear complaining, however justified. Keep the mood positive and focused on him.
Complaining about stuff like that I’m sure makes others afraid to make affectionate moves on you in general. Everyone is afraid of rejection and you are focusing too much on the “do nots” to the point where it makes it difficult for men to test their limits (which many men try doing)
Yeah, it is bad. Keep that for your therapist or close friends. If you're starting to date someone you want to meet that person and enjoy, not listen about the ex. I think those "mental notes" are they trying to figure how to cut that annoying conversation asap.
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Discussing "exes" is a sure way to tube a date.
You're SUPPOSED to be getting to know each other, not crab about former relationships.
Doing so makes it sound like you're not over it and therefore only dating for your self-esteem and personal gain.You are essentially badmouthing others while on a date. That is not a good look. You are talking about others while on a date that is supposed to be about you two. That gives the impression you're not that into the guy you are with.
I'm really not interested in hearing anything about past relationships unless it's to make a brief point.
Yes, that is a bad strategy... you know why?
Yup. Pretty bad. In fact it’s one of worst things to do
Don't talk about your past in dates unless asked about it.
It's not the time or the place. It's a turn-off. Save that for your girl friends.
Don’t worry a good guy wouldn’t think less of you. I wouldn’t I would like to see what type of person you are. Also going by your profile pic you are stunning
Yeah, we generally aren't interested to talk about guys when we talk to girls. Makes it seem like you're more interested in them than us.
Yeah, it can give the impression off that you either attract the wrong men or are cocky
It would turn me off if my (first) date started complaining about the men she dated.
Avoid talking about other people you have dated while on a date.
that’s literally the definition of a red flag u should not do that lol
What do you think? Do you like hearing a new guy complain about past b****es? Well then, you have your answer.
It is if you want a second date
It's definitely a bad thing.
Of course he thinks your being vain
Probably not a good idea.
Nope not at all
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