My husband doesn't cry?

[Anonymous]

I was talking to my husband, and one of his friends died recently, well, two really, but he hasn't cried at all, I can tell he is upset, because He's working harder then ever, and not saying much, and that's what he does when he's upset.

I thought about it, and He's never cried in the entire 8 years we've been together. Or not that I've seen at least, and His mother says he rarely cried when he was a kid as well

Is this unusual for a man? Why doesn't he cry?

[Orion1084]

I don't know if it's normal, or not, but I am the exact same way. As a matter of fact, I don't think I've cried since I was about 10, honestly.

It doesn't have anything to do with trying to appear "masculine", either. Some people would think so, but it doesn't. We still feel the emotions, but we let them out in different ways. Like you said: he's working harder. Likely, he's just channeling his grief into his work. I don't see anything wrong with that. It gives him an outlet, and a way to work through things.

I know you didn't ask, and I don't know if you would do so, but I wouldn't push him into letting out his feelings. Your best bet is to just let him work through things in the way that makes sense. You are his spouse, and that lends itself to a certain amount of emotional sharing, but in this situation, I don't believe it would be welcome, or helpful.

Best to just let him do what he needs, and be there to offer your love and support if he asks for it. :-)

[Asker]

Thank you for replying, I've been trying not to push him, but I've felt bad that he's not talking or letting it out, But eh, now I might not feel so bad after reasing that

[srslyly]

I haven't cried since I was about fifteen. I've felt the tear glands working, but nothing comes out. Women's tear glands are more productive and your tear ducts are smaller. Also, not many men deal with problems by talking about them or openly emoting. We have our own way. It's normal.

[youngisthan]

Men's rarely cry and when they cry its not necessary they cry in front of someone.
He would be crying from inside and just controlling his emotions so not to come on his face.
Guys are like this only they would show there happiness, anger but would never show there emotional side.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

He might cry alone. Then there's some people that don't cry because that might not be the way they process and grieve. If he doesn't he doesn't but I say if talking doesn't work all the way then just let that person go through their own motions on how they grieve.

[Anonymous]

People deal with grief in different ways. I consider it normal.

[abzence]

Maybe he cries when he's alone. That's what I do when I need to.
Most males don't cry in front of others since most of us are expected to be supermen and have a heart of stone and never show weakness.

[Prettygurl12]

My father didn't cry at his father's funeral. His three brothers and our entire family cried. And he was there, stoic as ever.