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Well, its not the fact of ugliness that turns people away. In my opinion, it's the stupid belief that girls must look like supermodels or guys must be almost steroid buff to look good. Its all in everyone's head. Its not reality but that's what most people perceive it as because they are stubborn and arrogant. LOOKS. SHOULD. NOT. MATTER!!! If girls think you don't look good, then say fuck em cause they're missing out. I know it's not always right to blame other people. But in this case, how most people get attracted to each other is fucking STUPID! If a guy is not super buff or "attractive", it doesn't mean people should just look the other way especially is they have the right personality. Do not change who you are bro! I'm a guy as well and I used to get called ugly back in sophmore year. Now in my first year of college, I actually know a cute girl with a CRUSH on me. She's not the kind of girl that's too easy to get either. Yet, I'm thinking about looking elsewhere because I know for a fact our personalities don't match and would cause drama and misery. Looks aren't everything. Yes, everyone including you always have improvements to make themselves a better person, but if you are a friendly person with a humanistic mindset and good personality and girls aren't into you, its time to give everyone the middle finger and keep moving on! Love isn't everything and usually is shit these days anyways so just keep up the good work and focus on a good career that you love. Girls DO NOT always equal happiness!! (and by the way for any girl reading this, keep in mind this all goes for y'all too. We're all humans with this problem I know!!)
lol this is so sad, I should've cried over how fugly you think you are and the abhorring lack of confidence, but I can't find the tears.
Man don't waste your precious early 20s on that shit, you're gonna regret it so bad when you're older. You'll think to yourself: wtf was I doing back then? All you need is to learn, get with just any girl and your confidence will hit the roof down from where it is now. Most importantly, you will learn so many things about women as well.
Here is what unattractive is to women, which I could take note of and learn over the years: Being manly ugly is in demand by females, just ugly with no added masculinity or femininity is also okay. The only type of ugly that women deem as unattractive is someone who looks or tries to look feminine! For instance: weak facial features, wrong distribution of hair on face, hair patches, severe acne and any unmanly features you can think of. If you don't have any of these, then you should STFU, up your game and get it out. Learn how to approach women from thousands of tutorials on YouTube, because you clearly have no idea how to.
Watch this and guess which guy do you sound like:
It really doesn't sound like you're very confident in this post... but if you want some advice it's to work on how you present yourself in a number of ways:
- smells nice, has a style, nails trimmed, haircut, clean, etc. (shows you care and exudes confidence)
- has goals and hobbies/interests (job, car, not living with parents, not holed up playing video games 24/7)
- has common interests with a girl you like
- social: you surround yourself with people who build you up, has friends, decent-close relationship with family, can hold a conversation (doesn't just talk about yourself), funny (guys are instantly more attractive when they can make me laugh)
- honest, loyal, kind, funny, supportive, respectful etc.
A lot of these traits don't necessarily fade or change like appearances do. Also who we are attracted to is a subjective thing. I don't think it's bad or even that unusual that you are in the 18-24 age group and haven't had one. Also, the fact that you have been rejected is normal but also shows you put yourself out there which is a good thing! It's really hard to do.
Respectfully, you are far from ugly, in fact, you're very good looking with good eyebrows, but honestly you don't look like you like yourself at all. Your eyes look very pained, which is understandable, but in all sympathy, may I ask, How much pride do you take in your appearance? Do you style yourself in a way that makes you feel at your best? it's depressing, because in your description to this question, it sounds as though you feel as though you aren't worthy of even making an effort, which is very sad because you seriously don't ever need to feel this way. Remember, as others have pointed out, us girls suffer from rejection too. Also, nobody is desired by everybody. With that being said, people are right to talk about confidence in some ways, because if already it's written in your eyes that you don't believe you are handsome (even though you are) along with if you dress like it, it can drive people away from you. In all, I pray God sets you up with the right woman, because it's best to have a woman who both desires and values you at the same time.
All the Best
You're more than likely going out of your league. I don't know for sure if you're ugly or not since I can't see you, but I am just going to take your word for it. So I am wondering if you're just going for the beautiful women and not paying attention to the ones in your own league. I know a guy who is the same situation as you. I wouldn't call him ugly. I don't see him as ugly, and if he wasn't so picky, I'd go for him. I know I don't stand a chance with him though. He wants a tall woman, she has to be at 5'7. She has to have black long hair and blue eyes. She has to be thin and have perfect cheekbones. He's actually put what he is physically looking for in a Facebook status once. He says she can be a bitch though as long as she meets his standards physically. There are plenty of nice women who would probably date him, but he will not go for them if they don't meet his standards. He isn't a young guy either. He's just turned 32 and never had a relationship.
So are you similar to him?
Everyone gets rejected. I'm not best or worst looking and I've been rejected by 100% of guys I pursued.
Don't lose hope. Will it be harder to find someone? Yes. Will you be rejected? Yes. But will you find someone eventually? Yes. Don't ever "settle" or sell yourself short.
Also, learn to be happy while being alone. People who aren't usually REEK of desperation and it is off putting. So learn more about yourself, love yourself and be happy while single. If you're search of happiness lies in others (aka a girlfriend), than you'll never be truly happy nor satisfied, no matter how many girls you get, no matter how hard you try. FYI
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I honestly doubt the physical appearance is your biggest problem.
You need to STOP whining immediately. Why do you refer to your apparent '4' rating in every post? You have taken this way too literally.
Its all about the way you approach the women not about your looks.
For example: I am 27, bought a house and moved out of my parents when I was 19. I own a car, I dress very well and keep myself well groomed. I do housework, I can cook. I have a well paying job and I stay very fit. I travel international every year and have renovated my house. I play two sports, including golf which I play at at a very high amateur level. By all accounts I am highly intelligent and hold interesting conversations.
But guess what? I have been single for 4 years for all but one simple reason. I am very shy. I have mental brick walls stopping me from approaching women. Maybe that and I dont shout out to the world or brag about myself all the time.
Thing is, I dont complain about it, I just get on with what makes me happy, a woman might fall into my life but I'll let that happen when it happens. Until then you'll find me on the golf course :D
If you can pick your balls up off the floor, before someone steps on them, you can start on the road to pussy as soon as YOU stop holding yourself back.
Listen, be successful and make lots of $...$ is very pretty to the gals,
If you can't make $, date ugly or fat girls. If you don't mention anything about her weight, this gal may be your ticket to love...
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Try dating amputees / disabled gals...
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You can also go to Amsterdam. For 50 Euro a pop... all the pussy you want... hundreds to choose from.
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Some of the girls even have a penis... no extra charge!
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If you fail at all this... just go queer...
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Maybe your are like some pretty girls that have ugly, raggedy vaginas. You may be an ugly guy that has a pretty dick. The queers will love to suck your pretty dick... well really, they would like to suck it pretty or not!
Good luck!
I would say it's more of a mindset than confidence but that's important too. Everyone once in a while you there videos of out of shape out, not very attractive women posting some video expressing themselves confidently. For example I've seen a video of a rather large girl doing dancing. She was confident in herself and I found her attractive because of it. I would have never done so otherwise. She seemed like a really cool girl I would love to get to know.
In regards to a mindset I've learned something a long time ago looks mean nothing. Majority of the cool attractive girls in high school work in Walmart and have 3 kids by the age of 20. Outside of a short fling as long as they aren't repulsing looks are pretty far down the line when it comes to important qualities. You don't want to date a 10. Why? Because they are often fake, spend large amount of time perfecting their image. 10s want to date 10s because they are both equally focused on their appearance. Call me crazy but being a nice person, having passion/drive, a job, and not mentally unstable are far more important to me than looks are. I have not a shred of doubt that if I'm rejected by someone they are missing out. Not my loss. I saw this video from Jenna Marbles about "nice guys" and I think it's pretty accurate check it out.
You are not ugly, dude. But anyways, a guy's appearance is not everything. Even 'ugly' is a vague word, I really don't know what ugly would like if it was a person. LOL
If someone is really really really unattractive, they can try to compensate the lack of good physical apparence by other things; like being fun to be with, having a good sense of humor, trying to overcoming insecurities, at least not showing them to people, being ambitious/having a good job, being interesting/having hobbies.
Read some self-help, relationships books.
And lastly, if you don't love yourself, nobody's gonna love you.
Martinhelper... It really comes down to confidence which you say you have. I'm not considered attractive at all but it doesn't stop me from talking to a woman. When I was younger, I wouldn't approach a woman because of all the "what if" scenarios that you put yourself through, but as you get older, most women really don't look at your attractiveness "as much" though it plays a small part. I personally think as long as you're showing that confidence and are being yourself then most women are drawn to that type of aura or vibe and they will approach you. Just keep doing you my man and you'll be good to go. Trust me, this is coming from someone who is just like you.
Smile :) And don't just have confidence and appear interesting, be friendly and witty. You could probably improve your appearance by working out and getting some muscle. I think it'll suit your body type more. And get contacts. Not that there is anything wrong with glasses, but it's making you have a baby face. You need to be a bit more manly.
But seriously, there are lots of girls out there with the exact same problem. You're either looking in the wrong places or are doing something wrong like creeping her out.
Odds are someone in your family thought you were a cute kid but you were raised insecurely and hence you're here upset about how you're apparently unattractive since that's what you latched your self worth onto. Doesn't matter that every single girl you approached rejected you unless one of them physically said something like "You're not just average, you're ugly." (Internet ratings don't count, the average here is a 3.5/10 for males looks-wise).
It doesn't matter how good looking you are or how good looking she is, if a girl can tell that you've got a potentially dangerous set of insecurities, you will be rejected. Arrogance is no compensation; I know this through personal experience.
I got ripped, educated myself, learned German, learned Electric and Acoustic Guitar, became a U. S. Marine, learned how to go down the right way on girls, and developed a very funny, charming, and sincere personality. I treat every woman in my life like my best friend, and treat every girl I date like she is my wife. Word spreads from there. I had to. If I had to rely on my looks, I would still be a virgin. And, yes, I have has several girls that were WAY to attractive for me. I mean WAY out of my league. But a lot of girls do like a 'Good and Descent Guy' over a studly asshole. Not many women, but there are some, (usually well over 30 years old). Just like me - I put no weight whatsoever on a girl's looks. I become, literally, more and more sexually attracted to women as I get to know, and LIKE their personalities.
Success Criteria is going to vary from person to person or scenario to scenario. But I hate to admit that confidence is apart of that criteria.
1. Be funny, make people laugh and bring joy to their lives
2. Be romantic, show the you are loving and caring
3. Be mysterious and/or bad boy. I don't know why, women love jerks. So be nice, but be a bad boy.
4. Be responsible for your actions, follow up on your actions. If you say your going to some thing, DO IT
5. Don't chase, let them come to you. Be appoarchable.
6. Do things that make you interesting to people, and want to be your friend. Be friendly and outgoing
7. Be a gentlemen, and treat them with respect. But lets admit it. Women like a chase. Be hard to get and always be busy
If your confidence is what you say it was you wouldn't be making this post. Just saying.
Anyways, your question. You have to strengthen your weaknesses. Make yourself more presentable and appealing.
Girls generally speaking care more about a guy being confident.
Having something he's passionate about and pursuing that passion.
Has a job that he's recognized for.
And is "in control". Being a take charge kind of man while respecting her thoughts/feelings/needs. Girls want to be treated with respect as an equal, rightfully so.
Unfourtunately bud
Its all about laws of demand and supply... I must say its not a fair world and if you can ever land a women you find really attractive and she loves you, Id be really happy for you
However at the end of the day, its supply and demand and what the market finds sexy vs not
So best advice if its really a problem and you want a better answer then the typical have confidence or just look for a women who loves you for you. If you want to be 'james bond' in a sense, increase your social rapport in the world, increase status, capitalize on your brain and your quirkiness if you have any and all shall come pal
smell good,
great hair cut.
nails in shape.
good cloths.
car
successful
intellectual!!!
dosnt play video games all day
have your own place
start going out with new friends
good language.
PARTY!!!
be honest!
really... you are wrong. there is no such thing as UGLY! ugly is your personality or something you are doing thats a "turn off" women over come the " must be hot and have an 8-pack" phase quiet young!
hope this helps!
good luck
Most things in life is that of perception. Life is very much what you perceive it to be. I see "ugly" guys all the time being with hot girls. I see "hot" guys ask why they aren't scoring girls.
The point is you need to go out there and get the life that you want and the same goes for everyone else. You need to believe yourself in the things you desire. Or figure it out what you desire. It is not about making yourself "hot" or beautiful, by doing it, you will naturally become attractive. It is more important than all the books in the world, the religions combined, dating advice from Don Juan, etc.
Life is 90% what we think happens and 10% what actually happens to us. Once you believe it, your views on yourself and life will completely change. You probably won't have a giant epiphany on this tonight.
First of all you're not ugly and second of all it is possible to fall in love with a guy you don't find handsome. Guys say that's bs girls just say that but I know since I am now crushing a guy I don't find good looking. But after you fall in love with someone they'll be handsome to you
get plastic surgery?
lol, just kidding. but bro if this guy here can do it then you can do it with your eyes closed
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but of course he might be a multimillionaire and that wouldn't really be a triumph if you want a girl to really love you. but you can really try to be more outgoing and confident as supposedly women really find that irresistible in a guy
I think you have to be honest with yourself if you aren't already. By that I mean don't go after girls that are out of your league. You will get spoon fed a lot of bull shit when looking for advice, but the reality is, you just need to go after ugly girls, plain and simple.
They say to never ask a girl about girls, and I think this has some truth to be honest. Ask a guy about his success. Anyways, I always thought if you're single (as I am), it is best to improve yourself and interests. For me, I work out a bit and I read and watch shows regarding my interests. When I meet girls, I at least have some physical attraction for them and quite a lot to talk about if we have anything in common. Patience is a virtue, apparently. Eat healthy and learn to cook too. I know some people say she should love me for being me and to never change yourself but that doesn't mean you can't improve yourself. Good luck bro. It is a tough world for everyone.
You may not exactly have a personality that seems "good" to a lot of people. Just because you think you're personality is great, other's may see it as off putting and cocky because as you put it, you're physically ugly. Girls that are unattractive go through the same things. They can be really awesome but if they're ugly, guys don't really seem to want them. You could try getting a really nice body, if you don't have one already. That's what most girls have to do. Not to mention, though. Almost everyone I meet tells me that I'm extremely beautiful and that my body is amazing and that I'm super sweet and smart and funny, and I've never had a boyfriend and have barely ever been on any dates. So, I don't really think it has anything to do with looks..
I'd still recommend the gym to guys honestly. I know some will say "but my face is still ugly" but just like guys are with preferences with girls, girls are pretty much the same way about guys. In the end being in front of someone in a healthy state says a lot more than some guy crippling away at 2% body fat wondering why his abs aren't picking up the ladies.
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