Would you be annoyed if your girlfriend only wears underwear to bed? How should I take my boyfriend's response?

[Anonymous]

I prefer to only wear underwear to bed even if my boyfriend is staying over. Last night it was a normal night and I got in bed like usual but he looked annoyed when he saw what I looked like. I was kind of bothered by it but got in bed anyway but once I got it he said "Dammit [my name], do you ever just wear clothes to bed?" I got really embarrassed and immediately put on some sweats and a t-shirt.

[Kurai]

Well I guess you can look at it in two points of view. In mine I wouldn't do something like that. Well I'm a dude so if the person I liked was dressed like that to bed while I was there I would probably feel a bit uncomfortable. I mean I guess it really depends. Maybe he just wants to wait or something. I don't really know. Depends how long you've been dating. Level of intimacy. Stuff like that. If it was a marriage I don't see where there would be a problem. But dating there's just a lot of other factors and stuff like that.

[Asker]

Ummm... we aren't waiting. I don't want to be crude but we... engage in sexual intercourse often.

[FierceBrosnan]

Why on earth would any guy get annoyed by that?

[Asker]

Is there anything that could make you annoyed about that?

[FierceBrosnan]

Literally no. Unless you've worn the same underwear for a week straight.

[Asker]

Hahaha, definitely haven't done that. Do you think it could be that he doesn't find me attractive?

[FierceBrosnan]

He might have some body image issues of his own. Your boyfriend is an odd case though.

[Asker]

No, he is pretty confident in his body. He's very athletic and plays baseball for our college.

[FierceBrosnan]

So hot guy I'm going to assume hot girl... I don't see why he'd have a problem with it. Does he sleep in a suit?

[Asker]

I wouldn't exactly say I am hot but I don't think I have the worst body or face... Also, he sleeps in boxers and sometimes a shirt. It pisses me off because he doesn't sleep with much on but he wants me to.

[FierceBrosnan]

Maybe he has a pajamas fetish?

[Asker]

I don't think so. I can only think he isn't attracted to my body. I am going to sound really insecure but would you not be attracted to my body?

[FierceBrosnan]

Honestly I would be totally attracted. That's the thing that doesn't make any sense. From what you described you have a nice body.

[Asker]

Thank you. Hopefully he feels the same way.

[FierceBrosnan]

He better! That is just such a weird thing for him to do it makes absolutely no sense.

[Asker]

Is there anyway I can tell if he is actually attracted to my body without asking him directly?

[FierceBrosnan]

Continue to parade around half naked and see if he actually likes it? That's about all I can think of because this dude makes literally no sense at all.

[Asker]

I already do that and he has never minded.

[FierceBrosnan]

I'm starting to wonder if he is secretly into guys or seeing someone else on the side else wise the boy has a serious screw loose. I'd say post a pic so we can see just how broken his perception of reality is but I know you would prefer to remain anonymous.

[Asker]

He will just usually pick me up, set me on his lap, and sometimes start to kiss me or he will run up behind and tickle me. I am extremely ticklish and hate being tickled.

[FierceBrosnan]

That is sweet and adorable. Was he just having a really off day when this happened?

[Asker]

Maybe he is...

[FierceBrosnan]

But that seems like the least likely scenario.

[Asker]

I am sorry we are like one comment behind each other. His best friend and I went out to a movie and he did say that my boyfriend had a rough practice.

[FierceBrosnan]

Maybe he was just really down after that. And no worries lol!

[Asker]

I guess he could have been... his best friend said that the coach flipped out and that my boyfriend was in the line of fire. He was supposed to go to the movie with my boyfriend but he didn't want to go after what happened so the friend asked me to go instead. Do you really think he might be gay or cheating on me?

[FierceBrosnan]

Gay or cheating would be at the extreme end of reasons especially if the clothes in bed thing was a one time incident. If he got chewed up that bad during practice then he very well may have been taking his internal frustration out in an odd way. Like he didn't feel you should be all sexy around him because he doesn't deserve it after a day that bad.

[Asker]

But why would he be annoyed and pissed off at me? He didn't even tell me anything I had to find out when I was hanging out with his friend.

[FierceBrosnan]

I have no idea. Unless he was mad that you were hanging out with his friend.

[Asker]

But why? We only went to the movies and then picked up take out and brought him food.

[FierceBrosnan]

A bad day and a little bit of jealousy can go a long way in someones head.

[Asker]

I don't understand why he would be jealous. I knew and hung out with his friend before I even knew him.

[FierceBrosnan]

I have no idea. Is he on any medications?

[Asker]

Haha, no he's not. Ummm... but if I am completely honest he could've been jealous because the friend and I did hook up a few times before I met my boyfriend but he wouldn't know about unless the friend told him...

[FierceBrosnan]

That is very likely the issue.

[Asker]

But I don't think he knows. I didn't want to hurt him so I didn't say anything... he knows that I slept with only two other people he just doesn't know who.

[FierceBrosnan]

And that was before you two ever started dating. There has got to be some reason.

[Asker]

I met my boyfriend through this guy. I mean he could've told him because he was pissed when I started dating my boyfrined and didn't talk to me for a month... and they do tell each other everything...

[FierceBrosnan]

Well we've narrowed down the possibilities. Has your boyfriend been acting normal since that night?

[Asker]

He barely talked to me yesterday and has been on and off today. He is staying over tonight though.

[FierceBrosnan]

Well I hope things work out tonight and he'll share whatever it is that has actually gotten into him.

[Asker]

I will probably try to go to bed without clothes to see how he reacts and to see if I have anything to worry about. Does that sound like a decent idea?

[FierceBrosnan]

It does to me! If he doesn't like that then the boy needs therapy.

[Asker]

Sorry if telling you this crosses the line but I figured if I go to bed naked tonight and he gets pissed off that it wasn't just because he was angry about practice.

[FierceBrosnan]

I agree. And no lines crossed! Won't know until you test the waters with him so might as well go for it.

[Asker]

I mean I have slept naked with him a few times and he was more than happy, so two nights ago was so confusing for me.

[FierceBrosnan]

I do hope it works and I can't think of any reason why it wouldn't.

[Asker]

Thanks and I hope it works as well.

[FierceBrosnan]

It better! I will fly out there and have words with him if it doesn't!

[Asker]

Well then in the morning I will bother you again telling you if you need to buy a plane ticket or not!

[FierceBrosnan]

SWEET! PM me or whatever if you want to lol. I really do hope this is just a "him having a really bad couple of days" thing.

[Anonymous]

I would have taken off my underwear just to piss him off. Maybe he wakes up sometimes in the middle of the night and seeing you in underwear gets him hard but he can't wake you up for sex cause it would be selfish and inconsiderate. I don't know. But that is weird. The only reason a guy would be upset with his girlfriend in only underwear is if he isn't getting any.

[TheLastMusashi]

"if he isn't getting any." Best answer. If he's not getting any cover up a bit hide them goods because it's only going to anger and frustrate.

[PippiL]

Well, you're going to have to ask HIM why he cares so much, because I have no idea why a sane heterosexual man would. "Why don't you like the fact that I sleep in my underwear?" Is pretty to-the-point.

[HeatherLopez]

What?
Is this the first time he has seen you like that?

[Asker]

No. He has stayed over 20+ times.

[HeatherLopez]

and you have gone to bed the exact same way all 20+ times?

[Asker]

Yeah.

[HeatherLopez]

girl... i have no idea. sounds like he has an issue communicating or something was bothering him that night.

what did he say or do when you put sweats and a t-shirt on? have you two addressed it?

[Asker]

He didn't say anything but he just looked pleased and we settled into bed like we usually do. I haven't said anything yet and I am scared to hear what he has to say...

[HeatherLopez]

My take... talk to him about it. What could he possibly say that would be so bad?

[Asker]

That he isn't attracted to me...

[HeatherLopez]

if that is the case, wouldn't you want to know that now rather than later?

[Asker]

I guess so... I never thought I had a terrible body and now I am concerned. I am a 32DDD and a size 2-4... no one has ever had complaints...

[HeatherLopez]

Your boyfriend sounds high maintenance.

[Asker]

... He never has been.

[Orion1084]

Why would that bother me?

I think my girlfriend is insanely sexy, and less clothing means more closeness. I like holding her at night, and feeling her skin against mine is very satisfying. We feel very close and content when we do that.

The only thing she has to worry about is my hard-on pressing against her ass all night, but she doesn't mind that part. :)

[Asker]

Do you have an idea of why that would bother him?

[Orion1084]

I honestly have no idea, unless he's just uncomfortable with it. Uncomfortable with the idea, I mean, not with you. I'm not sure why he would be, though. Maybe he feels that it's inappropriate for some reason?

I'm assuming, that since you are sharing a bed, you've been intimate with each other, correct? You're not saving yourselves for marriage, or anything, are you? Then it might make a little more sense.

[Asker]

Yeah, we are intimate. Could he just not be attracted to my body?

[Orion1084]

I really doubt that he's not attracted to you.

Maybe it just makes him horny, so he's afraid he won't be able to sleep? I'm honestly really baffled as to what else it could be.

[Asker]

I guess that could be it but this wasn't the first time I have slept around him like this... and I am baffled too. Imagine being the one with a partner that rather see you fully clothed.

[TadCurious]

Wtf? Your boyfriend doesn't love seeing you in your underwear and wants you to wear regular clothes to bed? That's just nuts.

[hellionthesage]

Weird, I would have prefered my girlfriend to be naked. Just ask him, its seems a little odd to me, but maybe if your not having sex it would be to much of a tease for him.

[Asker]

Do you mean it is the fact we were not having sex at that moment or at all? Because we are having sex.

[hellionthesage]

Then yeah I have no idea what the problem is, I could understand him complaining that you were wearing to much clothes, I do not understand the not enough. You should ask him, frankly I think the more skin on skin contact the better. (not even sexually I just personally like the feel of a womans skin and its intimate, but yes also in a sexual manner)

[Asker]

Well do you have any idea why he wouldn't want me how I was in bed? How do I handle that if it happens again?

[hellionthesage]

Ask him. Honestly I have no idea what he could be thinking. It seems very bizare that he would be fine with you naked and having sex with you and then be upset for wearing underwear to bed. It seems rather contradictory to me. Just out right ask him.

[GirlsLie]

Next time he's in bed with clothes on, tell him "don't you ever sleep naked" and act really annoyed at him until he takes his clothes off.

[zorro8888]

I wouldn't care. Either he's just projecting some other issue on to you or he's extremely conservative.

[Asker]

He isn't conservative... at all.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't be annoyed but, I would wonder why she only wears underwear to bed. My guess is she gets warm easily, so... that'd make sense but, like, what happens if you wind up in a fire, and you have no time to put clothes on. Do you really want to go outside, with no bra on? and just your panties

[Asker]

I got to bed in panties and a sports bra... that is what I meant by underwear.

[Opinion Owner]

Ah, well, you get my point

[Shaft50]

What? Just off the title I was going to say that maybe the underwear was just too much... I don't know why he would get annoyed... you would be welcome in my bed, but the bouncer might knock you back for being over-dressed :-)

[Asker]

Hahaha In this case the bouncer knocked me back because I was under-dressed.

[Shaft50]

Obviously, you went to the wrong club, my dear ;-)

[Asker]

Haha He is a very nice and attractive club though...

[Shaft50]

Maybe he wanted to get some sleep, but when you turned up in your underwear, he was 'up'

[Asker]

Haha I doubt that.

[Shaft50]

Why would you doubt that?

[Asker]

He isn't bothered by having a boner while trying to fall asleep.

[Shaft50]

I would be... because it's just there and then it'll just be sex dreams all night and then I 'd wake up cranky in the morning...

[Asker]

So I guess I just need to wear clothes to bed because he doesn't need to be uncomfortable.

[Shaft50]

... but the clothes make you uncomfortable, twisting and riding up...

[Asker]

I can deal with it when he is over.

[Shaft50]

Oh stop... ;-)

[Asker]

Haha What?

[Shaft50]

My imagination will run riot... you taking care of things ;-)

[Asker]

Haha I can't let it poke me all night. It is uncomfortable.

[Shaft50]

Hmmm, take care of business sooner rather than later, hey... does that mean you still need to cover up? Or will underwear be permitted on the condition of you looking after the 'club'?

[Asker]

Haha I probably need to cover up after and we are trying to sleep. He never had a problem before last night... at least I didn't think he did.

[Shaft50]

Hahaha, you sound like fun... ask him next time if there is a dress requirement to get into the club...

[Asker]

Haha I don't really want to know the answer. Having him only want me fully clothed kind of hurts my self esteem... I sound overly sensitive I know.

[Shaft50]

I'm sure it was because you turn him on too much ;-)

[Asker]

I hope that is the reason.

[Shaft50]

I'm sure it is... what underwear were you wearing?

[Asker]

I rather not go into that.

[Shaft50]

Gee, sorry... that was way personal, wasn't it? My apologies

[Asker]

Yes, it was a little too personal.

[Shaft50]

Again, my apologies... I got a little too comfortable with the banter... it shan't happen again

[Asker]

Alright.

[Shaft50]

I shall respectfully and remorsefully back away, leaving you in peace

[Asker]

Okay. Enjoy your day :)

[Shaft50]

You too :-)

[Likes2drive]

I would like that you just wear underwear, actually I prefer naked but I guess that's close enough, why would he be bothered by that?

[Asker]

I don't know... that's why I am asking.

[Likes2drive]

Is he ok with your body normally? I mean I don't know if you have a weight problem or not but I can't think of anything else, it seems odd

[Asker]

that is what I am scared of... that he doesn't find me attractive. I don't have a weight problem. I am a size 2-4.

[Likes2drive]

Your a nice size so it isn't that , try wearing just a baby doll top see through type or a teddy , that might be ok to him , it's not healthy wearing a bra to bed anyway

[Likes2drive]

Well it seems as though everyone here agrees with what you do is normal just like me so the problem is with him. I would tell him I'm more comfortable like that in bed and you should be too

[Asker]

I think I'm just going to sleep in clothes if he is staying over.

[Likes2drive]

Maybe just wear a nighty then but your just giving in to him when you feel comfortable in your underwear, you should ask him what the big deal is

[Asker]

I don't see the point. I am really worried that he is just not attracted to me and I don't really want to find that out... if he rather have me in clothes then I will wear clothes.

[LonerProbss]

I don't think any man would actually say this. I think it's more of a turn on than it would be a turn off. Are you sure he didn't just say it as a joke?

[Asker]

He looked genuinely annoyed with me.

[LonerProbss]

Ask if why it bothers him

[dwayne101]

hell. no that wouldent bother me but maybe he didn't wanna go to sleep with a boner ya know

[Asker]

It wasn't the first time we have slept like this and I don't want to be inappropriate or make you uncomfortable but if that happens while we are trying to sleep I take care of it quickly.

[dwayne101]

Lol well I don't know whats wrong with him ya sound like a awesome chick to me

[Anonymous]

Tell him to fuck off! That is YOUR BED.. if his gay ass doesn't like he can sleep on the fucking floor or in your brothers bed.. dafuq

[Anonymous]

He's staying at your place. You can do what you want.

[A-Y-Y-Y--L-M-A-O]

I go to sleep naked so

[jakeofalltrades]

I like it when she ware only underwear to bed

[WilliamWinslow]

I will not be annoyed by that.

[Anonymous]

You're boyfriend is an ass.

[Opinion Owner]

A little too quick there, sorry *Your boyfriend is an ass