Why do guys hate shy girls?

[Anonymous]

Most guys seem to want girls who are outgoing and experienced for not only hookups, but relationships as well... Everyone keeps telling me how shy I am... I am just worried that my personality is just too unfit for a relationship.

[btbc92]

Not true. You just seem to be interested in the wrong kind of guys because of your preferences. And that includes: Physically and sexual interest. You need to really see the big picture with these guys, because you seem to be only attracted to guys who are interested in girls that are outgoing and into hookups. In other words who are more sexually inclined than you are. But 9/10x most of those relationships don't last and is temporary. I don't think that is the kind of relationship that you would really want with these guys. Just don't be desperate, because they sense that, they will avoid you unless your willing to put out sexually. And I'm pretty sure you don't want to risk that only to get used.

[justagirl5]

I used to think that too but then I met a shy guy through friends and at first we were awkward around each other, but one day we just started having a conversation about something we had in common and we talked for two hours. Since then we were basically best friends. We almost dated but didn't officially date because of stuff completely unrelated to shyness

[Anonymous]

I don't think they hate shy girls.

They just don't understand them. Think about it this way, if you are on a group table and everyone is excitedly talking while one remains very, very quiet. It's like... why isn't she talking/socializing?

[Bobbyhill1]

It's like... why isn't she talking/socializing?

she isn't talking/socializing because she is shy, stupid fool.

-bob hill

[Opinion Owner]

Hey stupid fool.

I meant the people sitting at the table who don't really know her will think she's weird for not talking.

Did you seriously message a random stranger to call them a 'stupid fool' when you didn't understand what they wrote.

Go to hell you uneducated loser

[Cosytoasty]

Because they're impossible to talk to. If I have to put in 1 hr of initiating to get back 1 word answers I'm going to get bored. Also shyness is easily confused for disinterest, again if I give my heart to a girl who doesn't reciprocate because she's too reserved then I'm going to lose interest.

[Pac-Man]

We dont hate shy girls. It might seem like it because outgoing people are the ones who are mainly in relationships. But how can you be in a relationship with someone who's invisible?

You have to let people know that you're out there and you're available.

[ParamountArmada]

its not their shyness i hate, it because most girls confuse shyness with playing that annoying dumb and innocent routine.
girls are accepted in the world more than guys so there's no reason for a girl to be shy.
i dont want a girl who is outgoing or experienced etc, i want a girl who shows her interests and desires and opens up to me. emotionally and sexually.
and usually when girls are shy they dont want relationships in the first place and doesn't approach the guy she wants. or expects the guy to do everything. which is a turn off.

[AlwaysBelieving]

That's because outgoing girls get noticed more and are more vocal. It is what it is. A guy will like you for who you are. If you're shy, a guy could like that, just let him know that you fancy him. It might just be my idealistic thinking since I'd feel like she feels comfortable enough around me to open up.

[zorro8888]

While I typically aim for people who are more socially outgoing, I don't hate shy girls. It just takes a lot more effort to get them to open up and be comfortable around you.

A guy can take your shyness as a lack of interest.

[BlueMaze]

I don't think they hate them, it's just people that are more outgoing tend to get more attention. They are more out there, more seen, more approachable and all that. But some people do like quieter ones.

[April10]

Think about it. How can anyone get to know a shy person enough to like them? They can't. You can only like someone you get to know and shy people don't open up. This is coming from a shy girl.

[Latinamoon]

No I'm a shy guy and I like shy girls and will want a serious relationship. I don't like outgoing girls who flirt with every guy they run into.

[Aoibheann12]

I'm really shy too, I think that they just prefer easy options.

[Words_and_Wisdom]

Just be thankful you're not a shy guy. It's leagues more difficult to find women as a shy introverted guy

[meatballs21]

It's hard to tell 'being shy' from legitimate lack of interest.

[Bobflackmen]

A lot of guys prefer them but it's really hard to tell when a shy girl likes you so we usually just think you aren't interested.

[Anonymous]

They don't. They just don't notice you because you're virtually hiding.

[Tiger288]

I love shy girls maybe guys think shy girls are uptight I guess

[Anonymous]

Guys hate shy girls far far less than girls hate shy guys

[Anonymous]

They are at times but hard to talk to if its to much

[LiveFreeorDieHard]

I don't really care as long as they are cute.

[gobsmacked3]

no, you sound perfectly fine

[ice_vampire]

I dont hate shy girls

[enterfireman]

ikr that s so mean