It’s nerve-wrecking because Mama’s boys usually know how to treat a lady right. Not all but most. However, some let their mom control their life and that annoys me. I used to be a mama’s girl but even she started to try to manipulate me and get all narcissistic so i’m easing away from her. Yet, i still know how to respect a guy 🤷♀️ Not sure if it works the same for mama’s girls as it does for mama’s boys but yea. So like im just trying to figure out whose still a gent without being up their moms azzes. #FeelFreeToList#CallingAllMamasBoyz
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Do gentlemen exist (outside of mama’s boys)? Are you or have you ever been called a mama’s boy?
I think mama's boys are strictly victims of narcissism.
Narcissists are a minority of the population, but it spreads like a virus down family trees because of the childhood abuse that carries into young adulthood.
As such, the kids are sabatoged sufficently so as to make them undesirable by normal people. That's the reproductive strategy of narcissists.
Fuck up their kids long enough so that hopefully they make it past their primes still single and inexperienced so that they'll have to settle and compromise.
Capitalism enables this abuse because entering the world requires financial support from home as a launchpad into college tuition and financial support during the transition from child to adult.
Without this support, and no social government programs to take over that role, one must either bite the bullet and choose the path of homelessness or stay home and sink farther into the hole.
Mama's boys are the ones who choose not to bite the bullet. That's why they are disliked by normal women. Normal people can see the abuse a mile away and don't respect a person who allows themselves to be abused. Much more respect for the person who does what they need to to leave the situation.
That's the appeal of the struggling broke guy trying to make it on his own. Probably uneducated and in poverty, but he's making it. He's not being abused anymore and he's setup personal boundaries and people respect them or he leaves.
That's a person who can break the cycle of narcissism and end the disease with his parents forever.
Mama's boys who never leave become future narcissists and hold on to that bitter resentment for the rest of their lives and pass on the abuse to their own children.
Talk to any mama's boy's mom and she was abused in exactly the same way she's abusing her kids.
Yes, gentlemen do exist. But if you're looking for the pull-your-chair-out open-the-car-door type, then I can tell you right now that he's probably a mama's boy. Probably a yes-man, too. If that's what you're into (not you, personally, Desi; just women in general) then I'm not judging. Some chicks like that type.
I will say this, though: mama's boys will probably have greater job stability. Because they're good at taking abuse and letting other people boss them around. One of the sad ironies of this world.
@DizzyDesii That's not the way things work in relationships, though. You don't always get what you want. Sometimes you have to compromise. Both people have to compromise.
I'm quite the opposite of the mama's boy. I really don't get along with my mother and left that home ASAP. We actually haven't spoken in decades (I can get into that, but in a nutshell it involved her disowning me because I dated a black woman).
But I do at least subscribe to the gentleman code and also man's code of honor like never run from a fight (but ideally try not to start them). Never act out of fear, protect those who can't protect themselves, step up to the plate and take responsibility when no one is willing to do it, etc.
I believe in the strength and dominance type of gentleman -- man first, gentle only because he has a strong ability to harm others and must learn the gentle touch to use those strengths to protect rather than harm others.
It is kind of a personal synthesis of sorts, but I really believe that's what the original gentleman idea was about. The origin of that subset of chivalry came about during the Crusades as I understand it with hardened war veterans returning from the Crusades to their ladies and needing to learn a more gentle touch. But these are hardly the types of men who were timid. And I think dominance gets a bad rep these days. There is a type of dominance that creates someone who leads not out of a power trip but a desire to take responsibility when no one steps up to the plate and protect those who follow.
See it someone like martial arts philosophies. The good ones tend to emphasize a self-defense philosophy. They aren't eager to teach students how to throw a punch. They start by teaching all the reasons why we shouldn't and save the punch as the last resort.
I don't care too much about guy's being mama's boy.
My ex was one and while he knew how to treat girls right, he wasn't the most lovable boyfriend. He took me for granted at times and has cheated on me etc... (Because of his behaviour, I wasn't a good girlfriend either)
My boyfriend is not a mama's boy. He's had a lot of problems concerning his parents but he has lived with his mom a lot. He's a much much much better boyfriend.
So yeah I don't think that treating women nicely is related to being mama's boy.🤔
i consider mamas boys the type that would dumb there girl friend or divorce there wife over there mom. i have no respect for guys like that because mothers are on the bottom of my list of people who have any say so in my life. on a side not though acting polite and treating others with respect is expected its not a right or privilege. anyone who says ohter wise is just blowing hot air.
i agree they should moms are nothing to be worshiped like some guys do its kind of disturbing and gross lol i mean look what happened to Norman Bates HE was a mamas boy lol
The I don't understand the idealogy of girls you know in a family you will be always the outsider no matter what so why can't you both mother in law and daughter in law get together🤔
Yup you have to win them over you know at least a bit the problem is that with people now that they don't want to bond with the family members then there won't be the love you know the main reasons relationship fail is everybody says break up for the smallest inconvinince if you would love you mother in law at least respect them they would even hit there son for you that's the trick ofcourse if they are abusive fck them😂
@desi hope you could relate to this in earlier days not way long back it was mother who used to give rice balls made by her hand and feeds the children sitting in a circle no matter the person child is big or small it's not that nobody can eat by their own its the love and gesture
@Aakash_Hangargi no my ex had a mom who didn't like him with anyone. No one was good enough for her son and she sabotaged all his relarionships and he eventually gave in and let her
I used to be a Mama's boy. She taught me manners and how to be a gentleman.
One thing I'm confused about being a gentleman is that I get taken advantage of in different ways.
When I go out on a date, I pay for everything. I hold the doors open for her. I always let her go first. I'm a good listener and I listen to her life and drama. But what's in it for me? It's just giving, give and give with nothing in return.
I was always considered a "mama's boy" because I was the youngest of the boys in my house and because objectively my dad was a terrible parent and did a lot of damage to both his marriage and my siblings. You learn from the mistakes of the father, and if that makes me a mama's boy then so be it!
I've been called a gentleman but never a mama's boy. I don't know how well the whole "how he treats his mother is how he'll treat you" thing works out. My mother and I didn't talk for almost 10 years. But I don't think anyone who knows me would say that I'm not a gentleman when it comes to being respectful to woman.
Its been 50/50 honestly. Like i had some exes who treated me good although they were mean to their mom. I had some who treated their moms awful and me too. And i had some who treated me awful but treated their mom good
My mother is a dominant and nasty bitch and such women don't produce mama's boys. According to your theory I have some deficits in matter of being a gentleman, what is true. However I have relatively good DNA and I can tell you being gentleman is overrated
would imagine there are some true gentleman out there. just fewer of them these days.
however there also seem to be less true ladies out there. partly due to feminism becoming more and more of a deal over the last 20 years or so. plus many dress or act in a less then lady like way.
so many guys stopped acting or dressing like gentleman.
I know how to treat women because I actually am slightly more feminine than most guys. Not a lot, but enough to be more emotional than most guys and I relate and get along better with women. I was never a mama's boy, though I get along better with my mother than my father, but until recently I always looked upto my dad and wanted to impress him.
Non-"Mama's-Boy" "gentlemen" do exist. We are cordial, respectful and even engaging but not really flirtatious as in being "on the hunt". Think about Matthew McConaughey in many of his roles or Sam Elliott in his. Self dependent and not easily tied down. In many respects, the opposite of Players. "It" just 'don't' matter that much.
The term meek comes to mind when I think of being a gentleman. The definition for meek is as follows: Power under control.
I drive a vehicle equipped with a v8 which has a lot of horsepower and torque, all of this power under my control. Being a gentleman is simply being polite and cordial in society and knowing when to unleash the beast within, and if it ever comes to that stand back and lookout.
Im a mamas boy but she was barely around untill i was about 12, so she's trying to do as much parenting as possible before im 18. I don't know if i consider myself a gentleman because thats not for me to judge but i dont think any gentlemanly traits or chivalry came from her.
I've been in my own since I was sixteen and only call my mom to make sure she's doing okay or when I need some advice on something with which no one else can help. She taught me how to be a gentleman when I was really young. I love my Mom more than anyone, but I hate not being independent and she still thinks that I'm a teenager sometimes, I guess 😂
Noooooo. No no no haha 😂 She lets me make my own mistakes, but she's there whenever I need her. My Mom is a great woman and I know I'm gonna be a great man because of her.
To answer your first question, yes gentlemen still exist. I would strongly suggest that over the last century socially and independently women have changed more then men, on a metaphysical level which have impacted relationships and the appreciation of such men. And I've never been called a mam's boy.
My dad left when I was 5 all I have is my mom. But knowing how to love someone and being a man aren't exclusive. If a dood lets his mom walk all over him and especially if he lets her walk all over you. Either make a change or call it off, if he can't protect you out himself from his mom how will he protect your relationship?
At this stage when i look at my siblings and cousins who have grown up children i think mama's boys are good for parents at least till the age they start earning.. they listen to their parents study hard etc. I see satisfaction on their parent's faces. I was never mama's boy but still i waa and i am an obedient child. Being bad guy or irresponsible doesn't make u cool... it actually makes u shit
some may be out there that ain't mommaaa's bois... i don't think i'm a momma's boi... i dont talk to her that much, i think... i've disobeyed her on a couple issues that she talked to me about... only one went wrong... i value her opinion, i know she's smart, but not in a technical sense...
A few believe I'm a "mama's boy" but that's only because I show more affection and care towards my mom than my dad. Some call me a "gentleman". Some call me "fine young man"
I don't know what to make of all that. I tell everyone I'm my own man and close the matter.
Gentlemen... 🙋🏼♂️ Not a "Mama's boy" 🙋🏼♂️ Been called a "Mama's boy" 🙋🏼♂️ (single , only child till teen years-it was easy attempt to rile me) A good man is hard to find, but so is a good woman. If it was easy everyone would have someone special
Considering the hate I have for my parents, I'm probably not a mama's boy. However, she has been overprotective and it has affected my life badly in a way, I'm not going to lie. That said, I would consider myself as a gentleman. I do respect women for sure, I'm all for fairness, I try my best to be honorable and courteous as well.
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