Do gentlemen exist (outside of mama’s boys)? Are you or have you ever been called a mama’s boy?

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It’s nerve-wrecking because Mama’s boys usually know how to treat a lady right. Not all but most. However, some let their mom control their life and that annoys me. I used to be a mama’s girl but even she started to try to manipulate me and get all narcissistic so i’m easing away from her. Yet, i still know how to respect a guy 🤷‍♀️ Not sure if it works the same for mama’s girls as it does for mama’s boys but yea. So like im just trying to figure out whose still a gent without being up their moms azzes.
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Do gentlemen exist (outside of mama’s boys)? Are you or have you ever been called a mama’s boy?

Robertcw · Accepted Answer

I think mama's boys are strictly victims of narcissism.

Narcissists are a minority of the population, but it spreads like a virus down family trees because of the childhood abuse that carries into young adulthood.

As such, the kids are sabatoged sufficently so as to make them undesirable by normal people. That's the reproductive strategy of narcissists.

Fuck up their kids long enough so that hopefully they make it past their primes still single and inexperienced so that they'll have to settle and compromise.

Capitalism enables this abuse because entering the world requires financial support from home as a launchpad into college tuition and financial support during the transition from child to adult.

Without this support, and no social government programs to take over that role, one must either bite the bullet and choose the path of homelessness or stay home and sink farther into the hole.

Mama's boys are the ones who choose not to bite the bullet. That's why they are disliked by normal women. Normal people can see the abuse a mile away and don't respect a person who allows themselves to be abused. Much more respect for the person who does what they need to to leave the situation.

That's the appeal of the struggling broke guy trying to make it on his own. Probably uneducated and in poverty, but he's making it. He's not being abused anymore and he's setup personal boundaries and people respect them or he leaves.

That's a person who can break the cycle of narcissism and end the disease with his parents forever.

That's my take on it anyway.

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

I ain't no damn mama's boy.

Yes, gentlemen do exist. But if you're looking for the pull-your-chair-out open-the-car-door type, then I can tell you right now that he's probably a mama's boy. Probably a yes-man, too. If that's what you're into (not you, personally, Desi; just women in general) then I'm not judging. Some chicks like that type.

I will say this, though: mama's boys will probably have greater job stability. Because they're good at taking abuse and letting other people boss them around. One of the sad ironies of this world.

Obtuse · Answer

I'm quite the opposite of the mama's boy. I really don't get along with my mother and left that home ASAP. We actually haven't spoken in decades (I can get into that, but in a nutshell it involved her disowning me because I dated a black woman).

But I do at least subscribe to the gentleman code and also man's code of honor like never run from a fight (but ideally try not to start them). Never act out of fear, protect those who can't protect themselves, step up to the plate and take responsibility when no one is willing to do it, etc.

R_ūshī · Answer

I don't care too much about guy's being mama's boy.

My ex was one and while he knew how to treat girls right, he wasn't the most lovable boyfriend. He took me for granted at times and has cheated on me etc... (Because of his behaviour, I wasn't a good girlfriend either)

My boyfriend is not a mama's boy. He's had a lot of problems concerning his parents but he has lived with his mom a lot. He's a much much much better boyfriend.

So yeah I don't think that treating women nicely is related to being mama's boy.🤔

cheapshotbob · Answer

i consider mamas boys the type that would dumb there girl friend or divorce there wife over there mom. i have no respect for guys like that because mothers are on the bottom of my list of people who have any say so in my life. on a side not though acting polite and treating others with respect is expected its not a right or privilege. anyone who says ohter wise is just blowing hot air.

David92506 · Answer

I used to be a Mama's boy. She taught me manners and how to be a gentleman.

One thing I'm confused about being a gentleman is that I get taken advantage of in different ways.

When I go out on a date, I pay for everything. I hold the doors open for her. I always let her go first. I'm a good listener and I listen to her life and drama. But what's in it for me? It's just giving, give and give with nothing in return.

theRen · Answer

I was always considered a "mama's boy" because I was the youngest of the boys in my house and because objectively my dad was a terrible parent and did a lot of damage to both his marriage and my siblings. You learn from the mistakes of the father, and if that makes me a mama's boy then so be it!

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I've been called a gentleman but never a mama's boy. I don't know how well the whole "how he treats his mother is how he'll treat you" thing works out. My mother and I didn't talk for almost 10 years. But I don't think anyone who knows me would say that I'm not a gentleman when it comes to being respectful to woman.

LoU_Hades · Answer

My mother is a dominant and nasty bitch and such women don't produce mama's boys.
According to your theory I have some deficits in matter of being a gentleman, what is true. However I have relatively good DNA and I can tell you being gentleman is overrated

Reaperbot666 · Answer

would imagine there are some true gentleman out there. just fewer of them these days.

however there also seem to be less true ladies out there. partly due to feminism becoming more and more of a deal over the last 20 years or so. plus many dress or act in a less then lady like way.

so many guys stopped acting or dressing like gentleman.

one hand washes the other type deal.

Deathly_Pheonix · Answer

I know how to treat women because I actually am slightly more feminine than most guys. Not a lot, but enough to be more emotional than most guys and I relate and get along better with women. I was never a mama's boy, though I get along better with my mother than my father, but until recently I always looked upto my dad and wanted to impress him.

lookin64 · Answer

The term meek comes to mind when I think of being a gentleman.
The definition for meek is as follows:
Power under control.

I drive a vehicle equipped with a v8 which has a lot of horsepower and torque, all of this power under my control.
Being a gentleman is simply being polite and cordial in society and knowing when to unleash the beast within, and if it ever comes to that stand back and lookout.

sdrawkcabosmi · Answer

I've been in my own since I was sixteen and only call my mom to make sure she's doing okay or when I need some advice on something with which no one else can help.
She taught me how to be a gentleman when I was really young.
I love my Mom more than anyone, but I hate not being independent and she still thinks that I'm a teenager sometimes, I guess 😂

Koalamate · Answer

Im a mamas boy but she was barely around untill i was about 12, so she's trying to do as much parenting as possible before im 18.
I don't know if i consider myself a gentleman because thats not for me to judge but i dont think any gentlemanly traits or chivalry came from her.

Dargil · Answer

Non-"Mama's-Boy" "gentlemen" do exist. We are cordial, respectful and even engaging but not really flirtatious as in being "on the hunt". Think about Matthew McConaughey in many of his roles or Sam Elliott in his. Self dependent and not easily tied down. In many respects, the opposite of Players. "It" just 'don't' matter that much.

JimboGB · Answer

To answer your first question, yes gentlemen still exist. I would strongly suggest that over the last century socially and independently women have changed more then men, on a metaphysical level which have impacted relationships and the appreciation of such men. And I've never been called a mam's boy.

Mur-x2 · Answer

My dad left when I was 5 all I have is my mom. But knowing how to love someone and being a man aren't exclusive. If a dood lets his mom walk all over him and especially if he lets her walk all over you. Either make a change or call it off, if he can't protect you out himself from his mom how will he protect your relationship?

Rohailhyt · Answer

At this stage when i look at my siblings and cousins who have grown up children i think mama's boys are good for parents at least till the age they start earning.. they listen to their parents study hard etc. I see satisfaction on their parent's faces. I was never mama's boy but still i waa and i am an obedient child. Being bad guy or irresponsible doesn't make u cool... it actually makes u shit

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

some may be out there that ain't mommaaa's bois... i don't think i'm a momma's boi... i dont talk to her that much, i think... i've disobeyed her on a couple issues that she talked to me about... only one went wrong... i value her opinion, i know she's smart, but not in a technical sense...

Kezzz · Answer

A few believe I'm a "mama's boy" but that's only because I show more affection and care towards my mom than my dad. Some call me a "gentleman". Some call me "fine young man"

I don't know what to make of all that. I tell everyone I'm my own man and close the matter.

mrwhite333 · Answer

Gentlemen... 🙋🏼‍♂️
Not a "Mama's boy" 🙋🏼‍♂️
Been called a "Mama's boy" 🙋🏼‍♂️ (single , only child till teen years-it was easy attempt to rile me)
A good man is hard to find, but so is a good woman. If it was easy everyone would have someone special

YHL6965 · Answer

Considering the hate I have for my parents, I'm probably not a mama's boy. However, she has been overprotective and it has affected my life badly in a way, I'm not going to lie. That said, I would consider myself as a gentleman. I do respect women for sure, I'm all for fairness, I try my best to be honorable and courteous as well.

UncleJessieRabbit · Answer

Here's a stinker: I am still living in the same house as my parents right now, don't know if that still technically makes me a "mama's boy". My mom doesn't necessarily follow me around though.

That said, if a girl didn't want to date me because of that I don't really take it personal, but at the same time I'm desperate to finally get out in a year or so I can be independent and finally achieve better dating prospects.

dragoblack · Answer

Yes, gentlemen exist. The problem is the pretenders out there. The pretenders tend to be "nice guys" and trillby wearing neckbeards. Being a gentleman is simple, just be respectful and treat people like people, there are a few other things but usually it's simple stuff like if someone does you kindness do the same in return (for example, if someone buys you a drink, you buy them one)

ikEVERYTHING · Answer

I mean, I've never been called a mama's boy, but I am very loyal and love my mother very much, she's above any girl I could ever have. To a lot of people that's a turn off, it's just culture, and women who dont understand that :/ I don't know what to tell you man, good luck.

Hans222 · Answer

I've been a mama's boy, being triggered by staying single... did not want to go live alone. And the waiting to meet someone continued, forever. Since 2 years I so live alone now :D

ecfresh · Answer

I’m not a mommas boy, but consider myself a gentleman. I had a great role model in my grandfather whom I am named after (ironically was in my dream last night).

mattmanyah2 · Answer

I love my mom but I also know she's crazy... So I have taken my GFs' side in arguments but the majority of the time they don't fight...

ManOnFire · Answer

I used to be called a mama's boy growing up but now I get called a player, even though I'm really not.

mimi051998 · Answer

My current crush seems like a mamas boy and he is very friendly to me. It's the truth that mamas boys know how to treat a lady. 😁 My ex-crush mom was too involved and I didn't like that at all.

Dongtai · Answer

Of course. But if you’re not a lady don’t expect one to waste his time on you.  I’ve never been called a mama’s boy.

Finchie40 · Answer

Never , I was independent since I was 13 years old always worked and didn’t rely on my parents really for anything

B0CKSCAR · Answer

All guys are momma's boys, at least until they're 30.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I have never been a mama's boy and I think I am very much a gentleman.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Never remotely been called a “mama’s boy”. My mother has zero control of me either. In fact, she refers to me as her independent son. Mostly to do with my nature.

Kejaco · Answer

I grew up with older women around me, older sisters, thier friends etc. I an a mama's boy because I love my mum, and I enjoy seeing her but at no point does she control my life,

Mohit093 · Answer

Being a gentleman has very little to do with the fact that you are mumma's boy or not. If a man can handle his relationships and keep them in balance... doesn't matter if he is a mumma's boy or not

Riddler1412 · Answer

Never been called a mama's boy. Never been called a gentleman straight to my face. But I heard I've been called a gentleman behind my back. 😂 Which seems weird to me.

imfreeze95 · Answer

My real mother abandoned me I was adopted. My adopted mother saved my life I’m devoted to my family and I am very protective of and loyal to my mother if that makes me a Mamas Boy then yes I guess but I simply will not apologize for it

nawtee_me · Answer

i am not a mama's boy, however my mother had a big part in how I was raise to respect girls, how to respect your elders and how to respect authority. Well girls and elders, two out of three isn't bad... lol ;)

pinky783 · Answer

If anyone finds a gentleman... send him my way please ❤

ImSparkly · Answer

A guy can still honor his mum without being a 'mamas boy.'

Purplemonkey24 · Answer

I've ran into mama's boys a lot but never really a gentleman. I'm close to my parents and vaule their opinion though

Shamalien · Answer

i ain't a mommas boy or a gentleman but I won't lie to you to get in your pants, or for any other reason really, which will probs result in you getting offended and losing interest

Tunasub · Answer

I know that I am a gentleman. I have a potty mouth but I am respectful and chivalrous... very giving and pleasing sexually, not selfish in any way whatsoever.

alice55 · Answer

Mama boy are the one who are the least gentleman out of all the men in my country XD

ShadowofRegret · Answer

I never have, my mother died when I was little, however I am always at my father's side.

misfitprophet1 · Answer

Yeah they do exist but you wouldn't find one in a city often.

the_sinner · Answer

I used to me a mama's boy and now I'm not but that hasn't stopped me from treating the ladies right. Actually being a mama's boy has helped me see what women go through and why they should be respected.

ariadneR · Answer

No. I've never been called a mamas boy 😄😄 They're out there.

Guthm · Answer

I'm not mama boys but I love my mother and she never argue about my previous girlfriends despite that she didn't like them.

However, I think I can call my self a gentleman , this according to my female colleagues.

mickcurious · Answer

I've been own my own since I was a teenager. but very much a gentleman. it suck sometimes to finish last at most things lol

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

You say now I am just wondering how would you feel when you have children of your own and your view will change😂😉

Riot_king · Answer

I was brought up in a boarding school. People wished if there were another 50 students like me, then the school would be perfect.😁 I definitely was brought up to be a gentleman.

_eemiader · Answer

Mama’s boy are no good deep down they’re dependable and cry babies they need to mature and take things the way it’s handed to them not throw a fit that tells a lot about how you’re mama raised you

Mehzmeh · Answer

Well, I was raised by my father. My egg donor was not around. So, I guess I was a daddy's boy. And, yes gentleman still exist. I am living proof of me. Because, I was raised to be one. Lol

kangy · Answer

dont like mama boy. but I like gentleman. being gentleman is the way a person is being brought up

fonduegirl · Answer

I'm mama's girl and in general rude left to right with anyone who finds me attractive.

ash0891 · Answer

I know when to be a gentleman and when to not be one. 😉

Nik1hil · Answer

You know me... Well..  Tell me..  In which category do I fall..  My delightful desi!..

whitehide · Answer

That depends on how you define a gentleman. I'm not a mama's boy, I'm more of a grandma's boy 😅

Anpu23 · Answer

I wouldn't be concidered a moma's boy. I have been called a gentleman though.

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