Do guys really get nervous around girls?

[Anonymous]

I'm not the prettiest but my ex said that I made him nervous, especially when we first started dating. I kind of thought that guys only got nervous around really, really attractive girls.

[Anonymous]

It’s a very common misconception that men see women as sex objects and the very fact that men can indeed be nervous around them should be proof that that it doesn’t happen anywhere near as often as they might think.

Instead, as Jordan Peterson puts it, men tend to see women as a manifestation of a judgmental ideal, more like deities. It’s an issue for sure because this is why there are so many simps running around trying to appease a woman who they will never be enough for, not to mention making complete fools of themselves in front of their crush. They fail to separate the ideal from the woman as an individual.

TLDR: yes

[Biya23]

so men get nervous around someone they have feelings for?

[Opinion Owner]

@Biya23 Sure, I can't imagine someone not being nervous around someone whose opinion of you matters a lot to you.

[Eagle_93]

Sometimes when I am in the company of a really gorgeous young lady that I like, my heart will start beating faster, and I feel a small lump in my throat. If you count that as being nervous?

I think it just comes from being excited to be around the certain person.

But the best way to get around that is just realize, she/he is a human being too, and may be experiencing the exact same things you are when they get around you if they were honest about it.

If he said you made him nervous, he was probably crushing on you, and being with you made his heart rate quicken.

[maria2716]

do you still have a crush on that young lady that you like?

[Eagle_93]

Oh I was just stating is as a metaphor.
I'm currently not in a relationship.

[Eagle_93]

I was meaning, if i am around a young woman that I find attractive, then sometimes I'm hear starts to beat faster and I get a little nervous.
I suppose that type of nervousness is simply nervous energy.

[Biya23]

mostly it's just physical attraction or feelings which makes you guys nervous?

[Nalix]

Just going out on a limb here, but I'm betting that you are prettier than you think you are. Also, how nervous you make a guy comes from how pretty he thinks you are, not how pretty you think you are. It also changes depending on how confident he is, of course.

[Anonymous]

A little nervousness to begin with is normal. But if that doesn't go away as you talk ro her that's a sign you're talking to the wrong woman. If she values you she'll make an effort. Some women are all about themselves and not only expect a man initiate the conversation but carry the load. To guys a say those women will never get any easier. If i'm talking to a woman and after about 10 minutes it's still like pulling teeth, i then start talking to her friend as well. You play one woman off the other. It's a way of telling the first woman. Hey i approached you for a reason. But your friend is starting to look better. If you don't want to lose me to her you better get to work.

[An_Impulse]

i do get nervous around certain girls. not all of them. that would be hard to live if i go nervous everytime i got close to a girl :D

anyway. i would find it to keep calm around people i have feelings. like certain... good fun feelings :D
maybe suggestive girls made me a bit nervous (me being shy and all of that is the reason)

so its not all of the female population :D just certain ones touch my tiny mini buttons ^^

[Anonymous]

Yes sometimes. It's no different for us than it is you when it comes to someone you like. Only difference sometimes is how we handle it. Guys aren't "supposed to" show it. We're supposed to be "confident", yet you women don't have to be lol. Double standard.

[Shamalien]

if a guy likes a girl, like he really likes her, he will be nervous.

What most women perceive as confident is really just the guy not giving a shit about em.

[maria2716]

and why do guys will get nervous when he likes a girl?

[Shamalien]

@maria2716 because they actually have something to lose that they don't want to lose. That creates anxiety and makes the nerves go wild. If they don't care, it's so, so easy to be relaxed and that makes girls more attracted to you. It's unfortunate how this dynamic works the opposite of how it should and women keep ending up with men who don't care about them because that's what they are attracted to, this 'confidence' a. k. a toss you out like the evening trash without a moment's thought.

[maria2716]

u mean its makes girls more attracted to you or the guy if they are so easy and relaxed?

[magiusX26]

@Shamalien so well said. ty

[wisefool]

Yep. Woman after woman after woman will state how they're attracted to confidence and not one of them questions why. Women are betrayed by their own nature on this one.

[Dremercury]

"attractive" and "attraction to you" are 2 different things. I find lots of women attractive, but they don't make me nervous at all. When I'm attracted to someone, as I develop feelings my nervousness increases around them. Mostly because I hope to leave the same impression that they left on me

[NamerOfStars]

Not quite. Generally, guys get nervous around girls they're attracted to, regardless of whether they're generally attractive. Obviously, there's a lot of overlap there, but it's not total.

[maria2716]

why do they get nervous around girls they’re attracted to?

[NamerOfStars]

@maria2716 Because they're afraid they'll make themselves look stupid. There's an idea that even if you don't intend to ask her out NOW, there's always later, and if you make yourself look unappealing, she'll never agree. It's usually not that thought out; it's an instinctive thing. It fades as you get older and more experienced.

[Shiome223]

Yup, especially shy guys, like me. If I have any interest in a girl, they do tend to make me nervous.

[DamianJ97]

I always get nervous around women.
Only get even more nervous if i like the woman.

The ones i have friends with are less nerve inducing for me. (hopefully i spelled that right)

[StephenCF]

I still do but my confidence has evolved greatly since my schooldays. Back then, it almost took a gun to my head just to make me initiate a greeting to a girl I liked 😅

[OddBeMe]

Uhh... yeah. We don’t grow as fast as chicks so we get intimidated fast. Especially if they’re not good at talking to girls. I’ve told many a young man to befriend as many chicks as possible. This helped me see that they’re human just like us. ;)

[wisefool]

Like who? I'm not human 😂

[OddBeMe]

@wisefool sex maniac is not a species, buddy :)

[dontgofalling]

Many do, but guys with experience don't.
Me being the confident one, I had gone through a couple of phases to get to that point.
Now I'm working on looking more approachable since I happen to be way too confident.

[DavidDong]

It's a new experience, I used to sweat proper but now it's like meh.
It's about being solid about yourself. It speaks more about his insecurity

[drearyknight187]

Some girls yes. If you are even remotely attractive, chances are that you'll make some guys nervous.

[Loser94]

I get nervous around all women. For one woman are absolutely beautiful and amazing, second I don't see how a beautiful gorgeous amazing woman would ever talk to be so when I'm around I'm extremely nervous and self judging

[Jack9949]

That’s exactly it. Some of us get nervous around girls were attracted to because as guys we rattle off absurd shit to eachother without second thought, but a girl we like could take it the wrong way.

[Arjunaguy]

No most guys are nervous when talking to the opposite sex

[Anonymous]

Most do. Some don't. Society teaches men to pedistalize women above themselves. So a lot of men consider women to be inherently better than themselves subconsciously. Which necessarily causes nervousness.

[Browneye57]

How much under 18?
Attractiveness has nothing to do with nervousness.

[keithy8469]

That's very true I'm very shy around a girl that I'm falling for and it's fucked can someone please help me out with this problem please

[maria2716]

and why do guys get shy around a girl they like or fallen in love?

[Jack9949]

@maria2716 because they are worried about fucking up their chances over someone they carry deeply about. Just saying one wrong thing and having the girl take it the wrong way fucks up your chances