Does a guy have bad intentions if he is being awfully nice to a girl?

[Sugar_7]

I moved to a new place few weeks ago and my new neighbor came from across the road to greet me, helped me with the boxes. He invited me over for lunch, he baked cookies for me, he dropped me to work when I needed it the most. He would have long conversations with me and pays attention to what I say and gives me this intense eye contact while talking to me. I’m still surprised by his actions and not sure how to take it. It’s been only few weeks and it feels like he knows me for ages! Today during our talk he invited me for coffee tomorrow and I agreed like an idiot without realizing what I’ve done until now. lol

[Daniela1982]

What, do you live alone at 18? Don't your parents have anything to say? Besides, you are 18 so you can be responsible for yourself now. Also that includes any consequences. You also didn't specify how old this neighbor was. That may have some bearing on your question replies. Now if he was close to your age, and if it were me, I would think he is interested in me and accept because he is certainly doing a lot to get in good with you. But, on the other hand, if you accept and he is creepy it may be awkward for you to live across the street from him. What to do?

Beats me!

[Sugar_7]

Thank you for sharing your take

[Anonymous]

While it's good not to be "too trusting", you also shouldn't just assume the worst with people. Time will tell his "intentions". Just continue to get to know them. But don't automatically assume or make judgements either.

But why do you feel like "an idiot" for a coffee invite? Sounds innocent enough. Have you been hurt a lot by guys? Like I say, keep your head on the ground, but give this guy the benefit of the doubt. Continue to get to know him. Everyone is different. Don't carry "baggage" or feelings from the past and project them onto this new guy, he is not them. Or don't assume he is and make that judgement unfairly.

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds to me like he's a genuinely nice guy that wants to get to know you, and you've never met a guy like that before so you find it "weird"? lol

[Sugar_7]

What are you assuming here? I’m confused

[Andres77]

Always have a backup plan.
Always Carry a weapon.
And then go about your business.

He's done nothing wrong from what you've posted.
When you go for coffee tell him you've got somewhere to be in? minutes.
See how he reacts.
He could be awesome or he could be a total creep.
Just don't drop your guard yet.

[Sugar_7]

Now this sounds really scary :/

[Andres77]

You need to do this every day of your life for the rest of your life.
I'm a big scary looking guy. I do this... every day.
Once you walk out of your home everything is a potential threat.
No running scared, no panic... just prepared.

[Andres77]

Don't be scared, be prepared.
That's what I've been telling my daughters their whole life.

[Sugar_7]

So, should i start ignoring him as well?

[Andres77]

No... he hasn't done anything wrong yet.
You're letting your guard down kinda quick.
Just let him know that you have places to be and guage his reactions.
But actually tell friends where you're going to be.

[Andres77]

I've been nice to strangers. Sometimes it did end in a date.

[Sugar_7]

Sounds good. Thank you so much :)

[Andres77]

👍👍👍👍
Good luck

[Rachelspiks]

Yes, he desperately wants to get into your pants. It's obvious girl!

[bowenw]

You can always cancel the coffee, or you could go and continue to see how you get along with each other. He may be playing you or he may be just a nice guy. You won't know until you know him better.

[Sugar_7]

How can I know what are his true intentions?

[bowenw]

I don't think you can know that until you spend more time with him and watch for red flags, especially If someone seems too good to be true.

[Sugar_7]

Sounds good plan. Thank you so much

[EnglishEuropean]

Either he fancies you or he's a straight up psycho. Does he resemble this person?

Stupid sexy Flanders

[Rachelspiks]

He probably looks like this guy.
external-content.duckduckgo.com/.../

[Sugar_7]

He’s a very good looking guy in his 20s that works in the gym.

[Rachelspiks]

So he looks like Ned Flanders then.

[Sugar_7]

@Rachelspiks no idea who’s that

[Rachelspiks]

He's the first cartoon character above, the one with the glasses and moustache. A 'Simpsons' character.

[Sugar_7]

@Rachelspiks I see. Well he looks nothing like these two you posted.

[ChrisMaster69]

He’s trying to get it on with you.

If you don’t want to, you need to make it loud and clear he is a friend and not interested.

he is expecting to likely get in your pants.

There is a chance he’s just nice, however play it safe and assume former.

[Rachelspiks]

Hey, that's what I said. Are you copying my answers?

[ChrisMaster69]

@Rachelspiks no never 🙄

Tbh I read n answer first.

Anyhow, how are you today?

[Rachelspiks]

Interesting. Maybe we have a psychic connection of some kind (or maybe we're both just think about sex all the time).
Yes, I'm good. :)

[Rachelspiks]

Oh no - a grammatical error! "... maybe we both just..." I meant.

[ChrisMaster69]

@Rachelspiks punishment for you for your bad grammar

[spartan55]

Uhh... no? What makes you think he has any intentions?

[Sugar_7]

Why else would he treat a stranger girl this way? It’s nice don’t get me wrong but seems weird a bit.

[spartan55]

To welcome you to the neighborhood? Perhaps he wants to get to know you better. Is that a 'bad intention?'

[Sugar_7]

Not at all.

[spartan55]

Okay, then. Always get to know someone before you even worry about stuff that. Girls are so obsessed with 'intentions' right away, and it makes no sense.

[spartan55]

*stuff like that

[Sugar_7]

I really hope it’s about welcoming me and nothing further. We worry about stuff like that usually and i guess it’s just who we are and can’t help it. lol

[spartan55]

There is nothing wrong with that, but you should be rational about it.

[Sugar_7]

Very true. Thank you so much :)

[AmeerX]

He likes you obviously. Girls are at fault for automatically assuming worst

[Sugar_7]

Yes, that’s us. lol

[Sam2021]

We have to be careful always, safety first

[Sugar_7]

@Sam2021 indeed

[Hotboy_booblover]

Yes... I m extra nice to girls whose boobs I want to touch

[Sugar_7]

No one’s touching anyone’s boobs here. lol

[Hotboy_booblover]

Lol.. I know 🤣

[jjj101010]

Depends on what u consider bad intentions, he may like u but that’s not bad is it?

[Sugar_7]

But he doesn’t know much about me, how is it possible that he likes me?

[jjj101010]

He can find u attractive and want to get to know u

[jjj101010]

This is literally the first episode of big band theory

[Sugar_7]

Not really sure what that is but thanks for answering my question. Hopefully that he is just bring nice

[jjj101010]

Message me, I’ll explain

[jjj101010]

Big Bang theory is on Netflix

[Sugar_7]

Explain what?

[jjj101010]

About what the Big Bang is

[Sugar_7]

Oh no need for that. Thank you :)
I am not going to watch it.

[jjj101010]

It’s funny but no probs

[jjj101010]

The first episode is about a guy who has a new neighbour move in and he likes her. It’s a comedy that ran for 10 years

[Sugar_7]

I see 🤔

[jjj101010]

Anyway, thought it was funny as it was relatable to ur story

[Sugar_7]

Not sure it’s the same in any way. lol

[jjj101010]

Fair enough, just wanted to chat too. Bit bored lol

[Fromdusktilldawn]

There is 2 possibilities:
- he is insecure and wants you so badly that he thinks with being nice will attract you
- he acts nice only to have sex and thdn drop you after
- (very rare) he is just a friendly/polite person

[OlderAndWiser]

How should a guy treat you if he wants to be thought of as nice?

[Turdburgler99]

I think you already know the answer to that. There's no way to know. Obviously

It's either

1: he's pretending to be nice but he's actually a seriel killer
2. Bes being nice because he generally likes you and wants to please you

[Sam2021]

He wants one thing only.. you need to take things slow

[Sugar_7]

What things?😅

[loveslongnails]

First of all, how old is he?

[Sugar_7]

He is 23 years old

[loveslongnails]

He's 23, you're 18. Nothing wrong with the age gap, but keep your eyes open WIDE. There's nothing wrong with going for coffee, and you're not an idiot for doing so. One tell-tale indicator of his real feelings will be if he invites you to hang with others in his age group's field of friends. Often times an older guy won't bring his younger "interest" around for fear of non-acceptance. If he keeps you a "secret", that's a big concern. Let him be the one to initiate meeting his friends - do NOT bring it up to him !!! Ever !! Like I said, eyes wide open and proceed with caution. He "may" be a good one, maybe not.

[msc545]

Oh yes. Beware guys who act nice to you, and only choose bad boys.

[OddBeMe]

Unfort you can’t rule that out.

[Sugar_7]

I guess

[OddBeMe]

Until we lose the ability to kill you with our hands, always watch your back

[Luckycharms12]

Why can't he be a nice guy

[Sugar_7]

I don’t know it seems weird. Especially that he doesn’t know me that well yet.

[Luckycharms12]

Don't have to meet for coffee

[Sugar_7]

Too late now. I’d look bad for canceling the coffee date or whatever. :/

[Luckycharms12]

Well it's in public so you are perfectly safe could just trying be nice. Or think you look great

[Sugar_7]

Yeah. Maybe

[Luckycharms12]

Probably

[Caramelpie]

Yeah! What’s inside your sweet pants😏🔥

[Sugar_7]

Don’t you start with your dirtiness

[Caramelpie]

Oh baby girl ❤️

[Sugar_7]

When did you become bi?😂🤔

[Caramelpie]

The first time you walked in the class, sweet 😏💋

[Tstrbrainer]

Well, I've never seen you in real life, still wanna make out with you.

[Bklynbadboy12]

No that just means he likes you

[Sugar_7]

But he doesn’t know much about me

[FilmGuy93]

Umm... probably not?

[Sugar_7]

So, he is just being this nice for no reason?

[FilmGuy93]

probably... but that doesn't mean you should let your guard down.

[Sugar_7]

I just don’t know what to think and I don’t want to get the wrong idea

[FilmGuy93]

Why do you have to think anything? The guy is being nice. It's not like you have to give him children

[Sugar_7]

Right..

[In_Trance]

not necessarily

[Sugar_7]

So, he’s doing this for no reason?

[In_Trance]

Im sure there's a reason. Doesn't mean it's a bad reason

[Sugar_7]

I hope that :/