Could be have changed his mind about dating m?

[Anonymous]

We work together and hooked up once, kissed another couple of times but truth I got intense and scared him off. After we talked it out tension between us eased as we started being friends only

The thing is I still like him a lot, and I feel like there’s some connection between us
Whenever we throw parties he’ll always be around me, and now after I came back from a 3 week holiday he was telling me how I looked really good

So could he maybe have changed his mind?
I try not showing him any interest romantically either bc I respected his decision and he’s the kind to never really be interested in romantic situations, big introvert

However I’d really like to give it one last second try now after quite some time went by and I keep sensing that he is indeed into me, there’s good tension type

and I know he thinks I’m cool, smart pretty and attractive bc he’s said so to me some time ago soo yeah, maybe now that I’m more chilled bout us things changed
Now we got to know each other, we’re into many things in common and I make him laugh

[spartan55]

Describe what happened with you being "too intense and scaring him off" please? This can mean many different things.

[Asker]

It wasn't anything too bad, I just showed too much interest and was always available, but I never crossed a line like trying to force him into anything
by the way, the time we hooked up he seemed most interested, cuddling me a lot and then like kissing me really hard just when talking and before leaving, asking if I was working again that weekend and stuff
So I thought of maybe asking him what he felt that time

[Asker]

in fact the thing is, what would happen would be I'd finish my shift at the bar and just hang out around him, but never had the balls to make any move

[spartan55]

Okay, I am still not understanding why you didn't keep seeing each other. I've never known any guy to stop seeing a girl because she was 'too available'. He wants to be just friends because of that? Doesn't really make sense. The reason I'm asking is because depending on what happened before will mainly determine whether he is keen on dating or hooking up with you again. I definitely would recommend against asking him 'what he felt' the time you hooked up. Way too early for that type of talk.
It sounds like if he was still interested it maybe just to hook up again, not date, but I don't know enough about the whole situation.

[Asker]

I just kinda killed the chemistry by doing this, I could also feel it, and after we started acting as friends the chemistry came back

[Asker]

I'm dont really want a relationshio but to see him more rather than just at work (its a club, and he is always always working, he's one of the club's most important ones)

[spartan55]

Sounds like you should just ask him then. Guys appreciate direct talk when it comes to this stuff. Too much guesswork with you girls because you never tell us what you want lol..

[Avicenna]

You cna try, but be sure to check his pulse before you do so

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

He could’ve changed his mind but it’s good to talk to him and ask to be sure.

[Gwenhwyfar]

It’s possible but he may just not be interested in a relationship

[Asker]

I'm not sure I want it either, I just want to spend some time together, I learn a lot from him and as we have so much in common I love hanging around him

[Gwenhwyfar]

I feel you girl. Go for it. Just don’t be crushed if he still says no.

[Iron_Man]

You’re just gonna have to get on the phone and talk to him about it if not nothings ever gonna happen

[driven159]

just be patient he will come out of it just make sure you are there for him

[IncognitoBandito]

Just take it slower this time

[Asker]

I ammm, its been a couple of months already, I don't wanna wait so much that nothing ends up happening