They certainly do exist, but are they as common as women? Nah. Why? I'll tell you.
Men who are these 'gold diggers' are usually the types who've been enabled by women almost all their lives, starting with their moms and maybe even their other female relatives. As they grow older they even begin to learn how to use women they have sex with to pay for their stuff or 'take care of them.' So these men will always expect this from women, or at least try to make it happen that way. These are also the types of men who only want to date older women so they can be a 'sugarmama' and take care of him, which some of these older women don't mind. Keep in mind these guys are not true cougar lovers like the rest of us, who actually like older women for who they are and how they are after gaining life experience. These guys just want another dollar from them.
Apart from them, most men generally still have the incentive to work, go to school, and make their own money. Women are still more inclined to work, go to school, make their own money, but also want to enjoy another man's money. Or not even work for it at all.
So can a man be a gold digger? Yes. Is it as common as women gold diggers? I don't think it's even close.
Yes a man can be a gold digger but there is a youtuber called hooman that shows male and female gold diggers which I'd recommend to watch
I am surprised by some of the opinions here who claim men are rarely gold digger. I know so many men who use women for money. I really don’t understand what is so difficult for men to admit this shit. Either they are really clueless about it or pretend like it never happens. For God’s sake, men use women for money just as much as women. Why do you think they prefer to date women with a good job rather than a girl who works at the retail stores or fast food restaurants?
I can take my friends, cousins and co-workers as an example. I have seen how their ex boyfriend/husbands and partners leech them off and a few ended up owing the banks a large amount of money because of these scumbags. One of them was declared as bankrupt to the point where she couldn’t even loan herself a cheap car. What the fuck is wrong with men on this site?
Gold Digger is an insult and just because that insult is used on women more doesn't mean it's exclusive to women. If a man is dating someone for their money, they are a gold digger. This is regardless of sexuality, gender, race, whatever. ANYONE can be a gold digger.
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yeah but it's not exactly the same thing because a huge percentage of women who a man would be happy to be with, are only considered gold diggers if they betray him. Because men have low (er) expectations for women. He doesn't expect her to be the main provider/earner, right? In fact most women only want to date/marry up or to at least get a guy who has the potential to raise her social/economic status.
You as a woman have to go against 100k years of human culture to think it's a good idea to get with a dude who is happy to live off of you. You'd probably only do that because you SUCK at getting quality guys to take you seriously even tho you would kid yourself into thinking it's because you're so kind and loving that you can look past the guy being a loser.
Yup. Super uncommon but I've known some guys with working girlfriends who are kinda useless at home and refuse to get a job. I've known a case or two where he's trying to keep his Halo scores up because he's sure he'll become a sponsored Twitch and Youtube streamer, and then doesn't get a job in the interim because "it'll interfere with his skills". Like FFS if you're getting into any field that relies purely on luck, you had better be running on a backup plan in the meantime.
But yeah, it's definitely the minority. As Beth Sanchez would put it "He's not a hot girl. He can't just bail on his life and set up shop in someone else's."
It's like asking if it's possible for a girl to violently rape men. Sure it's possible but so rare it's not worth talking about seriously.
The Most common scenario where a man is using a woman for money is a bum who lives with his girlfriend who is paying for everything. But in that case he didn't get with her for her money.
He got with her and is also using her to pay for everything because he's trash lol. It's not actually about the money. It's about no will to take care of yourself.
But a guy legit being a straight up gold digger in the way a woman does? If it's not impossible it is incredibly rare that it's not worth discussing.
Like even movies where the scam artist steals from a rich woman he romances. That's not a relationship, he just robbed her LOL
There are actually A LOT of men gold diggers. But the reason why it happens less often is because women are significantly less likely to "marry down" compared to men. Men are much more willing to date broke women which is why they complain about gold diggers so much. Another reality is that men are much more likely to date gold diggers because they are much more willing to pay for a woman than it is for a woman to pay for a man.
I work around a lot of broke guys, and trust me, there is no shortage of broke men who need a sugar mama. Most of these guys have jobs and would love to sit at home , play video games all day, and get free sex.
I got some sad news for a lot of you. Get ready for this dynamic to flip. In the last 30 or so years MORE women than men are moving into professional positions. Physicians, attorneys, and business executives. Men generally are moving into more blue-collar work. I wish I had the time to give example after example how this has changed Male/Female relationships. I'm in my mid-60s. I have taken the position I am going to spend my remaining years eating popcorn and watching people go ape shit crazy as these things flip. Can a man be a gold digger?
---and you folks have not seen anything yet! Wait and see what the next 30 years bring us!
It’s happens but it’s much less rare for the following reasons:
1. It’s much harder for a man to fake attraction both outwardly and especially in bed. He needs to be one of a full time actor to pull this off
2. Men are EXPECTED to be independent and the breadwinners. Even women are making a lot more money these and men are falling behind in higher education there is still a “man up” expectation. Most men can’t live with themselves if they feel like a freeloader
3. Generally women in dating. Why do they need to “pay” for a boyfriend or husband. I guess if they are really that visually oriented than maybe if the guys is that attractive. But most women aren’t content with just that.
Yes, I have known some, usually, they are very attractive and bad boy type. They take money for gas, rent, or other stuff from their girlfriends and dump them later. I guess those are the perks of being good-looking, I never got a single piece of candy from a girl😅.
I've seen it happened, this older guy was married, had a bunch of kids but then started cheating on his wife, with someone a little younger who happened to be very well off, so he left his wife to be with her for her money. Then when he used all her money up, he moved on to someone else with money too.
Anyone can be a gold digger
Definitely, mostly broke ass dudes. First girl I kinda dated for 5 years, her dad owned a beer company and drove a Ferrari, her guest house on her property was probably worth $2m
she stopped using birth control and I cut her off. Honestly she was a real good friend and I used her pretty bad, feel like I got bad karma from that.
Certainly possible, although currently not going to be as prevalent until wealth/gender distribution balances or shifts entirely.
Not saying I would be a gold digger, but certainly happy with the idea of being a house husband myself, so there are an increasing number of guys not put off by their partner earning more than they do.
Yes of course, always has been.
The more desperate she is, the easier to milk.
I've worked with guys who did this pretty much all the time, went for girls with cash, free holidays, nice presents.
The guys and girls that do this are really made for each other
I suppose so but women tend to be gold diggers far more often than men. The reason for this is probably because these women are feminists who believe they don't make as much as men when that's bullshit so they become gold diggers. Men who don't make as much just deal with it. I do, one of my friends does. We make shit for pay but we don't go after women for their money. That's something women do
I might be more common for women to be gold diggers, But there are using shitty guys out their too. I know a rich older woman who was used by a gold digger, He was her tour bus driver over seas. Money is a double edged sword, You will never know if they like you for you if your rich unless they too are rich.
Normally, it is not a girl's money that I'm after but, if in the extremely unlikely event, she is fabulously wealthy, I might be. Typically, a guy is not after a girl's money because, even if she has more money, the difference is not great. There are very few extremely wealthy women (less than 1%). Therefore, it is rare for a man even have to opportunity.
Yes, there's "sugar mommas" just like sugar daddies. But less common. But your definition of gigolo is wrong fyi lol. It's a male prostitute. They don't "chase" women, the women come to him for his "services". Just like the women prostitute don't chase their clients.
Yes there are users of both genders and it's disgusting. My ex boyfriend was a lying, golddigger (a sociopath at the same time too); a scammer. He never loved me.
I think golddiggers of both genders deserve to be publically exposed.
Can men be gold diggers? Of course! But I don’t know of any in existence. A gold digger would assume he’s broke and the female has more than just a house and car. They have to have MONEY! The whole point of the gold digger is to marry and take their valuables in divorce or live a lavish lifestyle through the money of the partner. There is probably a lot more GAY men doing that with sugar daddies than with women. That must be an extremely rare occurrence.
It is certainly possible and it does happen, but it much less common for men because men do not place nearly the value on resources that women do.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talking-apes/201907/do-women-really-prefer-men-money-over-looks
Gold digger is a term that only applies to men. Men are supposes to be the providers. Even in illegitimate relationships he should be providing period like a hooker or concubine (girlfriend)...
But many males are effeminate and refuse to even do that minor thing expected of men.
It's less common, but definitely possible. There was a case like this here in Germany like 15-20 years ago where some guy slept with lots of rich and loney women - mostly who inherited or were from noble background.
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