Trying to understand peoples bizarre behaviour. Ghosting isn’t my thing - just be honest with someone rather than be a coward. But, why would you ghost someone to then message them weeks or even months later?
Honestly, there is no explaining it. I never been that desperate for attention myself.
For me if I ghost on some one (which I never do, I always break it off in some way other than ghosting) I usually never come back to them. Now on dating websites, there have been times when I was dating someone else. It did not work out so I reached out to see if they are still interested, but only if I never started a conversation with them to begin with.
I never talked to any more than two women at a time on a dating site, once I have real life dates scheduled. I meet who ever confirm to meet first, then the second women as my back up. Anyone else if they connect I do not respond until I eliminate one of the first two. But if it does not work with one of the others then I will go back to a women I never response to initially and see if they are still interested. I usually say something like, "Hi, wanted to follow up with you, sorry for the delayed response, but I just decided to get back into the dating process again and want to see if your interested in starting a chat." That only works if you never started up a chat initially and you never really ghosted on them. But it only works less than 25% of the time, if its been more than a week or two.
Once I break off the chat with a women I never come back to them later... I just assume that its a dead end.
When ever a girl ghosts me and comes back I ignore her or ask her what type of relationship would she be interested in with me, and if I am not with someone else I might consider if I think I might get laid, and after than who knows. Other than that I say no thank you and that's the end of it.
define what you mean by ghosting and what was the relationship like before they left and how did they leave?
Could be many reasons.
These are attempts at intimacy. People are at different levels of maturity. people don't know what they want, don't understand themselves. Maybe they went to prison, were trying to date others, were embarrassed.
yes they are, there's explanations for what they do and why... you have to dig to find. but they make more sense once you understand them... emotionally:)
It was basically a ‘sorry I ghosted you by accident but I’m not ready to date’ message. Hurt, annoyed, regretful... I don’t understand what I did to deserve this message. It feels like twisting the knife after the fact.
In my case I knew he suffers from mental health issues so whenever he'd reappear he'd tell me he was having a bad time and was suffering. I felt bad and confused. I was mad at him but wasn't sure if he was using his health as an excuse. I talked to him through his episodes so he wouldn't feel alone and he ghosts me. Sometimes abruptly, sometimes pulled the slow fade. He still reappears from time to time. I don't have the little feeling I had for him anymore, just as an old friend. They find something "better" to do, or find someone else. when that is over, they get bored and realize you're there to talk to him.
Usually they are cowards because they know they're gonna hurt you by breaking off whatever you have together and they're being a jerk and don't want to face you telling them off like they justly deserve. That is the reason they ghost. They come back when they have no one and they're looking for what you gave them before and no one is willing to at the moment do they contact you. A piece of advice to you is if they did it before, they'll do it again. Don't go down that road twice.
You were his back up plan or something like that. He probably ghosted you cause he lost interest or cause he was more interested in someone else or whatever and then the other woman didn't work out or he got bored and since he officially didn't "break up" anything, he probably thought he can at least try again but it for sure isn't anything serious
I find it Odd that the only person that 'knows the answer' to that question is Not the one you ask... I can only guess... 1 my internet bill was to high, so I was offline foe a while... 2. mama caught me kissing Santa Claus and cut off my computer privileges... who put the 'Bop" in the "bop-sa-bop-sa-bop"?
Ghosting has become insanely common place in dating and people prefer to be anti-social & reclusive which make dating incredibly hard. But in some cases (like myself) we just get busy with life stuff and forget.
… is he a Virgo? If so I can let you in on your secrets. This is a Virgo men/women trait. Don’t take it personally. It just means he likes you, and wants to keep you as entertainment. While he has cake, pies, fruits and veggies on the side. That’s what us virgos do until we fall deep in love. Then we seclude our partner from everyone lol
people ghost for different reason yeah it’s not a good behavior but sometimes it’s a dodged bullet for who is being ghosted , I once dated man who ghosted me I dint know what happened until I figured he was married it dint even bother me anymore that he ghosted I was happy I dodged a bullet.
having seconds thoughts on what they did, maybe had it done to them, had someone else but still had feelings for you waited for their thing to run its course
staying in touch is hard work. we think we should but we lose the will and we try but can't find it. eventually we manage to sum up the energy to do it again
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