Why do so many men just look on when they see a woman being harassed?

[Puppystarfish23]

At my work we have a lot of people from all over the world and some of the men have very backwards views towards women and aren't scared to act on them views.

Some of the men are very gentlemanly like and want to help the woman at are work and support us which is really sweet. Others act this way out of being a "nice guy" but most are genuine but they will never say anything when they see were being harassed it always takes the woman to have to sick up for herself or another female will get involved.

there's this terrible man at my work who no one likes even his own people hate him. He harasses a lot of the young British woman and the elderly British men at work he really likes the belittle them and and wind them up. He's utter scum.

I've recently starting putting him in his place to the point he's made abit of a fall of himself. He knows I hate him and I've even reported him to his manger.

Ever since I told his manger he's left me alone unless he's in a blind spot. Later today I was doing a battery change and I told him I could do it myself and to leave me alone. I've told him to leave alone so many times but he won't listen the man is a psycho who just won't quick. I told him to leave me alone over and over again and there was plenty of men around but none of them said anything.

They always look awkward and uncomfortable like they know they should but they are too scared. I hate when people just look on in them types of situations makes me so mad. I understand but some people just don't wanna get involved but the more voices that speak out against them people the more there go way back under their rock.

It's because they know no one will say anything that gives them power

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I asked my boyfriend about this and his answer was pretty similar

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Yesterday at work this guy shouted at me for no reason and some old man told him too fuck off and this lad I was working with the day before came to check on me to see if he could help. I told them it was okay and but he was a twat and I've had to deal with him plenty of times before

[MrOracle]

It's because in a corporate environment - due to feminists influence - corporations do NOT have men's back. If a man gets involved, even to do what is indisputably the right thing, he will often be punished, even fired. Feminists do NOT want male heroes - only women can be heroes.

Of course, this isn't actually in women's best interest, but lots of things feminists push for aren't in women's best interest - because they aren't actually feminists, they're Marxists, and the goals they are pushing are goals that further Marxism, not women.

If you review your corporate employee handbook, you'll probably find that such incidents are supposed to be reported to HR, and the you aren't supposed to get involved in other people's confrontations. Such rules are fairly standard in the corporate world, and it is specifically to keep men from looking heroic for stepping in to help. HR wants all the power - though they are VERY selective about who they enforce the rules against. This man who is harassing you may be protected by someone higher up a the company, which means HR will probably do nothing - but if one of the guys jumps in, that guy will face swift consequences, because that's simply not permitted.

[GingerGuy]

I guess it depends on the specific "harassment" (personally I don't see this so?). But I'm not a confrontational guy in general, combine that with her being a stranger (a woman or not), I'd feel it's not my place to "step in" or get involved. Plus, a woman isn't (and shouldn't be) "helpless" either. Why can't she stand up for herself? (as everyone should, and again, depends on the harassment). And if it's that severe that someone else needs to step in, there's probably someone better for that than me, such as managers (if in an employment setting) or the police! Bottom line, it's not my business and I don't know you or the situation to "make it my business".

[Andres77]

I'm sorry you have to deal with that shyt.
Where I work it would last for their first comment. The people around him would ask "wtf"? And he'd be repotted and at least transferred if he didn't lose his job.
The management climate is the problem where you are it seems.
Maybe make it a point to let him think you're recording him and just ask him "are going to sexually harass me again today?" And get him nervous.
I don't know, your management isn't looking out for it's employees.

[IMuser]

As long as she is not someone i care, then i don't give a fuck

Why should I try to protect someone I don't value? And what will I get in return?
The only exception to this rule is helping a child as they are young and do not know about the world. It is the elder's responsibility to take care of children, irrespective of any relation.

[TickleMe4ForFun]

Weak people don't speak up. Most people are weak, which is why society is forcing women to have to learn how to defend themselves against harassment and unwanted sexual advances. Too many men drinking lattes and wearing tight jeans, who have no clue how to defend themselves... much less someone else. So many men have lost their masculinity, and it is only getting worse! So ladies, unfortunately, be prepared to take on the aggressive men by yourself.

[Whatever2929292]

Happens to us too and many women don't do anything about that... Hell most think we like it. Even from a woman who you would not be wanting that from...

But if I thought someone was in danger I would try and help

[Truthatanycost]

So this society that demonizes and ridicules men on a daily basis... you think that men in it will feel motivated to help? Masculinity is labelled toxic in this society...

[JuanVelasco2]

😹😹😹😹 Am I forced to defend anyone just because she's a woman? In my case, I wouldn't do anything, not because I'm afraid to get involved, but because I DON'T CARE.

[LogicBomber]

Because women have played victim over bullshit so many times and destroyed innocent mens lives so often while hating on men that men have given up on trying to help.
You want to claim you are “strong and independent” then do shit yourself.

[glennos89]

If I notice such sickening behaviour you bet I will take action on it. The guy would get a hard time at work if he doesn't change quickly 😈

[DragonDraggin]

Not my battle. Call 911 that's what its for.

If she not my family or person I'm dating I'm. not helping

[Shy_Steve]

It's like when a Man is being harassed by a Woman, All they probably would do is laugh.

[SignedAutographs]

Are you saying a man SHOULD help?

[eagle1951]

because they don't want to get involved.

[BLP11520]

Cowards