I told him to go ask his boys about something and he replied “you are the boys! Does this mean I’m friendzoned?

[Anonymous]

I’m currently taken so obviously we can’t be together right now. But I’m so shocked he said the boy thing. I’m not like a guy at all. I’m feminine and mature. I don’t act like a boy. Help

[boggboss]

Saying u are 1 of the boys don't mean u are a boy lol

[Asker]

Then what does it mean? I was so hurt by his comment.

[boggboss]

Why was u hurt by it lol that'd so silly it just means u are on of the guys his friend

[Asker]

I guess because I have feelings for him. And thought he has feels for me. But that threw things out the window lol

[boggboss]

U had feeling for him yet u are in a relationship 😑 because thats not being a shit partner lol

[Asker]

No ur so right. I never meant to get feels. It’s terrible I know. It just happened. Not like I’ll do anything about it. Just keep it hidden and pray it goes away quickly.

[boggboss]

Pry it goes away yet you are upset he may not have feelings and still talk to him in a way I imagin how u caught feelings and just because nothing u claim will happen don't make it right as essently u have allowed yourself to see a guy the same way u see your partner imiagin if your partner treated a women this way

[Asker]

Yeah you are right

[boggboss]

And will u fix it or continue to emotional cheat

[Asker]

I wish I could cut feelings. It’s not easy or human to do so. But obviously my best gal pal doesn’t want more so I will def work on moving on. And will also leave my current partner. He does not fulfill me

[boggboss]

Thats completely fair enough if you ain't happy which clearly u are not in the relationship end it who knows possibly your friend was not I treated because u was in a relationship

[Anonymous]

[UniquelyBasic]

What kind of line is that? "You are the boys" 😂😂 WTF

[Asker]

I am overly confused with it. And hurt

[UniquelyBasic]

Why? You're taken. Seems you have feelings for him, if that upsets you. I dont believe its about him thinking you're masculine.

[Asker]

Yes I do have feelings. Sadly lol
I kinda thought he liked me but I guess I was wrong lol

[UniquelyBasic]

Yeah that sucks, oh well, nothing more you can do about it now.

[MysticDevice]

Yeah that's a pretty fast turn into the friendzone.

[whereismyjohnny]

You are taken, why do you care? 😅

[whereismyjohnny]

Also, him calling you ''boys'' doesn't mean you act like guy.

[Asker]

I care because it hurt. So what does it mean?

[whereismyjohnny]

But then it means you have feelings for him. It means that he is accepting and comfortable around you. He considers you a close friend. My guy friend from high school used to call me broski often, I found it annoying lol, but it wasn't an offensive thing or meant that I'm guyish. I guess it's their way to show you they are comfortable and enjoy your company 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Asker]

I do have feelings. Sadly. And this crushed me because it means he has zero feels for me.
Good to know it means we’re close. But I definitely felt that already. We are very close.

[BarryLiverstone]

You are taken so of course you are friend zoned.

[Asker]

I guess I felt like he wanted more. So that comment threw me off. And how am I like the boys when it’s just me and him that are close? And I don’t act like a boy at all

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s another way of him saying that he trusts you. He doesn’t literally mean you are male. He means you are part of a select group of ‘people’ that he trusts. Also means many strangers he doesn’t trust.

Make sense?

[Asker]

Yes. Thank you Barry. So it was more a compliment.

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome Anon. Yes it’s a compliment. What was the something he wanted to ask?

[Asker]

I guess I figure he won’t ever have romantic feelings for me because I’m like a bro.

He was telling me about some porn stuff and I said go to your boys for that. And he said you are the boys.

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh then he is flirting

[BarryLiverstone]

But does he know you are in a relationship? How long have you been taken?

[Asker]

Lol I don’t think that’s flirting. He also brings up girls to me to keep me updated on them. But we also talk everyday. Been close for years. We are like best friends

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s flirting, but may not be with intent. You are stuck then. Did you tell your SO you have feelings for this guy?