Does my online friend like me?

[Anonymous]

I have an online friend who I have been speaking to since the start of this year. We met through mutual friends online also. Over the months he has been slowly opening up to me about his personal life, his worries and beliefs about controversial things. Before I had to pry it out of him (he never spoke his mind and wanted to appear tough, which made it difficult for the game we were playing at the time) but now everytime we speak he is always talking about his personal life and being vulnerable. He doesn't let anyone else know besides me.

I had asked if he wanted others to join but he immediately shyed away from it. He doesn't like to appear "soft" infront of his other friends that also includes another girl within the circle. I feel like sometimes he goes out of his way to talk to me even if it something minor, or asks me whats up etc. He teases me a lot but he teases everyone else. He has also mentioned I should "definitely get a microphone" so I can voice chat. He has buddied me up with him on another game so we will be leader and vice leader together.

He also talks a lot about trust issues, he keeps mentioning it a lot and says he finds it hard to trust people and yet he is trusting me with his personal info? I feel like he wants someone to understand him, his a very deep person and gets frustrated when I do not understand him on certain things.

To be clear he doesn't ask much about me, but we do discuss on different topics. I feel like he wants to trust me but I am confused on the context on the relationship 😆

[wheist9095]

Well if he is that concerned about his emotional vulnerability, and yet he is also becoming emotionally vulnerable to you that doesn't mean that he is romantically interested in you. It means he trust you, and you have become his emotional confidant. Honestly that is how most guys treat their wives, they're the only people they actually tell everything. But that also lead to a lot of divorces.

Overall, he likes you but he might not be romantically interested. You could try and build a little romantic intimacy with him, I can't say whether or not that's a good idea but if it's something you want to try I would say you've got enough green flags

[Asker]

I can agree. I dont feel like he is romantically interested but I just wanted to rule it out of the ball park! I am very oblviously to signs of guys liking me 😆 I find it very sweet he trusts me a lot with his personal things. He is a very sweet person and I like him too, I just do not want to over invest in emotions when he might just be a fine-weather-friend, or someone who just only wants to vent

[wheist9095]

I can't say that he's not romantically interested, but I think since you guys are online friends it's less likely. I think there's a pretty good chance that if you keep being his emotional confidant and just a plain good friend to him He probably become romantically interested in you eventually. But until then just keep it casual he's a guy you like to talk to and he likes to talk to you and that's all it has to be if that's all you want to be

[Asker]

Actually that is what I am anticipating will happen. Because I know a lot of my guy friends in person and online have developed feelings for me this similar way. And the relationship we had was destroyed because there was no mutual interest beyond romance. Since I am voice chatting soon there might be a higher chance of it occuring but we will see 😆 Id rather just be friends and maybe see whats around the corner later.

[wheist9095]

Fair enough, men have their problems and God knows women have their fair share as well. Regardless, hope it works out well for you whatever the end result is.

[spartan55]

"he doesn't let anyone else know but me"... you don't know that, don't be naive. The reality is until you meet him in person you really have no relationship.

[Avicenna]

He might- the thought has probably crossed his mind, but it seems like he wants a trusted friend above all

[Asker]

Yes I can agree! I do like him but wanted to rule it out in case. I am not very good with picking up on someone liking me more than a friend. However, I am wary of someone taking advantage of venting to someone. It is so common for me and get so annoyed with it 😂

[Vick2828]

Yes, he might like you tbh. I will say this. You need money or somewhat cash to make long-distance work. If you both are working or have parents with money, then ask him out.

[maximumpower]

That's something you need to ask your friend, not anonymous people on GAG who don't know either of you.

[Jamesshinobi]

no. he doesn't like you. who on earth would?