If I told a man I wanted to have sex with him, would he think it was weird?

[ktstyles]

I have a friend who I don't know very well. We went to high school together were both around 20. We matched on tinder around a year ago and he eventually ghosted me after about 3 days, we never went on a date. I'm still very attracted to him and have wanted to hookup with him for years. Would it be weird if I just told him straight up how I feel? Or should I move on since he stopped responding to me. I know he liked me at one point and we have known eachother for a few years.

[Anonymous]

I think the main thing is finding out why he ghosted you. He may not think you’re weird cause if you’re somewhat descent looking most men would hit it as soon as you walked in the door. But how do you want him to see you, to treat you? That’s why I say to find out why he ghosted you. If you don’t care, even if he sees you as a slut then that’s up to you. I’m saying not to, have some respect for yourself, but it’s your life. If you are concerned about how he sees you than no don’t do it. I’m more interested in why he just stop talking to you.

[TheorionMage]

Clearly there WAS a 'spark' for a time and SOMETHING changed.
Since YOU are in the dark, it would imply the problem was from HIS circumstances...
perhaps more his 'opportunity' vs. genuine attraction and interest and
didn't want the long term consequences of a short-term potentially tempestuous hook-up.

[Aerissa_Jade]

If your goal is just to get laid and nothing serious, go for it. He might take you up on the offer, but be careful.

If you want something more than that, do not say that to him. He'll likely think your slutty and easy if you straight out say that. He won't see you as long term material at all.

It sounds like you don't have a lot to lose right now though, if he stopped talking to you.

You might get sex with him, but don't expect anything beyond that.

[Mmmariaxc]

It probably depends how you say it, but it might come off as desperate since he ghosting you.

[ktstyles]

That's what I was thinking

[FilmGuy93]

That would probably catch him off guard.

[__MisterGoneShiner__]

I mean, depends the way you said it and on the person who you asked, darling.

Think it like this... Let me ask you the question, imagine that we're alone at your house, OK? :) ONLY imagination.

Would you like to have sex?


How did it made you feel? You'll find the answer after how you felt. :)

[SnowedIn]

Telling him that wouldn't be weird. But doing so after he's clearly pulled away would be. Based on what you've written, he doesn't want to be with you.

[JPresidente]

The only issue is that you need to find out if he has a girlfriend or wife before the attempt. If you're attractive and not crazy, most guys would be down for sex.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

He ghosted you so I don't think that he is interested.

[Luv2sucklit]

If you ask almost any guy if he wants to fuck you. I don't know if a guy that wouldn't say hell. Yes guys love spontaneous stuff like that. Hell I'll fuck you and I don't even know you and I'm a good fuck and I'll eat your pussy for a couple hours

[Anonymous]

Are you interested in him only for sex, or something more serious? If the latter, you'll likely ruin your chances with him long term by being so easy sexually speaking.

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, some guys would find it desperate and be turned off.

[Anonymous]

He might. But that doesn't necessarily mean he'd say no. Kind of depends on the dude. Some guys will sleep casually with women, some won't.

[Jerre]

I would move on