So starting off I'm morbidly obese and tired of it. I've started a job that is quite laborious and it's helped me lose 10 pounds within the month. The way I'm treated now is I'm just targeted by men who see me as an easy lay so I've decided to avoid guys until I feel right with my weight. Will I then have a better chance of attracted a man who is legit? I know I still run the risk as a woman of attracting someone who doesn't have pure intentions, just wanting to know if the overall treatment is better. I get told all the time that I have a good personality and I'm pretty and I do think I'm pretty and I treat men good it's just... yeah. ☺️
How will I be treated by men if I lose weight?
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Your mindset and confidence are probably bigger indicators of who will be drawn to you. For me, I feel you’re all about attractiveness and how easy of a lay you are. A good woman is someone 100 times more than that. She definitely doesn’t lead with who wants to sleep with her. I’d say you need a friend group overhaul. Make friends who value themselves and maybe you’ll learn to value yourself too. Best wishes! :)
I know I'm a good woman by my values but I'm trying to figure out how to be more than just sex I'm not using the number of men I can get in bed as metrics of my worth, I'm trying to figure out how to attract a good man who doesn't just want sex but being bigger that's all I'm seeming to target.
A good man won’t look at your weight so much as your character. I don’t think you understand what I mean by valuing yourself. It’s a bit hard explaining it over chat. That’s why I said change your friend group. Once you’re in better company, they will show you how to value yourself. Best wishes!
Yes, things will improve and avoiding guys till you feel better is the right thing to do. You should also consider dieting and exercise. Stay focused and best wishes to you.