Would it be weird if I bought my boss cough drops?

[Anonymous]

I've barely been working a month at my job and he's been sick for a week. He coughs up a storm at work and I was thinking in buying him cough drops though I don't know if he's already taking them or he could be against taking them I'm not sure. I don't know anything about him. I want to do something nice for him, but I don't want to overstep and do anything inappropriate. Would that be inappropriate if I bought him a small bag of cough drops or would that be rude? Or should I buy him something else instead that's good for a head cold? I'm not doing it to suck up I am genuinely concerned and he seems like the type of guy that never misses work even if he's extremely sick. I'm just looking to help him out. What do you think?

[spartan55]

No, no, no, no... he will never look at you the same. He's a big boy, he can take care of himself. There are so many things that could go wrong with doing that. Just. Don't. Do. It

[Asker]

Ok. I won't do it. Thank you 😊

[spartan55]

You will be glad, trust me.

[Asker]

This is random, but I have another question for you if you don't mind? I'm actually quitting my job I found a better opportunity somewhere else and I've barely worked at this job for a month. I wanted to write a thank you card to that same manager and this other manager, they're both men. But even though I was at this job for a little bit, I learned some stuff from them and they were both very nice to me. I wanted to write a professional and respectful thank you card. Is that weird if I do that? My state is an at will state, so I'm just going to leave without giving two weeks. I don't know if me quitting will put them in a bad place, I don't really think so because I've been barely scheduled to work that much anyway. So I think it'll be fine. But I wanted to leave by doing something nice. Is that ok you think?

[spartan55]

If you are going to leave without notice I wouldn't do it. It will be perceived as trying to make up for leaving abruptly and possibly burn a bridge, which you never want to do. Are you still able to give two weeks notice?

[Asker]

Yeah I could give two weeks if I want to be nice. But I mean this job only have me working like twice a week. Is it really worth it to give two weeks when I barely work anyway?

[spartan55]

Probably not. Is it considered part time?

[spartan55]

Were you promised full time hours?

[Asker]

It's part-time but I was promised 25 hrs a week. I'm only working 6 hrs a week.

[spartan55]

@r/antiwork
@r/maliciouscompliance

[Asker]

Sorry I don't understand? Are you tagging someone?

[spartan55]

No those are a couple of subreddits that are great for this whole area of discussion. If you don't use Reddit nbd.

[spartan55]

What is your job? Sales?

[Asker]

I work at a restaurant. Oh reddit, I'll check it out, thank you.

[Asker]

I have another question for you, sorry I keep bothering you 😅😆. When it comes to rejecting a guy through text, what's the most respectful way to go about it? Like I want to say, "I'm sorry I'm not looking to date right now." Which is the truth. But also I want to say something like, "I'm flattered, thank you." And I also want to say, "I give you props for having the guts to do it, I know it's really hard. I respect you." I just want to be really nice about it even though this guy is way older than me. But I don't want to be blunt and cutthroat about it. I remember hearing from a guy that he wishes women were nicer when rejecting men because it takes a lot for the guy to make that move. I remember the guy said that women should tell the guy she respects him which is something women don't do. Anyway, thank you for everything.

[spartan55]

You're not bothering me at all. I wouldn't mention respecting him and all that. It's kinda patronizing really. So, you aren't looking to date right now? As long as it's true then you can use it. In other words, don't lie about the reason. We know when you do, and don't appreciate it. Usually it's done to 'spare our feelings', but it doesn't at all. Is this a guy you work with? Someone you will cross paths with moving forward?

[spartan55]

Don't talk about having the guts either. Again, patronizing. Any, guy who has dated has faced rejection MANY times. I started when I was 12. It's not an issue for me at all.

[Asker]

He asked me out right now. He asked if I was seeing anyone. This is what I said, "No, I'm not seeing anyone but I'm not looking to date. Thank you for the compliment 😊 I'm flattered and it brightens my night." Was it patronizing? He replied and he said "No problem. I'm glad it at least brightens your night." Which sounds kind of funny lol but yeah that's it.

[Asker]

Yes I work with him. If he doesn't quit his job, we'll definitely cross paths. I actually had a different guy ask me out at this same job. I told him the same thing, "I'm not looking to date right now but thank you for the compliment." And he said, "I thought I would at least try, no worries." But then he ended up quitting lol I never saw him again after rejecting him.

[spartan55]

Yeah, I think that sounds good. Again, honesty is the best policy and it sounds like you are being honest.

[Asker]

Yay 😁 I'm glad. Thank you very much for helping me!

[spartan55]

Anytime! That's why I'm on here.

[Asker]

Hey I have another another question for you. Craziest thing happened to me today. A lady that owns at a different restaurant, I was eating at her restaurant by myself. We were talking and she was like, "You are a nice girl, do you have a boyfriend or girlfriend." I told her no I haven't found the right guy yet, letting her know I'm straight. She was like, "I have a very nice young man who works for me if you'd like to meet him, you have both good people I think you would be perfect for each other." I was super surprised and I said, "No, that's ok." And she kept talking him up. I said, "How old is he?" And she said "23 or 24." And that bothered me a bit since I'm 28. She said we could start off friends so I said ok. She brings him out and he's really cute. And he gave me his number. I was wondering when I should text him

[Asker]

Should I wait? Or it doesn't matter?

[spartan55]

Whenever you want. Please take this advice : KEEP THE TEXTING TO A MINIMUM. Have a couple of short conversations, and get together for a simple date sooner than later. DO NOT WORRY ABOUT APPEARING DESPERATE. It doesn't apply here.

[Asker]

Shouldn't we start off as friends though? And ok I will keep the texting to a minimum. Should I be the one that asks to hangout then?

[spartan55]

How much have dated? You can PM me if you want

[Asker]

I've only had one boyfriend. But I'm religious, a serious girl waiting for marriage.

[spartan55]

You're 28?

[Asker]

Yes sir.

[Wise4myage]

That's not weird at all.

[Asker]

What would be better cough drop candies or chewable zinc gummies that help/boost your immune system

[Wise4myage]

Zinc gummies.

[Asker]

Ok thank you! 😊

[Wise4myage]

You are welcome.