Why do I, every couple of years, find out a different guy has been obsessed with me romantically, but never told me? Why does that keep happening?

[LittleSally]

So confused.

Happens IRL, not over the internet, by the way.

This just happened to me again. And I am seriously perplexed.

Any intelligent insight would be amazing right now.

Thank you all.

[magiusX26]

possibly you exude an air of do not approach or come acros as already taken. also possible they have tried the more womanly way of throwing hints and you miss them just as many of us do all the time. could be there obssesion is more lust related and they are mature enough not to act on just that. could be reprecussions from the #metoo movement where some places will arrest and charge with a felony for percieved harrassment. a good possbility is they were waiting for a clear sign you were interested in them romantically or that you were at least open to their approaching you. could be shear fear of rejection. could be carreer/job related (if they and you work in the same company, there could be rules in place about that) . some (even all) could be they were taken already but still very interested in you. could be slot of other things too.

[LittleSally]

I do think I exude the air of 'do not approach me if your plans aren't serious and respectful'... and that's a tall order I guess.

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't know but, I've had my eye on you for the past 40-some years, too.

[LittleSally]

That's actually hilarious. Kind of made my morning. :)

[FunkyMonkee]

Good! I'm glad I was able to make you laugh! It's nice to start your day with a laugh. I get one first thing when I get up,. go to the bathroom and look in the mirror!

[MrWolf]

Well imagine in this age and times trying to confess your feelings? Ohhh the ways in can go wrong in a split second. It used to be normal and really nice to be able to express the way you feel about someone. Yet now it's either creepy or creepy.

Now if you ain't available then better make sure they know that so no misunderstanding comes later. But if you ain't taken or free and looking for something meaningful then what's the problem?

Also to not forget if you don't want to be in a relationship also kind mention it.

So be happy people like you because if they don't then you have a problem.

[NamerOfStars]

Belligerent design:

The world malfunctioning frequently COULD happen by itself; it malfunctioning in the worst possible ways at the worst possible times suggests deliberate malfeasance.

[LittleSally]

I can relate to that tiny comic.

[pervertedjester]

Women do it to men as well. Humans don't chase after every want they have in their hearts. You calculate the odds and you move on, one way or the other. Obsess may be the wrong word as well. They may have longed for a certain type of relationship with you but usually if they're obsessed they let you know pretty fast.

[LittleSally]

Not in my experience - obsession turns into stalking quite a lot.

[pervertedjester]

Eventually, yes it does. Yet they usually make an attempt or two at telling the object of their desire about their feelings before they turn into outright stalkers.

[LittleSally]

I think that might depend on their intentions, or what their intentions develop into. :/

[Anonymous]

Well, fewer and fewer men are approaching women for a plethora of reasons. This does not mean we don’t desire you, wonder about you, or find women attractive... and yet more and more men aren’t willing to approach a woman.

[magiusX26]

many of those reasons are very valid and good too

[spartan55]

They don't feel like they can share their feelings with you for some reason. Are you friendly? Outgoing?

[LittleSally]

Friendly yes, outgoing no.

[spartan55]

That might be it.

[LittleSally]

So you're saying no introverted person has ever been approached? :)

[spartan55]

I'm sure they have.

[Guanfei]

Because you're way too hot, so there are higher chance of a guy loving you, but never telling you because he knows he has no chance.

[LittleSally]

That's strange. He can't know if he has a chance if he doesn't try, though. I don't believe in leagues, but I do believe in actual connections.

[Guanfei]

You might now believe in leagues, but naturally most people do. I know that I could never get you. So why try? Unnecessary effort and disappointment in the end

[LittleSally]

That is really sad. :/

[Guanfei]

That's an objective reality. And it's better to know that, it saves a lot of efforts.
And you won't force yourself to be with someone, no matter how much he believes it, and how positive he is.
And seeing how hot you are, again, it's better that you let it know, because otherwise you'll have hundreds of people like me after you.

[UniquelyBasic]

Maybe you're too intimidating to talk to or something.

[Christoff92]

They're probably just nervous 🫣

[Jamie05rhs]

We do this because we don't want to be rejected. So it's best to "keep it to yourself."

[LittleSally]

:/ That is unfortunate.

[Jamie05rhs]

@LittleSally I know. 😔

[Jamie05rhs]

But like everyone is saying here, you are extremely hot.

[jshm2]

Means you're socially ignorant

[doctorwhofan23]

Scared of rejection