There is a guy who is interested in me , we send snap to each other and he sometimes text me hows ur day or ask me anything, but what bothers me is how are u interested in me if u keep sending snappic with other girls and sometimes leave me on read and if I do the same he ask why do you do this and this, it's like if he does it it's okay but if I do it it's wrong. I didn't snap him for a day, and he kept sending, "Where are you:(" and when I tell him why I'm not activ, he gets super dry even tho he is dry. So I don't really get what these kinds of guys want. When we talk, he keeps saying, " You make me happy, or ur cute every 5 sec, or sometimes he keeps saying don't end the call." I feel like he's playing with me, but at the same time, he barely follows a lot of people, and he doesn't have a Lothar of people in his snapchat. Is he acting hard to get or what is happening with this man?
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I don't know why I can't respond to everyone but I'll write here (spartan55) I don't talk to any guy and he said himself he was interested but what is holding me back is he's always around girls partying and getting drunk, that's makes me feel like I'm getting played and no a lot of guys do play hard to get sometimes not only girls,(Jennifer _bloom) I didn't really get what you mean.
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He needs time to grow. He's only 20. I get it but looking back I understand why people did the things they did to me and why I did the things I did. We were all so ignorant and just growing.
Don't process what he is doing as if it is something on purpose. You are conditioning yourself to believe that. Belief is nothing more than neural connections that have connected many times (reinforced). Basically a habit but we call it a belief. Don't create bad beliefs. Especially if you don't know how to undo them. Regardless if it is true or not don't mess up your own head. People do this and then self sabotage for the rest of their life. Like the girl who always thinks she is being cheated on. So she does weird things that pushes the guy away. Never realizing it is her paradigm controlling her perception and behavior.
Same with Black people who study too much of the past and it surprisedly gets worse and worse the more you learn. If you study it I assure you will come to hate white people subconsciously. It's literally impossible not too. Especially if someone is using the right rhetoric. But ofc on a conscious level they won't think they hate white people/blackpeople/brown/yellow/red unless they understand how to interpret the subconscious. And I'm black by the way and so I'm not trying to talk down on them because it is true for all races. If one sees black people portrayed in a certain light, over and over, on tv then you condition yourself to subconsciously view them as such. It's why some people are scared of black people and don't know why. It's from whatever they saw in life.
I'd say just enjoy life and him and understand it probably isn't going to last because of ignorance but learn all you can from it and enjoy it. We could all be dead in a week for all we know.
I don’t make people jealous for fun, but I try to make sure my life is secure so I do not invest in a guy that is unsteady or unreliable in his interest in me. I do not have a lot of dating experience and I do not know what types of connections is proper with other guys while engaged and married. Like is it okay to have a male taxi driver? Can you do volunteer work with males? Can you visit barbecues with male co workers? Can you rent your property to male tenants if they agree to shovel the driveway or give you rides to the store and the doctors? Are you allowed to hire a male accountant to do your taxes? Etc.. learning by experimentation right now.
Guys don't play hard to get. That's a stupid game girls play (that doesn't work by the way)
How are you so sure he is interested? You are being unrealistic expecting him to ONLY talk to you. Like you aren't talking to any other guys, right?
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No they don't. They are just not interested. I've known quite a few guys in my life. I think it's safe to say many more than you. I've never known one guy to play hard to get. If a guy is into you then you WILL know it. It will be clear. The hard to get shit is a lie girls tell themselves to shield them from reality.
You can't get played when you aren't even together! That's absurd. I have a feeling his side of this is much different than yours and the truth is somewhere in the middle. Nevertheless you two don't seem like a match.