Why is it that whenever a guy is complimenting me physically that my friends say they’re just desperate or say that to everyone?

[Anonymous]

I’ll be on a date and the guy says something like “you’re so beautiful” or “you’re a beautiful woman” nothing trashy. I’ll tell a friend about it and their response is that they just want to tell me what I want to hear. I’m actually really pretty though.

[ohsheeT]

This is such a good question and then so many different ways it really sucks because what your friend is saying is true to a point with a guy is saying is true to a point it's probably true all the way through I don't know cuz I haven't seen you but I would think that you are beautiful I mean I've said that to many women and I mean it with all my heart and at the same time it is true what your girlfriend said is there just saying what you want to hear but see that's okay that's the best part about it is I want to say it because I want you to hear it because I want you to have the confidence I want to know that you have the confidence to understand that it says oh no I'm not I like a girl's confidence I like a girl that is not afraid to say I am beautiful so I mean your girlfriend is right but in many many cases when a guy tells you you're beautiful it's because you're beautiful some guys play the card like your girlfriend says they just want to say what you want to hear I don't know if that's the truth or not this is what your question is so good because I don't care what your girlfriend says if I think you're beautiful I'm going to say it and I'm going to leave it right there next time guy says that to you look straight into his eyes as he saying it to you see if he looks away see if he looks down or if he just keeps staring deep into your eyes if that's what he does then he's serious but I do like this question it's really good one because it does go both ways

[Count_de_Monte_Volo]

Sounds like they’re probably jealous. A normal guy won’t compliment someone he doesn’t find attractive because he doesn’t want to have sex with her. I don’t think it’s desperation either. Trust me when I say I was desperate and I never gave a physical compliment even once to a stranger.

[Count_de_Monte_Volo]

In my opinion the ones who give compliments like that are confident cool guys, which is why I say they’re probably not desperate. It takes confidence to give that sort of compliment.

[Count_de_Monte_Volo]

Sorry, I didn’t read the part about it being during a date. What I said applies to just being in public.

[itsalyssaagain]

Lol I had a friend like this!!! And if a guy complimented her she’d claim he’s head over heels for her…because she’s such a catch and I’m not apparently.


Basically they’re fake friends and it’s best to stay away from them. Not only because they’re fake but they’ll also bring your energy down.

[Asker]

Definitely. I mean, I’m not going to assume every man has a bad motive in mind. Maybe they do, maybe they don’t. I think highly of myself and for years felt like shit. I want to give myself more credit and not be drained by such negative people.

[itsalyssaagain]

Honestly the longer you entertain it the worse it will get.

[sage2021]

This is an easy question. They are jealous of you, plain and simple.

[Asker]

I’m so tired of this! It’s messed me up and made me feel like I’m not actually pretty.

[sage2021]

@Asker
That is there plan. That's why they do it. Mean girls for sure!
He said you are beautiful, so I would believe him!! ❤️

[Asker]

Well it’s a lot of guys who say this to me, even on the street in non creepy ways. And my friends are like “wow just casually calling women gorgeous” 🙄

[sage2021]

If random guys are saying you are gorgeous then you must be.
But there again these are mean jealous girls and they only wish they were getting all the attention.
Be careful though. Girls can be mean these days. Stay on your guard okay? 🌺

[Asker]

That makes so much sense. Because it was so much more common when I had a friend I used to go to the gym with. No guys really gave her attention or respect, whereas they did with me and I was showered with attention.

[JustMeL120]

Can I point out than men do actually say that to everywomen. I don't want to put you down you are probably beautiful but it's a common pick up line.

[Guccigabbana18]

They are envious because they don't get the same amount of attention/validation/compliments. So they try to drag you down to "negate" the compliment you got, so that you fall back to their perceived "level".

They don't want you thinking you're better than them in any way (not that you do in the first place.)

[Asad1ONE1]

Not only that. But also sexist.

[Anonymous]

They could be jealous. Or they may be right if it’s someone they know who tells all the other women the same thing. One thing about a man’s POV compared to that of a woman is that they will most likely tell each other that they are beautiful, you’re a queen, a catch, I don’t see why you’re not taken already lol but in reality they’re really not all that as far as how a man sees them. Women pretend to support each other but hate on each other the most. Maybe you are pretty I don’t know. You say you are but I’m not sure if you are or not. Your friend could be right as well men do say things like that to get you all gooey inside in hopes that you’ll sleep w them. Doesn’t mean they want a real relationship w you. A lot of women say oh he’s in my DMs, which may be true but does he just want to fuck hog or actually be w you that’s the real question.

[Asker]

But that’s not my situation as I’m not on cheap websites/platforms or social media. These are actual encounters in classier ways.

[desidoll]

I figure that some women always try to control what are men supposed to find attractive. I have exactly a friend like yours and I kicked her out from my circle because she won’t stop being toxic. They are just jealous that they don’t get the same amount of attention as you because they find themselves attractive so men should too.

[JustMeL120]

Don't tell them that stuff. its none of their business what you boyfriend is telling you. And dont go round saying things like you are really pretty because people will think you are arrogant or narsisist and they will want to bring your ego down for your own good.

[strateguy632]

sounds like they are jealous that you get the compliment. just ignore them and follow your feelings around the guy.

[stepyo99]

It sounds like your friend is a bitter person.

[StormChaser838]

There are just jealous, pretty one. But I hope you returned the compliment in kind!!!

[summiter]

Just accept the compliment. He just may be honest and mean it.

[Anonymous]

Your friends are insecure and jealous. These kind of people are not your real friends, they are only with you to let you down.

[Anonymous]

They are jealous and many women are very competitive with each other when it comes to men.

[MrCommodore]

Sounds like your friends don't rate you that highly and thus think guys are bullshitting you.

[Asker]

No it’s because they think they’re hot shit and entitled to so much attention and get mad if any other woman gets it.

[hbg84]

Your friends are jealous that you're being complimented and not them.

[jshm2]

Either you've got shit friends who want to get into your pants instead, or you're not as bright as you think you are pretty.

[Jazzy54]

Are you shocked when a man compliments you? Otherwise, why are you telling your friends about it? That’s actually kind of an odd thing to do….

[Asad1ONE1]

Either they have bad experiences with men and being honest, or they're jealous. Or a number of other reasons lol.

[Asker]

I think it’s because some of these women are seen as easy and thus men think those compliments will work on THEM, so these female friends assume from their experiences that that’s also happening with me too. But we’re in different categories.

[Asad1ONE1]

Yes everyone has different experiences. Also, they were likely being sexist as well. Probably jealous of men because they may feel that women also seem desperate and so they might be self projecting. This is just one of many reasons men and women don't get along.

[lolligaggin]

Depends on what you look like. If you're not beautiful, they're probably right.

[Asker]

I’m a model so I’m actually objectively attractive.

[Vegasrunner]

It's because your friends are telling you the truth.

[shades777]

its a difference between telling you what i want you to hear and telling you what you want to hear.

[OlderAndWiser]

Maybe your friends are jealous little bitches!

[BoopBoopBeep]

Because you have crappy friends.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Sounds like you need better friends...