He asked me out on a date and says he likes me but never likes me photos. Why?

[Anonymous]

This guy approached me while I was out with friends about a year ago. He called me good looking and said he thought I “might be the best looking girl of them all” which could just be a line tbh. He kept reaching out and I ignored him initially because I thought he was a player.

But we’ve been texting recently and he asked me on a date and to come with him to his friend’s birthday party. But he NEVER likes my posts on instagram, but I see his name under most other girl’s selfies and pictures. Including my friend’s raunchy pictures. I’m just being cautious. Should I bother with him?

[Guccigabbana18]

I agree with Kylee. Guys who like every girl's pictures, especially ones who aren't his friends, are usually hoes. Even if he does like you, it would be a headache trying to trust him. You'll always be looking over your shoulder wondering if he's going to play you.

Unless he really proves himself trustworthy in the future I would let this one be. Maybe don't make any extra effort and definitely don't sleep with him.

[spartan55]

Why does he have to prove anything to her when OP has done nothing except ignore him and believe rumors?
I mean is OP Miss Universe or something?

[spartan55]

This is a joke, right? Because he won't like your social media shit? You are giving social media as much value as real life which is stupid. Also, ignoring him because 'you thought he was a player'? Based on what? Let me guess. Social media? Then for some dumb reason he STILL chases you around and asks you out? What exactly have YOU done to let him know that you have genuine intentions with him? Sounds like pretty much nothing.
Just amazing.

[RavVid]

It is not mandatory for him to like your photos as in clicking like. In fact a lot of guys will like what girls post on the slim chance they will get sex from that.

If anything it is a plus. You could always ask.

[Asker]

No it's not mandatory, but it's weird considering he's "talking" to me and supposedly not other girls, but he likes everyone's photos but mine. Like does he find me attractive or not? Is he embarrassed to like my photos or hiding something? Why is he liking my friend's raunchy photos when he doesn't show interest in her in real life? But he doesn't like mine?

[spartan55]

@asker
Stupid Instagram is NOT a reflection of reality.

[kylee2437]

@spartan55 Instagram however is a reflection of how someone wants to be perceived and yes that directly affects aspects in a relationship

[spartan55]

@kylee2437
We talking about liking photos... you are not dumb, but I don't see how you think that means a damn thing.
Let's keep in mind that OP hasn't done anything to show him she is worth dating. She ignored him because 'she thought he was a player'. (ie no evidence) yet he is supposed to still chase her around and issue bullshit faux-validation on social media? Why is she so special? So stupid.

[spartan55]

@kylee2437
So you like guys worry about how they will be perceived if they like or don't like pictures. Maybe women do, but that's not the type of shit guys worry or think about much.
OP ignored him and has been jerking him around. It probably hasn't even crossed his mind.

[kylee2437]

@spartan55 so I guess she has a right to question why she isn’t receiving something that is perceived as “not too special” for men. Why is she not receiving this guys bare minimum? Why wouldn’t she question that?

[spartan55]

@kylee2437
Why should he give more than the bare minimum when she hasn't done jack shit? That's why.

[kylee2437]

@spartan55 him liking pics on social media is the bare minimum and she isn’t receiving that. Why are you so mad about her questioning the bare minimum she isn’t receiving?

[spartan55]

@kylee2437
Please don't start with the 'getting mad' bullshit. It doesn't apply.
I love how you keep ignoring the fact that she hasn't done anything to show she is worth his time. Frankly I'm surprised he still bothers.

[kylee2437]

@spartan55 you are being rather explosive for no reason for one and for 2 so all the women he has liked pics of have made efforts in some kind of way to get a simple like from him? What a delusional take lmfao. Moron.

[spartan55]

@kylee2437 I've figured out your debate strategy. If someone challenges you with a point you can't argue you just ignore it. That's a very easy way (and meaningless) way to win every argument. Such a joke.
I don't know what any of those women did to get his hyper valuable likes... I doubt they ignored the guy and accused him of being a player though.
You just won't touch my point about her being rude and doing nothing. To you that's okay! What a fucking one way street you walk on. Entitlement at it's finest. Yeah, and I'm the delusional moron.

[kylee2437]

@spartan55 you aren’t really getting that she most likely hasn’t done anything because he came out of random saying that he thinks she’s attractive but doesn’t treat her like the random girls that he try’s to get their attention from via social media and that in itself looks suspicious.

And yes your point is delusional because those random women most likely do not do ANYTHING to get a like from him. I am a rather attractive woman myself and men like my photos all the time without me doing anything for that like.

You insinuating random women have made efforts for a random like is putting this man on a pedestal when he most likely has absolutely no reason to be put on a pedestal

[kylee2437]

@spartan55 you have no point. She’s allowed to feel weird about a man that exerts in playerish ways just like men are extra cautious of women that do Onlyfans

[spartan55]

@kylee2437
'playerish ways' give me a fucking break...
Don't put words in my mouth either. I didn't fucking insinuate those other girls made any efforts. What I said since you can't seem to read is: "I don't know what any of those girls did to get..." now you are changing my answers to support your POV? You are seriously fucking mental.
He asked her on a date and expressed interest in getting to know her... isn't that enough? He also has to pass the stupid social media test? Fuck that.
OP doesn't really want a relationship, she clearly self sabotaged that possibilty on this one.

[spartan55]

"I am a rather attractive woman myself"
Who has zero humility, which negates any attractiveness you thought you had.

[kylee2437]

@spartan55 yeah she has a right to find a man that plays the stupid social media games unattractive, just like you definitely find onlyfans women undateable.

Give yourself a break. You are going so hard for something you claim isn’t that important, and more so I don’t care if I’m unattractive to you. I never asked you for input nor do I care about your opinions, all I know is attention I get from men on social media is never from my efforts

[spartan55]

That's great! I'm sure they are all only interested in your sunny personality too.
So I "definitely find onlyfans women undateable"... making up more shit...😂 If you got nothin just go home. That's at least twice in this thread you claimed I said something I didn't. Why do you have to make shit up? It's pathetic. Your giant ego is something else.
And just to straighten you out on something else, he isn't playing any social media games, he doesn't feel he needs to chase her around anymore and doesn't gaf. Especially when she hasn't done shit. It will some excuse with the next guy she likes too. It will never be her fault that she does nothing, always the guy's. Guys are tired of being the only ones showing interest while girls do nothing but show up.
It's amazing that you believe liking this girls social media photos somehow validates his interest and proves he doesn't have 'player-ish tendencies. How does she know he didn't just like the pictures to gas her up? That's the thing few people seem to understand. Social media is miles wide and inches deep. Like you said people use social to form perceptions and an image. You think everyone is honest about that? Lol

[RavVid]

I think the raunchy pics don't need much explanation. We might like looking at porn stars but it doesn't mean we want any further association other than enjoying looking at their bodies.

I don't use social media so I am possibly the worst opinion to take. I would see liking someone's cafe late and biscuit as an extremely trite thing to do. It is possibly something I would do just for social oil with people I don't care about much. A bit like saying I like your hair after other people have complimented your new haircut/dye job.

You on the other hand I have asked out to a social event within my friends circle. I haven't just asked you out to dinner or coffee. So I would think you would see that as having a little more meaning than trite likes.

[Asker]

Thank you @ravvid for your helpful input :) But is it not weird to like my FRIENDS' raunchy pictures-- Friends he's never met? Their bikini pics. It's embarrassing surely? Doesn't it send the message that he wants to hook up with my friends as well? And all these other girls he knows and has probably hooked up with before.

I think my reservations are ameliorated by him having a reputation as a player. It sucks.

[Asker]

So maybe it is in my head but it is embarrassing him liking my friend's cleavage pics.

[spartan55]

@asker
Maybe you ignoring him has something to do with not liking your photos. You putting this all on him is comical.

[RavVid]

I can see your point. But there is a point to your friends cleavage pics.

[kylee2437]

Sounds like a player to me. I’d leave him alone. Being under every girls pictures is unattractive as hell

[Asker]

I agree that it's strange behaviour. Thanks. I would find it embarrassing quite frankly if we were dating exclusively and he did that.

[spartan55]

Nothing like running your love life based on social media. So stupid.

[kylee2437]

@spartan55 social media has made peoples behaviors and attitudes towards relationships more apparent if anything. And that behavior won’t stop if he gets into a relationship. I’ve seen how it plays out time and time again.

[WhitneySnow]

That is kind of weird. He might be a player. Listen to your instincts.

[Asker]

I agree, thanks. Other guys told me he isn't usually nice to girls, but he recently told me he wants something serious and is interested in taking me out and seeing where it goes. I find the behaviour weird though and I can't ask him about it because that would be weird

[WhitneySnow]

I don’t trust him. Don’t do it.

[spartan55]

@asker You won't ask him because you know he is how crazy you will sound.
'other guys told me' and overthinking social media shit is never going to get what you want.

[barn_stormer]

what kind of retard cares about fucking instagram?

[spartan55]

@barn_stormer
Look around this forum, apparently many. It's crazy.