So I’ll just come straight out with it, I’m currently in the mist of an 8 year affair, it only turned sexual this year. We are both in happy marriages with people we love. I’ve just got to a point where I feel confused of our motives. I know why I do what I do, and it’s becus I love him. I love both men, and I can’t pick between them. I’m at a point where I think if no one is getting hurt, and I’m fullfilling my happiness what’s the problem. I know other will object, and say I’m a terrible person but you only get one life, and shit happens. I’ve just lost sense of him, and his motives. I don’t think he loves me, he cares about me, and we have been friends longer than we’ve been married. The sex is good between us but him and his wife have better, she’s more adventurous than me, they use toys etc and I’m more vanilla. He loves her unconditionally and would never put me or anyone before her. I’m just confused becus if it isn’t for love, and isn’t for sex then what’s it all for? I’ve cut him off time and time again and yet it’s him that comes back.
What does the affair mean to him?
