I told him “if you wanted to make it work, you would’ve”. Now he won’t talk to me. Was I wrong?

[Anonymous]

long story short, he wasn’t putting much effort into our “relationship”. It was really a situationship. I was telling him how I was feeling and he didn’t really do much about it. He honestly got worse so I just left him. He seen me a month later at a party and wanted to talk, but I was intoxicated so I don’t remember much about it. He was telling me we just didn’t work out and stuff like that. I didn’t get why he had to tell me that. I just remembered I texted him when he left saying that, if he wanted to make it work he could’ve. I said that bc I kept giving him chances and putting a lot of effort in and he was doing the bare minimum. The next day I apologized and tried to talk to him but he refuses to talk to me. I kept trying but I gave up. I don’t know if It was something I did or said or was it the text. I just wanted to talk to him sober bc he tried to talk to me about it while I was drunk. He said he doesn’t feel comfortable. I don’t know if what I did was wrong

[HollyK21]

Honestly, what more is there for him to say? Like It’s ok to feel a bit guilty over a drunken conversation or wish that it happened sober, but with that aside, did you tell a lie? Nope, those were your true feelings that you may not have had the courage to tell him if you’d been sober so who knows, maybe it was for the better. In any case, you don’t need closure or another conversation about the same things — he already knows every bit of how your feeling and is not going to change. He’s told you that you’re incompatible and while yes I’m sure the finality of those words hurt a lot, but it is what it is. You can’t fight for a situation he isn’t willing to fight for either, so let it go, wish him the best, start your journey to moving on and healing.

[Lliam]

Nah. You did everything right.
It sounds like you tried to communicate well before you left him. He didn't respond and even began acting worse. In other words, he didn't care about your needs or feelings.

I think you did everything right. You even tried apologizing for what you said that one night as a way of opening a dialogue. But he's not into dialogue. He will not compromise.

So I guess you found out how important you were to him. He was just using you.

Leaving him was strong on your part. Kudos.

Be glad to be rid of him. Move on. You deserve better.