I went out on a first date with someone, we got off really well. Humor was the same and values in life were matching. He also said he liked our time together and he would like to see me again, yet the next day he sent one message ( which is less than before the dare) and completely disappeared. What does this mean? Is he expecting me to initiate or is he pulling back? Ah i hate dating.
Guys, Why would a guy act interested and tell you they want to see you again then ghost?
What Guys Said
He may have just said that to be nice. Easier to get out of telling the truth by making up a lie. Because if he would have said he’s not feeling the vibe, how would you have felt? Feelings hurt? Maybe she might have said well I didn’t like you much either because she got hurt. So it was earlier to tell her he’s like to see her again. At the same time maybe he did like her to begin w but met someone who he felt was better, grass being greener on the other side as they say. Which isn’t always true. Maybe he found out something about you from a mutual acquaintance that he didn’t like.
Wouldn’t it be easier to say I didn’t feel a connection?
He expressed that in other dates he would say that right on and he would leave.. so strange to me this behaviour
You would think it’d be easier but maybe to spare your feelings. Plus rejection is just bad overall, some people get offended, maybe cause a scene, start crying or something.
Sounds like he wasn't sincere about seeing you again. It happens, don't take it personal.
It saves time. If he told you he's just not feeling then you might ask why... etc. it just brings forth all sorts of variables. It's just easier to ghost. Also it might have not been his intent to ghost at that time. But later he simply got a better offer.