I’m not sure if this is abusive but I recently was talking to a guy who’s much older than me (20 years) and we didn’t really date but most of the texting was extremely sexual and objectifying. All he wanted to talk about was sexual things. At one point I called him out about it and he told me “sorry you got that impression. I was just following your lead.” And so I cut things off. But then a month later I actually thought maybe I was overthinking this and reached out, we talked again and I told him I don’t wanna talk about anything sexual and he still found a way to break my boundaries and talk about it. I am so diminished and isolated at this point because of all the objectifying and comments that I started feeling so awful and wanted to hide when I went out places and started worrying that I needed plastic surgery. We got together one night (again, I felt so low) and we didn’t have sex but we cuddled and he started touching my underwear and leggings after I moved his hands repeatedly. Honestly was so embarrassed just because I was on my period. I think he was drunk or something cuz breath smelled like alcohol. He also wouldn’t kiss me at all. Overall it was boring and awkward. We kept in touch a little bit after that and by the way his communication was always inconsistent and he’d only text me super late at night. He also lives in my apartment building so it’s extra awkward now. Anyway I cut him off the last time ever and said how it’s be my last time ever cutting him off and that I deserve better than how he talks to me and how he’s inconsistent so he can be in control, and closed off the text telling him to “kindly step off” and he replied talking about how amazing I am and how he’d at least like to be friends and be a source of comfort, especially since I told him I’m battling depression. After some back and forth I straight up told him I’m blocking him and I’m done.
Im hurting and feel like I have no one else to talk to. I feel so alone.
Let go of the self Pitty. He’s a coward for being content in treating women that way.
Why would you even consider, yet allow yourself to let him take your light. He’s shi*t on dirty shoes thrown in the trash that raccoons and maggots wouldn’t even touch him.
You dodged a bullet, count your blessings and learn moving forward.
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Same I’m a lonely birdy in the world. It sucks.
He probs just wants to be in your vagina that’s it. :s
I'm sorry. That sucks. But that guy's a lowlife and it's not your fault. You did the right thing by cutting him off. But don't feel bad, it wasn't anything wrong that you did, he was just an asshole.
you should've dumped this jerk sooner stay away. just keep busy finding the next partner
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