Is it fair for my boyfriend to say that I'll accuse him of r*pe when we have sex for the first time?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He's always been very eager to get physical with me, but I was hesitant as it's my first time and I want to be really ready. We were just talking casually and he brought up the topic of me comparing him to a shitty movie character for asking me if I had any side bfs or not, because he saw his friend's girlfriend of 3 years do the same. I told him that just because it happened to his friend doesn't necessarily mean I'll do the same (excuse me for defending myself 🤦‍♀️). Coming back to the argument, he went as far as saying that if I can compare him to that character, I can even accuse him of r*pe the first time we have sex. This absolutely left me speechless and I couldn't exactly get the right words out of my mouth because of how shocking it was. He then apologized to me and said that it was "just a flash thought" and he felt he needed to say it, but I'm just devastated that he would think that about me even after being with me for 2 years. I'm honestly considering breaking up at this point.

[StarWarGirl]

I can't feel comfortable being with this kind of guy after seeing the true reality of his extent of thoughts. I may tend to breakup sooner after listening such things.

The person who can accuse me today for such kind thing even after knowing me 2 years how in future he not going to accuse me for more?

This kind of toxic negatives i can't tolerate. I can't be with this kind person.

[LazerBean]

Why would you want to have sex with a man that low quality? Especially for the first time? It takes a special kind of daged, low quality man so say something like that to someone he's been dating for years. Save your virginity for a high quality man who actually loves you and will be with you forever. Not that loser who clearly never had a father figure around to teach him basic life lessons.

[DarkLegacy]

You can blame the feminists for this, with all this rape nonsense. they think it is rape if a woman changes her mind during sex or even later on. They even say it is rape unless you go through a red tape style of obtaining sex.

It does not help that women are always making false allegations against men usually to get their own back.

[Asker]

But I'm not a feminist (I mean a fake feminist), and he knows it. Still he chose to accuse me of it.

[DarkLegacy]

I did not suggest you were, but it has made both men and women paranoid

[Asker]

Well, what he said absolutely shattered me because I've never been that type of person, and I really don't think I can give his supposed paranoia a pass here.

[DarkLegacy]

Of course not, there is a problem there. If you have been together for two years then...

[JacobJordan]

Valid concern given the me too movement and feminazi's. Unfortunately shitty women have made all women almost too risky to date. If they push much farther women will be too risky for anyone to date

[boggboss]

I wouldn't trust a person that would say that whilst I have been in a relationship with for 2 years that's pretty unhinged or shows how they trust u

[AmyHew1tt]

I think you should break up. He's too insecure and caught up in negativity.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like that'd probably be best for BOTH of you.

[Anonymous]

He shouldn't be with you if he thinks that poorly of you.

[shortster]

Sounds like you should leave him.