How to lose weight?

[Anonymous]

I live in a small country village next to a big road. I've been wishing to work out for a while, but there's only one very short path I can jog on and the road is too dangerous. My family thinks I look stupid working out, and whenever I wanted to lose it by dancing, rope-jumping or anything, they would laugh or say I should walk the dog on that tiny short road and that's enough. I don't think 10 minutes of slow walking is going to make me lose weight. Or eating the fat crap they make for lunch (pork ribs, fries, meat with potatoes...) and when I make myself healthy food, they yell at me for being picky. I really need supportive people to make it and my family treats me like I'm some kid going through an emo phase... It's not a phase. I just don't want to be fat like my family is. What can I do? I can't do it without support. My athletic boyfriend is too advanced in that and can't help but laugh at my awkward feet flopping around when I run, and I would understand since everyone says my run is hilarious. He also can't wait for me since he has a faster pace and better stamina, plus, I don't want him to know. The last time I told him he didn't believe I'd do it for more than a month, and the lack of support actually made me stop because everyone said I can't do it. Or everyone said I need to be breathless. No, I don't. I want to enjoy exercise, not go through torture. I seriously don't know what I'm asking you guys here. How to get support from my family? What to do instead of jogging? How intense should it be? I don't know what I don't know, I just need help...

[Jessicarandall]

Sigh... Sometimes family's can be self destructive's best friend when their actual intention is for you to love yourself for who you are and how your body is now. I genuinely don't think they mean any harm but simply don't see any need to change. You are their beautiful daughter.

Given your location and lacking family support id suggest starting with baby steps... That believe it or not will actual turn into big steps incredibly fast!

Since changing the food they eat is a battle id suggest tweaking it. First cut out the fries and replace with an easy veg like carrots with cinnamon and a little butter... Sooo good. You can even pick them up in the freezer section that are microwaveable in the bag so super easy and convinient.

Second, eat the ribs and meat but reduce the portion, and I don't mean to a tiny one! You need protein and fat to feel full and prevent you feeling like your on a "diet".

Third, water... Water water water I can't say it enough. I always heard water for losing weight but was still amazed when I tried it and how much it affected my weightloss. I add a splash of apple juice to a pint glass as I don't like water straight up. But no sodas or straight up juice. Oh, and make yourself go through two big glasses of water ( you can still add a little juice) a couple hours before bed. You will be amazed at the difference!

These are very small changes but really good ways to get you started. Just by cutting the fries and portion is going to initially make your body lose weight.

Perhaps after a month and the weightloss and change of mood and motivation will help your family see how good this is for your peace of mind and confidence. Maybe then, you can up it to a new level with their support.

Feel free to private message me anytime for further advice!

[Asker]

Thank you, great tips! I think if I do what you said, those steps won't even be noticed by my family and I can gradually build up instead of taking the full transformation at once. I don't think tho that they think I look ok, they make fun of my weight but I'm still the slimmest in my family. I am not slim but I'm 164cm tall and I weight 67kg. So I'd need to go down to 55 to be happy and still healthy. Thank you, this was a great advice. Less is more!

[kcurioistyk]

try pilates. It burns fat and builds strength. There are heaps of modifications for beginners. there's a fabulous youtuber Cassey Ho who does great video workouts!

[broadsword]

It's tough when your the only one interested in eating healthy.
You have to take charge of your own diet.
Cardio is the way forward. Think constructively about the house. Stairs are amazing to use as a bit of apparatus just 2 as step up one to do elevated push ups poor 2 or three for sit ups.
Diet is easy eat the same things but cock them differently. Grilled or bake the meat removing the fat bake the potatoes.
Remove saturated fat from your diet as much as possible. Don't eat anything with sugar in it and increase your fruit and veg intake considerably. Don't go hungry eat more fruit. Five a day is a minimum I regularly consume double that of more.
Cut out all processed food especially bread one slice a day is enough carbs.