How can I motivate myself to keep going when people around me randomly comment on how fat I am?

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i have started working out, but i don't tell that to everyone and i can't stop everyone from commenting. usually my guy friends say all of this. i am a 19 year old girl 68 kgs 157 cm with fat mostly around my shoulders and arms. moreover i feel like guys know only 2 body types, skinny and rest all are fat.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Ignore them and focus on yourself , Don’t exercise and try to lose weight , to appease anyone but yourself , if those guys’ are making insults to you , they aren’t your friends , kick them to the curb and tell them to go fuck themselves they are assholes that think their shit don’t stink , don’t waste anymore of your time and energy on people like that what so ever , if you want to lose weight and get in shape , do it for you , don’t do it for anyone else , When you learn to love yourself for who you are , that’s what mainly attracts other people to you. You don’t have to be super fit to be attractive, , if someone can’t accept you for who you are , they aren’t worth your time what so ever , those type of people only care about what they feel is best for themselves , that walk around like their shit don’t stink , little do they realize, they are in for a rude awakening , when they realize their shit does stink. Stay away from people
Like that , they mean nothing. Someone that is judgmental about other people , is someone that has a ton of insecurities lying inside themselves , they try to make themselves come off as better than they actually are, because they are insecure about themselves , and don’t realize they look like a fucking idiot. Stay away from people that try to bring negative energy into your life , people that bring positive energy into your ice , keep them by you as much as possible , When you learn to love yourself and accept yourself for who you are that’s when you will become more attractive to people that actually matter not people that constantly seek validation , seeking validation means you are a loser and can’t be trusted

b_lova · Accepted Answer

Sometimes we have to trick ourselves into motivation. No one can tell you what that maybe. Personally I set physical goals of things I want to achieve that are just out of reach, then once I reach it, I celebrate the achievement and I move the goal to something else out off reach.

At your age most guys are toxic, immature and will ridicule anyone not like them. As you get older you will be able to control your environment better and keep guys like that at arms length. At least that's what I did, even though I was very fit, they found other reasons to bully me. I learned to turn a deaf ear.

Remember that what you're doing has nothing to do with them, it's for your own health and longevity. And if that doesn't work let their ridicule fuel your passion to get healthy, if for no other reason than to prove them that you can.

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

I'd just ignore it and keep on reminding yourself that you have a healthy weight goal & plan. When I was underweight, I woke up each morning and thought "Ok, you're going to eat well and do a little bit of exercise. You've got this and you're trying. Once you're thick & healthy, you'll be happy." I got comments on it, but I knew being superskinny isn't what I wanted (it was an accidental weight loss-keeping story short). But I do believe that you can do it! It won't be easy, but it is 100% possible. 💪

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

You have to start to love yourself first. And not for your body, but for who you are. This will build mental strength and resilience to other people's evaluation.

Working out is a great start, but take a look at your diet. Eliminating sugar and making your meals healthy should speed up the process.

electromagnetic · Answer

I mean, it’s not like you’re getting shape to please others. And if that’s the case, you need to learn to switch your mentality. The whole idea is to know that you’re doing it for your own health, benefit and enjoyment. Clearly you already know you can get better and are working towards that. That should be the only thing to motivate you and keep you pushing. If you’re hoping for happy comments about you being skinny, it’ll only encourage you to halfass because people are feeding you bs. Work forwards your goals. Not towards how others invasion you.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

That is the motivation. Every time someone calls you fat, you should drink water. Every time someone looks at you a way you don't like, you should rehash your plan for what you're going to eat today. Every time you're self conscious about how fat you look sitting down because of your shirt, you should think about if you're happy with how often you're going to the gym.

Replace your shitty thoughts that make you lose because they distract you with thoughts that make you win because they keep you focused. It's not hard to train yourself. You make big changes one step at a time and what's done little but often, becomes much.

HawkPerception · Answer

I won't focus on the fact that you're a girl with a guy's account.

What I'll say is whatever people say to you, use as fuel. If they call you fat, workout and then make them all check you out. Being fat is not something you should learn to love about yourself as this body positivity movement that all women seem to love may suggest. Being fit and healthy means you live a higher standard of life, will likely live longer, be less prone to dying from diseases, have a better appearance, and higher confidence. And once you get into the routine of doing it regularly, it becomes a normal aspect of your life. You'll start to look forward to your workouts and the high you get afterwards. You won't see immediate progress, but you'll start to see it month after month. It will be noticeable.

JoePro_ · Answer

Ignore them. Asshats are everywhere, and they'll be asshats regardless if you're a girl or guy. Especially people around your age. As you get older, and the people around you get older, it'll happen less and less. Older people are (usually) more sensitive about being kind and encouraging to one another, as they gain life experience and encounter failures along the way. Failures teach empathy. But that said, just keep going. Tune them out, or use what they say as motivation to keep going and prove them wrong. You can also get a motivational friend to talk to about your workouts. Or a life coach. But regardless keep at it. You're amazing for even wanting to make health changes in your life and to go to the gym. You're doing more than most people! Keep at it!

Rei13 · Answer

Use that as fuel to push yourself forward. I was really overweight at one point and it helped me. The hardest part is learning a new lifestyle with what you’re eating and how much you’re moving and learning to love yourself regardless of how you look on the outside. The way you view yourself is more important than others opinion because at the end of the day they’re not moving around the world as you

Fireguy17 · Answer

It's tough. Especially when you first start out.

The biggest couple of things is to remember that you didn't get that way overnight, and it won't go away overnight.

You are making a lifestyle change, diet, exercise, eating better but less and moving more.

Mix up your routines, go for a walk at least 20 to 30 minutes each time.

You start burning fat after 20 minutes.

Don't go for any of the fad diets, you need to make the changes for life, eating kale 6 times a day will get old quickly.

Maybe see a dietician, less carbs, but good carbs, more protein etc.

Pretty soon someone will ask are you losing or have you lost weight?

You will start to feel better and better about yourself, it will take time but stick with it.

There are 21 meals in a week, if you mess a couple up that means you had 19 good meals.

Anonymous · Answer

You're only 20 lbs. away from being an ideal weight, which you could do in a year without too much difficulty. You will lose the most weight by reducing or cutting out sugar, but cardio and strength training will definitely help and make you look awesome.

jshm2 · Answer

If you aren't motivated to prove them wrong, then you are a loser at heart anyway.

As my old mentor used to say "let them laugh until there are tears in their eyes, they are less likely to spot your knife then.

Some people get motivation through encouragement, but they tend to be weak willed and backslide when the "positivity" is gone. Some get motivation through pride, or ambition. But it's the ones who get it from hatred and avarice that reach the top.

Cody2004 · Answer

Try to make friends with a person who goes to the gym it makes it a lot easier to go or you could also do swimming which I understand could be a bit embarrassing I mean I'm fit but I don't like people looking at me when I'm half naked. If you're trying to get in shape swimming will help with a bunch of stuff but other than that just find a friend that you could go with who enjoys the gym because they will probably drag you with them lol

exitseven · Answer

Do not pay any attention. I was a fat kid. I joined a gym in the bmnext town where nobody knew me. I was there to workout and not make friends. I started to see results and after a while I did make some friends there and really got in with the whole fitness lifestyle.

Don't give up. You will make progress. It takes time and effort. It will be worth it

Yannae · Answer

Yo congratz man! Good going on you! I would tell it to everyone. If it bothers you that they call you fat, you can let them know. If they're good friends they'll respect that wish and stop, if they don't, they're not good friends. You could also just say confidently that you started to lose weight, that in itself demands respect, because it's a change of lifestyle. I want to work out now.

Radiate143 · Answer

This really helped me.

Sharkstealth · Answer

I definitely do not see only 2 body types. Diet and cardio are the best things for trimming up. If it makes you feel better I to am very conscious of my body but it's the other way. Most girls don't like thin guys and it's very difficult for me to put on weight anyplace other than my gut.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Ignore all the noise but focus harder on yourself! Be your own best friend and worst enemy. Nobody else matters. Your life, your rules. Keep your head up. Don’t let negativity drown you. All the best ❤️

Daniela1982 · Answer

Then why do you have a guy profile if you are female? I smell troll!

BadApple69 · Answer

Don’t listen to what people say. You are working out… this is good and good for you. Don’t stop. Watch what you eat and lose weight and get stronger for you and you only.

Tinat · Answer

Just put in your mind that no matter what you do people would still think you are not good. Either fat or skinny, they would still criticize you, so just be yourself and do what you want and what you think is right for you, period

newboy78 · Answer

You just ignore the noises around you and keep working towards your goal. Consistency is the key.  Once you prove them wrong, then everyone will just stay mute. Keep it going!!

OtterMan68 · Answer

You're an  adult!  You sometimes have to do things that are not easy. You should at least feel good after you workout - a feeling of accomplishment. Do what is best for  your  health, not other people's opinions.

JacobJordan · Answer

Well you are 5'1" and you weigh 150 which is overweight. What you should do is keep working out and ignore them and once you are fit THEN you respond.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Ignore them and keep going, bro if I listened to my bd I would’ve never moved on and started going to the gym again. He’d call me hippo, over, and beast. No one is going to make that change but you.

JayBones · Answer

Cut the negative people out. Fuck them. Keep moving forward. Your doing this for you, not them.

RingOfFire · Answer

You have to decide if you are doing this for you or for them. If it is for you, then who cares what they say? If it is for them, you probably aren't in a mental state yet to be successful.

coachTanthony · Answer

So you want friends to lie and tell you how awesome you look? Would that motivate you? lol

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

You commit to every single rep

Pohjolan · Answer

Its okay to suck at the age of 19. You still have plenty of time for self-improvement. A few years from now, those comments will seem irrelevant if you keep going.

Anonymous · Answer

Just keep away from them lol. keep hitting the gym or go to another gym. Cause them overly criticizing you, won’t help you.

IloveWinters · Answer

Be yourself and believe in your aspirations. People will always have a view for sure. Take pride in your ownself and stick to routines and habits. It will give you confidence

Androktasia · Answer

just say that's the reason you're going there? or just ignore them, they are dumb

Anonymous · Answer

Their comments should be notational enough no? Also depends on how bad you want it. It’s not going to come to you, you have to put the work in.

Zoi99 · Answer

Call them out for fat shaming or record them and post their commit in a video.

Anonymous · Answer

Get yourself right and then you can motivate other people instead of making them feel worse about themselves. Be the change you want to see

Paris13 · Answer

IGNORE IGNORAMUSES. xxoo

SolitarySolace · Answer

Let that fact in and if itself motivate you.

genericname85 · Answer

who are you doing this workout thing for?

ab2shifty · Answer

Think of why you want to lose the weight

Anonymous · Answer

If you’re fat you’re fat

serious_miss419 · Answer

Get new friends

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

Lol.

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